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from time to time I think about this post, which I think remains in the top 0.01% of everything I have ever read https://t.co/TTSEBlL16T

Internet Culture 2023-07-11 · ♥ 176,412 · ⟲ 21,918 · 🔖 18,795 · Permalink · View on X

favorite subreddit I’ve discovered in a long while, /r/thatsabooklight, where people point out the mundane origins of movie props https://t.co/zyhJQuAQ2a

Film & TV 2025-02-26 · ♥ 137,029 · ⟲ 6,954 · 🔖 24,796 · Permalink · View on X

there's an incredible story going on in the mountaineering community rn. there's a Malaysian climber who was at death's door, and was rescued by a sherpa who risked his own life to carry his lifeless body on his back for 6 hours. The climber then blocked the sherpa on Instagram https://t.co/AJW70vJ3Kr

Sociocultural Commentary 2023-06-04 · ♥ 134,520 · ⟲ 17,516 · 🔖 7,834 · Permalink · View on X

we already live in a boring dystopia https://t.co/4feoT4DWSC

Sociocultural Commentary 2018-04-29 · ♥ 111,396 · ⟲ 40,416 · 🔖 1,780 · Permalink · View on X

free vpn installer tonight queen? https://t.co/sAUAEk5KLu

Observations & Humor 2023-12-18 · ♥ 72,926 · ⟲ 10,649 · 🔖 4,013 · Permalink · View on X

Guy describes how his friend is the group’s Airport Dad (takes everyone’s passports, double-checks everything, etc) the comments are full of ladies who wanna marry him https://t.co/K8vG9srMVw

Observations & Humor 2023-05-26 · ♥ 68,685 · ⟲ 5,863 · 🔖 4,650 · Permalink · View on X

this mf failed to detonate his shoe bomb once 22 years ago and now everybody everywhere has to take off their shoes at every airport forever until the end of time https://t.co/b2G0T9ZiKt

Transportation & Urban Life 2023-07-14 · ♥ 68,446 · ⟲ 3,376 · 🔖 1,326 · Permalink · View on X

for itsy bitsy https://t.co/aoC2x8ogtA

Observations & Humor 2024-08-12 · ♥ 61,611 · ⟲ 6,331 · 🔖 2,519 · Permalink · View on X

love this: awkward shy rejection-sensitive pimply asian guy asked 100 girls out on a date. 19 said yes! 10 were lesbian. concludes that he got over his fear of rejection in a single day https://t.co/7oocai2DLq

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-08-07 · ♥ 53,186 · ⟲ 2,152 · 🔖 4,566 · Permalink · View on X

kind of cool to know: a lot of celebrity Wikipedia pages have photos of them at comic con because there’s one guy (Gage Skidmore) who photographs them all https://t.co/xnsZWEf1Ox

Pop Culture & Entertainment 2023-10-10 · ♥ 50,479 · ⟲ 5,427 · 🔖 2,514 · Permalink · View on X

if I were to have a museum exhibit with something like “humanity in 500 objects” this would be one of the more important ones

Life & Meaning 2026-05-09 · ♥ 47,371 · ⟲ 1,890 · 🔖 1,322 · Permalink · View on X

casually dropped banger from The House Bunny (2008) https://t.co/aVBzOTJAW7

Film & TV 2023-12-27 · ♥ 42,432 · ⟲ 4,647 · 🔖 1,859 · Permalink · View on X

the tragic thing that I suppose lots of people have to learn the hard way is that getting people to care is an almost completely independent skill to acquiring achievements or accolades. it’s mostly storytelling actually

Art & Creativity 2023-08-20 · ♥ 42,354 · ⟲ 2,359 · 🔖 3,305 · Permalink · View on X

first real good 9/11 joke i've ever seen https://t.co/0Wi7VtHyBA https://t.co/1YymShDCFp

Observations & Humor 2023-06-09 · ♥ 35,734 · ⟲ 2,642 · 🔖 639 · Permalink · View on X

the bluetooth voice lady showed up on my tiktok so here you go. stick to the end for “bluetooth sad” https://t.co/nfjSwusT9y

Internet Culture 2024-10-19 · ♥ 35,341 · ⟲ 4,640 · 🔖 9,726 · Permalink · View on X

this remains to me one of the most interesting emails ever written https://t.co/GEXLlbvEyL

Art & Creativity 2024-06-11 · ♥ 34,671 · ⟲ 2,476 · 🔖 7,374 · Permalink · View on X

feel like I haven’t see a “there are too many podcasts, why is everyone trying to start a podcast” take in a while https://t.co/YA2yUWGa2n

Internet Culture 2024-01-01 · ♥ 34,671 · ⟲ 2,368 · 🔖 1,199 · Permalink · View on X

one thing ive learned as a serious-hobbyist media consumer is that if a movie like this is actually made, it will somehow end up being the most profound one with the actual richest understanding of the source material https://t.co/2PdkxOviVS

Film & TV 2023-11-26 · ♥ 34,165 · ⟲ 2,197 · 🔖 1,045 · Permalink · View on X

I can’t take Whiplash seriously because the premise is flawed; you don’t get good as a jazz drummer by becoming a human metronome. The whole thing has a cartoon model of musical excellence. Maybe it should’ve been a movie about sports instead https://t.co/u8AGnmmJuW

Film & TV 2024-05-26 · ♥ 29,442 · ⟲ 1,875 · 🔖 5,969 · Permalink · View on X

I like this photo I took when I was out on a walk today https://t.co/0B8vXzy57j

Art & Creativity 2023-12-25 · ♥ 23,754 · ⟲ 930 · 🔖 354 · Permalink · View on X

one thing about the japanese, they will develop a special interest in something and then do it better than you

Sociocultural Commentary 2025-05-02 · ♥ 22,794 · ⟲ 1,235 · 🔖 2,145 · Permalink · View on X

you can meet enough new people and build a new life amongst them well enough that the people in the former group become a comparatively insignificant rounding error https://t.co/mOJPcpSYsO

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-01-01 · ♥ 16,975 · ⟲ 1,329 · 🔖 1,005 · Permalink · View on X

an interesting thing about humans is that pretty much everyone gets at least 20% smarter when they’re doing pranks or other goofy shit. saw this in the military all the time

Psychology & Emotions 2025-03-05 · ♥ 16,691 · ⟲ 796 · 🔖 2,529 · Permalink · View on X

imo all apps with a 'for you' timeline should allow you to toggle a bizzaro switch and browse the 'NOT for you' timeline, just to feel what the opposite is like

Internet Culture 2025-02-02 · ♥ 16,406 · ⟲ 1,030 · 🔖 612 · Permalink · View on X

Arnold had an abusive alcoholic father. He was born in an Austrian village with ~2000 people and had little money. He started lifting weights, got so good at it, which took him to the US. Decided he wanted to do movies. Became huge star despite accent. Decided to do politics…

Pop Culture & Entertainment 2025-02-24 · ♥ 15,909 · ⟲ 609 · 🔖 2,959 · Permalink · View on X

collection of 4chan posts that are extended criticisms or analyses of something, hit me up with whatever comes to mind 1. john oliver https://t.co/X5ENzvxMoq

Internet Culture 2024-11-15 · ♥ 15,820 · ⟲ 1,416 · 🔖 15,317 · Permalink · View on X

excellent minute of a comedian getting a hot girl to do a side by side comparison of hot girl mannerisms https://t.co/H4958AXAJS

Pop Culture & Entertainment 2024-02-16 · ♥ 13,421 · ⟲ 651 · 🔖 4,645 · Permalink · View on X

for future ref, the recommended reading list at the back of the manual of The Sims https://t.co/LVOU1ZUxcd https://t.co/bNnUFU90r7

Books & Literature 2024-01-30 · ♥ 13,322 · ⟲ 1,838 · 🔖 5,343 · Permalink · View on X

@ritagayworths https://t.co/JeSK5jhV9e

Random 2026-01-16 · ♥ 12,685 · ⟲ 130 · 🔖 1,346 · Permalink · View on X

my 18mo will ask to see the inside of our fridge (“fridge? daddy? fridge?”) and then when I open it he’ll quietly whisper “wow”. which is really quite an appropriate response to modern commercial vapor-compression refrigeration systems

Romance, Parenting & Family 2025-05-09 · ♥ 12,542 · ⟲ 590 · 🔖 350 · Permalink · View on X

Request for Netflix show: ethnic aunties travelling and cooking together. An Indian aunty goes to Mexico and meets the local aunties there. And compare cooking recipes, and complain about their children. Repeat with aunties worldwide

Film & TV 2019-06-12 · ♥ 11,750 · ⟲ 2,926 · 🔖 102 · Permalink · View on X

when tiktok is good it’s really good lmao https://t.co/i0LmjnMi0Q

Internet Culture 2022-10-16 · ♥ 10,067 · ⟲ 2,533 · 🔖 806 · Permalink · View on X

when I was single I used to love talking with girls who had bfs. if they like you enough they introduce you to their single friends!! and warm intros are 1000x better than cold approaches

Romance, Parenting & Family 2025-05-20 · ♥ 9,965 · ⟲ 292 · 🔖 925 · Permalink · View on X

one thing i've noticed in the past 20+ years of being very online is that a lot of people who end up being really popular, get their early start from doing a gimmick, and then dropping it once they reach a critical mass. and people then often forget the gimmick within ~3-5 years

Internet Culture 2024-12-05 · ♥ 9,919 · ⟲ 505 · 🔖 1,274 · Permalink · View on X

kids feel the blues too big source around this age is that people no longer find you cute. now they scold you for making mistakes. mama’s too busy with the new baby. nobody claps and whoops and cheers for your accomplishments like they used to. you’re on your own now kid… https://t.co/ZVR69xJ3VS

Psychology & Emotions 2024-07-10 · ♥ 9,005 · ⟲ 826 · 🔖 1,154 · Permalink · View on X

this is a 1996 guide on how to help someone use a computer. it’s strikingly resonant with ‘how to be a parent’, or really ‘how to help anyone with anything’. a nice example of “the universal within the particular” https://t.co/pjGISo3RGt https://t.co/3n474p0a8j

Education & Learning 2024-03-17 · ♥ 8,790 · ⟲ 1,885 · 🔖 5,427 · Permalink · View on X

collecting notes on what seems to be an emerging story of animals being onboarded onto our superstimuli https://t.co/4xWC04Vjsv

Internet Culture 2023-09-10 · ♥ 8,735 · ⟲ 667 · 🔖 777 · Permalink · View on X

an interesting genre of pic is "celebrity as a bridesmaid at a friend's wedding" https://t.co/aLueik1w73

Pop Culture & Entertainment 2025-01-11 · ♥ 8,684 · ⟲ 241 · 🔖 992 · Permalink · View on X

one of life’s big “cheats” is: you can learn a lot by reading a lot and talking with a lot of people and thinking through it all

Education & Learning 2024-04-24 · ♥ 8,644 · ⟲ 1,383 · 🔖 1,523 · Permalink · View on X

periodic reminder to make smaller versions of the big things you’ve been dreaming about someday making but don’t have the resources to

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2026-01-27 · ♥ 8,640 · ⟲ 907 · 🔖 1,899 · Permalink · View on X

whenever my 18yo does something upsetting- smack one of his parents too hard, make too big of a mess, etc- he attempts to redirect our attention and reset the vibes by pointing and naming any object he recognizes. (Apple!)

Romance, Parenting & Family 2025-04-21 · ♥ 8,548 · ⟲ 112 · 🔖 371 · Permalink · View on X

@NateRybner @sqkanaa @oracles some screenshots of Baidu maps https://t.co/SIBTWPY5SV

Science & Technology 2025-06-15 · ♥ 8,507 · ⟲ 198 · 🔖 702 · Permalink · View on X

i have a ~140wpm typing speed, which often impresses people who aren't very online. like, all my life i was basically the fastest typer in any room i was in. once i posted a link to a typing speed game on here and like 5 people beat my ass immediately

Internet Culture 2026-03-18 · ♥ 8,323 · ⟲ 151 · 🔖 477 · Permalink · View on X

one of the funny things about life– hilarious when it happens to others, humbling when it happens to you– is meeting someone who’s casually, indifferently better at a thing than the median person who makes an identity out of it

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-01-12 · ♥ 8,313 · ⟲ 639 · 🔖 1,497 · Permalink · View on X

kids will say things like “strawberries taste better when I’m wearing my strawberry socks” and I bet they’re 100% right and this subtle sense of aesthetic gestalt is socialized out of us

Psychology & Emotions 2025-04-14 · ♥ 8,213 · ⟲ 527 · 🔖 578 · Permalink · View on X

I was editing a text transcript of a talk I gave recently, and was struck by how many of the ums and uhs and likes were load-bearing: once I removed them, the remaining text conveyed a degree of certainty that I did not intend and would not use in writing

Language & Linguistics 2026-02-09 · ♥ 7,983 · ⟲ 241 · 🔖 720 · Permalink · View on X

a while ago people were asking how come it took humanity so long to develop agriculture etc. i suspect the answer is basically this. innovations are deviations which threaten the prevailing social order and so they tend to get put down https://t.co/zBZOls8gMb

History 2024-01-17 · ♥ 7,975 · ⟲ 988 · 🔖 1,463 · Permalink · View on X

“I named my project MariaDB after my daughter Maria” - understandable, cute, wholesome “I named my project MySQL after my daughter My” - deranged, stroke-inducing, crime against grammar

Language & Linguistics 2026-01-13 · ♥ 7,946 · ⟲ 365 · 🔖 613 · Permalink · View on X

my mother-in-law often remarks “battery low already” when noticing that my 2yo is sleepy, and he picked it up from her to describe when he is sleepy. somewhat interesting. but it gets *real* interesting when he then says “gotta get another battery”. what could he mean by this

Romance, Parenting & Family 2026-01-29 · ♥ 7,553 · ⟲ 97 · 🔖 187 · Permalink · View on X

having kids turns you into a morning person the way being chased by a bear turns you a running person

Romance, Parenting & Family 2025-05-17 · ♥ 7,400 · ⟲ 551 · 🔖 476 · Permalink · View on X

when I was a kid so many adults used to tell me “when you have a child of your own then you will understand (why adults bully and manipulate and condescend to children)” and like yeah now I understand… that all those adults were wrong and messed up lol https://t.co/onrBEu48sg

Romance, Parenting & Family 2023-12-22 · ♥ 7,378 · ⟲ 842 · 🔖 398 · Permalink · View on X

wish my past selves internalized this better best i can do is internalize it now

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2026-02-20 · ♥ 7,311 · ⟲ 826 · 🔖 837 · Permalink · View on X

this is gonna sound like a bit, but i'm serious: if there's one thing i suspect might be a cure to all ills, it is good reply game. i'd argue that good reply game, in le guin's sense of "love is not a stone that sits there, love is bread that must be remade anew, daily", IS love https://t.co/c6Cx1rQ3CA

Friendship & Community 2024-07-29 · ♥ 7,236 · ⟲ 591 · 🔖 3,098 · Permalink · View on X

I just discovered the Pepsi rebranding slides from 2008 and it is truly breathtaking https://t.co/idhAbVWufp

Marketing & Branding 2018-10-25 · ♥ 7,054 · ⟲ 3,223 · 🔖 374 · Permalink · View on X

i'm happily married 10+ years with a wife and son who love me and i have none of that shit together lol. this is the "shiny lure" class of advice i was talking about. ime the only thing you actually need in a relationship is to know/learn how to relate to each other healthily https://t.co/j00J3M1pNq

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-04-10 · ♥ 7,031 · ⟲ 684 · 🔖 1,240 · Permalink · View on X

as it was foretold https://t.co/ROFdZomBxL

Random 2026-02-28 · ♥ 6,956 · 🔖 1,324 · Permalink · View on X

periodic reminder: have you taken a minute to write down what your actual problems are lately? the practice of properly describing a problem often reveals its solution

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-12-27 · ♥ 6,855 · ⟲ 682 · 🔖 1,823 · Permalink · View on X

one thing about people is that they love to contribute towards solving finite, observable problems with clear solutions. they’ll happily do it even at a moderate personal cost, because it feels so good to have made a tangible difference to something

Psychology & Emotions 2025-02-13 · ♥ 6,641 · ⟲ 373 · 🔖 679 · Permalink · View on X

these improover type memes somehow always have a glaring omission: the absence of cultivating a great peer group, friends, community

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2025-03-09 · ♥ 6,345 · ⟲ 249 · 🔖 1,164 · Permalink · View on X

imo: if you’re deliberate about “doing the reading”, whatever that means for any domain, within a year it’s possible to be in the top ~5% in the scene. This is because 95% of people don’t do the reading https://t.co/cGLCJf3hQV

Education & Learning 2024-06-10 · ♥ 6,343 · ⟲ 761 · 🔖 2,839 · Permalink · View on X

Friends, I have found,,, a salmon vending machine https://t.co/RyY2oj63Ln

Food & Dining 2019-02-25 · ♥ 6,275 · ⟲ 5,492 · 🔖 75 · Permalink · View on X

i'm so curious to understand the economics behind this business. have they actually built the thing? how much did it cost to make? what do they do if nobody buys it? how did they finance it? do they sell smaller subs? let's investigate https://t.co/ZOmAOEjKNd

Business & Markets 2024-02-05 · ♥ 6,191 · ⟲ 272 · 🔖 1,081 · Permalink · View on X

focus your time and energy on what you want to see more of

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2020-11-07 · ♥ 5,762 · ⟲ 1,586 · 🔖 2,547 · Permalink · View on X

a dairy cow eats ~100lbs of food and shits ~60lbs of hot stinky manure daily, you never see that in the pictures https://t.co/AjTygZAmDX

Observations & Humor 2024-07-20 · ♥ 5,749 · ⟲ 354 · 🔖 178 · Permalink · View on X

i figured this out by age ~6 and it made me miserable, occasionally even suicidal, until i was about 22- but after that it's basically been paradise. (there's an interesting parallel between how people flinch from the full truth of the lowest lows and the highest highs) https://t.co/hHFHydoYDP

Life & Meaning 2023-12-27 · ♥ 5,554 · ⟲ 303 · 🔖 771 · Permalink · View on X

pretty straightforward heuristic. i trust their cost-benefit analysis and so i'll do it when they do it

Psychology & Emotions 2025-04-12 · ♥ 5,375 · ⟲ 216 · 🔖 923 · Permalink · View on X

@SparrowAdorer bluetooth lady is hot so i’d bet the cash/payment lady must be too

Observations & Humor 2025-04-24 · ♥ 5,337 · ⟲ 54 · 🔖 1,554 · Permalink · View on X

yknow, I don’t recall a single man telling me, when I was growing up, how great it is to be a dad https://t.co/jKcVu2xSX1

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-05-13 · ♥ 5,136 · ⟲ 222 · 🔖 727 · Permalink · View on X

sharing this for all the mfs who ask if it's over for them at 27 https://t.co/fBL6MOMLI5

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-08-31 · ♥ 4,959 · ⟲ 459 · 🔖 1,283 · Permalink · View on X

was talking with a fellow dad who was struggling with making certain decisions, like when to be tough, when to indulge, how do you know if you’re going too far, etc. I found myself saying: just imagine that your child’s adult self is in the room watching you. in a sense, they are

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-10-31 · ♥ 4,926 · ⟲ 333 · 🔖 1,302 · Permalink · View on X

leaving out the years that he worked at AMD and LSI is a great eg of how a lionizing narrative works. it creates the impression of superhuman genius, which confers a valuable aura that has material impact on morale, negotiations, etc. Similar to “Singapore was a fishing village”

Sociocultural Commentary 2025-07-22 · ♥ 4,908 · ⟲ 273 · 🔖 571 · Permalink · View on X

there isn’t a special boy at the centre of it

Romance, Parenting & Family 2025-02-16 · ♥ 4,878 · ⟲ 332 · 🔖 376 · Permalink · View on X

when I was in the military I was responsible for a file, meant to track loans of certain items. one month my superior yelled at me for not bringing him the file. “but nobody loaned anything,” I said. “I don’t care!” he shouted. “your job is to bring me the file!” https://t.co/jxROIEqHl1

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-05-12 · ♥ 4,874 · ⟲ 77 · 🔖 288 · Permalink · View on X

before I had a toddler I vaguely assumed that development happens broadly, like a sea level rising steadily over the years. the reality of it seems much funnier. there are moments where a 2yo can seem strikingly lucid, like you would probably expect from a 5yo. then it collapses

Romance, Parenting & Family 2026-02-28 · ♥ 4,840 · ⟲ 53 · 🔖 215 · Permalink · View on X

2yo woke up from his nap, said "give me a high five. give me a high five, daddy", received his high five, said thank you and went right back to sleep. what could he mean by this

Observations & Humor 2026-03-27 · ♥ 4,828 · ⟲ 126 · 🔖 79 · Permalink · View on X

my wife and i are v clear w each other and our 2yo son that it’s okay to cry. despite this, he’s heard “don’t cry” so often from relatives and strangers that he now says it out loud to himself whenever he cries. it really makes me update my understanding of emotional suppression

Romance, Parenting & Family 2025-11-06 · ♥ 4,804 · ⟲ 180 · 🔖 273 · Permalink · View on X

nobody is coming to do an honest audit of your time and energy for you only you can face the truth of how you are living your life, and whether it’s the life you know in your heart you are actually capable of living

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2025-01-10 · ♥ 4,801 · ⟲ 611 · 🔖 1,554 · Permalink · View on X

@inholyflux_ omelette du fromage

Observations & Humor 2025-04-20 · ♥ 4,789 · ⟲ 52 · 🔖 41 · Permalink · View on X

https://t.co/6ByJCyVJao

Random 2025-02-07 · ♥ 4,708 · ⟲ 291 · 🔖 411 · Permalink · View on X

futuristic cups and bottles? ice cream bowls and vases https://t.co/NRYKyE3Wjo

Film & TV 2025-02-26 · ♥ 4,623 · ⟲ 50 · 🔖 109 · Permalink · View on X

I’ve sold thousands of books to people all over the world, including people from Mexico, Indonesia, Honduras, Namibia, Uzbekistan, Mozambique, Morocco, Philippines… and yet for some reason, the dozens of people who’ve asked for a discount all come from the same one country

Sociocultural Commentary 2025-03-16 · ♥ 4,584 · ⟲ 144 · 🔖 445 · Permalink · View on X

my wife is a smart sensible woman and it seemed sensible to both of us that it would be a good idea for her to socialize with other moms online and it seems like every day she is just being bombarded with horror stories https://t.co/vOaLiswqAE

Internet Culture 2023-08-28 · ♥ 4,517 · ⟲ 231 · 🔖 486 · Permalink · View on X

Same Student 10-Minute Timelapse https://t.co/REIJz3sBXd

Art & Creativity 2021-10-09 · ♥ 4,496 · ⟲ 711 · 🔖 409 · Permalink · View on X

@owenbroadcast relevant xkcd (325) alt text: “you can do this one in every 30 times and still have 97% positive feedback” https://t.co/WeDKj36sZP

Internet Culture 2025-07-22 · ♥ 4,456 · ⟲ 86 · 🔖 163 · Permalink · View on X

whenever people say things like “I don’t want to bring children into this horrible world” I ponder about the people who had kids during the Black Death, when it felt like God was actually abandoning humanity in real time. maybe those people didn’t see parenthood as a choice

Life & Meaning 2024-07-05 · ♥ 4,392 · ⟲ 187 · 🔖 509 · Permalink · View on X

from time to time I’m reminded that the Internet has ruined me https://t.co/HsCrCgylJk

Internet Culture 2024-03-03 · ♥ 4,372 · ⟲ 265 · 🔖 133 · Permalink · View on X

🥱 https://t.co/I3keJsSQuP https://t.co/HftEZOpu12

Observations & Humor 2024-06-16 · ♥ 4,342 · ⟲ 359 · 🔖 204 · Permalink · View on X

for starters I don’t think you’re selfish for not having children and kids actually are a joy to have but if you need a different reason, I really liked what some other couple once said, about wanting to have “a maximum human experience”. I’ll elaborate how I interpreted that

Romance, Parenting & Family 2025-01-23 · ♥ 4,338 · ⟲ 309 · 🔖 2,362 · Permalink · View on X

we made a lil guy https://t.co/BPp4KOvAjc https://t.co/RPnmuHLt3f

Observations & Humor 2023-10-24 · ♥ 4,335 · ⟲ 78 · 🔖 129 · Permalink · View on X

nietzsche has a quote that's like, "insanity is rare in individuals, but in groups it is the rule". over the years as i've participated in all sorts of groups i've come to see more clearly how and why this is true

Psychology & Emotions 2024-01-31 · ♥ 4,333 · ⟲ 377 · 🔖 1,037 · Permalink · View on X

this was me up until ~27. i still occasionally have a bit of it. ymmv, but in my journey my understanding has been, the way out is through. you can't banish the gut reaction. rather you gotta find a way to be deeply immersed in the feeling "I am safe, I am loved, I am cared for" https://t.co/7zw70kEoHc

Psychology & Emotions 2024-08-23 · ♥ 4,300 · ⟲ 304 · 🔖 1,457 · Permalink · View on X

@OGgranolabar @illegalth0t same energy https://t.co/qraUdMvtMA

Pop Culture & Entertainment 2023-09-04 · ♥ 4,287 · ⟲ 40 · 🔖 54 · Permalink · View on X

Oscar Wilde: "It's absurd to divide people into good and bad. People are either charming or tedious."

Philosophy 2025-05-31 · ♥ 4,172 · ⟲ 263 · 🔖 645 · Permalink · View on X

just binge-watched all(?) 25 episodes of Solo Leveling, an anime brave enough to ask “what if our protagonist just kept becoming more powerful and just kept defeating everyone effortlessly and also became handsome and sexy and rich and everyone fears and respects him?” https://t.co/OBbdNTma8B

Film & TV 2026-05-09 · ♥ 4,030 · ⟲ 151 · 🔖 296 · Permalink · View on X

@nicoleaimee @katiehannigan “once you’ve dug yourself into a deep pit... keep digging” - archaeologists

Observations & Humor 2019-08-31 · ♥ 3,934 · ⟲ 140 · 🔖 11 · Permalink · View on X

a culture undersecretary who actually gets culture https://t.co/ZltTfl4vUh

Politics, Culture & Identity 2024-07-17 · ♥ 3,925 · ⟲ 248 · 🔖 337 · Permalink · View on X

market value should really be called market sentiment https://t.co/DPsh5bTCoU

Business & Markets 2024-05-13 · ♥ 3,917 · ⟲ 288 · 🔖 116 · Permalink · View on X

a fun thought experiment i like to give people is, 1. imagine you're dating someone who is basically identical to you psychologically/emotionally etc, same worries n anxieties and pet peeves etc 2. how would you drive each other insane? what would ya'll fight about? https://t.co/WcZdtZfr05

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-04-24 · ♥ 3,910 · ⟲ 366 · 🔖 1,670 · Permalink · View on X

if you havent in a while, i recommend going somewhere nice and sitting with the question, "what do i really want, anyway?"

Life & Meaning 2024-05-08 · ♥ 3,908 · ⟲ 725 · 🔖 1,192 · Permalink · View on X

i'm always fascinated by how some kids have better theory of mind than some adults. it's always funny because it's sort of unfinished/imperfect, but this gets completely lobotomized from a lot of people https://t.co/745SXKTiBe

Psychology & Emotions 2023-09-24 · ♥ 3,907 · ⟲ 184 · 🔖 382 · Permalink · View on X

me: I love you wife: how much me: why this obsession with quantification wife: what gets measured gets managed

Romance, Parenting & Family 2016-04-16 · ♥ 3,876 · ⟲ 895 · 🔖 688 · Permalink · View on X

the stuff you joke about (even ironically or whatever) has a way of shaping your reality so be careful and deliberate with that stuff. a lot of people out here fumbling their own bags by joking about outcomes they don’t want. you might as well joke about the outcomes you do want

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2021-05-18 · ♥ 3,817 · ⟲ 587 · 🔖 1,443 · Permalink · View on X

Only just learned about students from Singapore’s top girls’ school getting into trouble for praying to the school’s statue of Athena 😂 frankly I’m with the girls, I think it’s a perfectly reasonable thing to do. You put a goddess of wisdom statue & you expect girls not to stan? https://t.co/1AnwlxPtpy

Sociocultural Commentary 2022-03-22 · ♥ 3,798 · ⟲ 1,333 · 🔖 166 · Permalink · View on X

this hits extra hard if you’re a writer with a baby 🥲 https://t.co/bC41lcZHkj

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-10-21 · ♥ 3,767 · ⟲ 280 · 🔖 942 · Permalink · View on X

this was part of my reasoning when proposing to my wife when we were 22. If it didn’t work out in 5 years, as long as we didn’t have kids yet we could be 27yo divorcees with basically no downside https://t.co/64yn4coBTu

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-07-10 · ♥ 3,761 · ⟲ 140 · 🔖 503 · Permalink · View on X

the yin-yang theory of everything: people want a little outside in their inside a little inside in their outside a little hot when it’s cold a little cold when it’s hot a little light when it’s dark a little dark when it’s light etc etc

Philosophy 2026-02-11 · ♥ 3,725 · ⟲ 494 · 🔖 607 · Permalink · View on X

the most sick overpowered skill i unlocked in my 30s that wouldve been incomprehensible god-mode to my teen and early 20s selves is that ive learned how to enjoy being misunderstood

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-01-11 · ♥ 3,703 · ⟲ 260 · 🔖 1,057 · Permalink · View on X

@enrondripgod technically all flowering trees are cum trees https://t.co/XJTCsn04cc

Observations & Humor 2021-02-02 · ♥ 3,689 · ⟲ 35 · 🔖 17 · Permalink · View on X

some people, upon seeing this, may experience a flash of insight that reconfigures their entire model of human expression and behavior https://t.co/SSwpygNcos

Psychology & Emotions 2023-09-07 · ♥ 3,682 · ⟲ 328 · 🔖 818 · Permalink · View on X

my wife is watching a video of a guy recite prime numbers for 3 hours and she’s getting flustered and angry at some of the numbers

Observations & Humor 2022-11-08 · ♥ 3,672 · ⟲ 154 · 🔖 55 · Permalink · View on X

just a PSA; did you know: you can discuss your relationship issues with your partner before doing anything drastic like breaking up suddenly with no context? I’ve been hearing from multiple people that their partners did not seem to know this

Romance, Parenting & Family 2023-12-03 · ♥ 3,640 · ⟲ 242 · 🔖 527 · Permalink · View on X

growing up in singapore in a hindu family i never really understood our religious practices until i went to my grandpa's village in india and witnessed the moon and the night sky and the bewitching quality of fire in absolute darkness https://t.co/NYB2R4iDWk

Religion 2024-04-09 · ♥ 3,628 · ⟲ 241 · 🔖 794 · Permalink · View on X

the more functional you are— high-agency, wisdomous, whatever you wanna call that nested nexus of having ability and the meta-ability to manage that ability— the more obvious it becomes that whatever situation you're in is largely what you have enabled and allowed

Philosophy 2025-01-26 · ♥ 3,546 · ⟲ 286 · 🔖 1,330 · Permalink · View on X

king shit 👑 https://t.co/8hKWlqMesr

Random 2023-05-10 · ♥ 3,471 · ⟲ 835 · 🔖 240 · Permalink · View on X

@skylxrksays George Michael - Careless Whisper.mp3 https://t.co/y0hT7dPs6b

Pop Culture & Entertainment 2018-10-01 · ♥ 3,459 · ⟲ 697 · 🔖 13 · Permalink · View on X

Every so often i get a reply that confuses the hell out of me for several beats before i realize they’ve mistaken me for vivek ramaswamy https://t.co/V62VAsYkWH

Internet Culture 2024-11-27 · ♥ 3,454 · ⟲ 104 · 🔖 141 · Permalink · View on X

a lot of loneliness plays out like this: people accumulate past grievances that they feel have not been appropriately heard. they front-load interactions with this (eg complaining about ex on first date), which makes other people feel unheard. this perpetuates the wretched cycle

Psychology & Emotions 2024-07-22 · ♥ 3,437 · ⟲ 234 · 🔖 984 · Permalink · View on X

giving a shit. it was always giving a shit

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2026-01-12 · ♥ 3,405 · ⟲ 241 · 🔖 421 · Permalink · View on X

there are several interesting things to be said about the mass Ghibli event First thing is that people don’t often know in advance what they’d want out of a tool until they see it for themselves. “generate any image you can think of!” draws a blank for lot of people

Internet Culture 2025-03-26 · ♥ 3,380 · ⟲ 154 · 🔖 775 · Permalink · View on X

sometimes I experience a flash of insight that feels like a real breakthrough, and then I find out I had the exact same insight years ago but didn’t quite manage to translate it into meaningful action. which is sobering, humbling and sometimes kinda ominous experience

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-02-17 · ♥ 3,377 · ⟲ 497 · 🔖 585 · Permalink · View on X

I do love being 30. My favourite age yet. I have money. I have time. I have friends. I have health. I have everything I ever wanted. Adults take me seriously. Kids look up to me. Women of all ages flirt with me. My parents are still healthy. It’s perfect. I am very blessed

Life & Meaning 2021-03-08 · ♥ 3,373 · ⟲ 139 · 🔖 255 · Permalink · View on X

this seems correct to me and it also seems like a really glaring example of JBP's internal conflict that seems to be eating him alive; he is not in alignment with his own stated principles https://t.co/jySWJPwmyF

Politics, Culture & Identity 2024-07-24 · ♥ 3,365 · ⟲ 94 · 🔖 364 · Permalink · View on X

attraction in a sustained relationship is a creative act if you see the other person as like a tv show that you’re watching, you’ll eventually get bored to be in a happy relationship is to realize you are the authors, that you are cocreating the someones that you are becoming

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-12-02 · ♥ 3,363 · ⟲ 298 · 🔖 1,143 · Permalink · View on X

I generally try to stay clear of giving people “you should do this” type of advice, but I think one thing I do wanna push for is: you should try to get your ass out of your hometown, to somewhere on the other side of the planet, ideally in your early 20s. Save up, spend a month

Travel & Place 2024-06-04 · ♥ 3,357 · ⟲ 232 · 🔖 972 · Permalink · View on X

@PressHerald same energy https://t.co/BeBo9xSkaC

Observations & Humor 2020-09-01 · ♥ 3,356 · ⟲ 161 · 🔖 16 · Permalink · View on X

once again discovering that a few minutes of thinking through a problem on paper was more effective than vaguely ruminating about it in my mind for weeks

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-07-04 · ♥ 3,321 · ⟲ 467 · 🔖 383 · Permalink · View on X

once you learn to shoot your shot just right you basically inhabit a completely different reality than 99.9% of people and it just looks like the world magically opens doors for you https://t.co/XlM1bsUR7x

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-02-14 · ♥ 3,314 · ⟲ 241 · 🔖 1,766 · Permalink · View on X

it is the greatest joy to be mogged by your kids https://t.co/4zaeneBSgO

Romance, Parenting & Family 2026-05-04 · ♥ 3,306 · ⟲ 76 · 🔖 200 · Permalink · View on X

@jackcalifano Netflix similarly said their biggest competitor is sleep

Pop Culture & Entertainment 2025-04-28 · ♥ 3,305 · ⟲ 36 · 🔖 60 · Permalink · View on X

if you condensed all of human history into one year, we started agriculture and moving into permanent settlements somewhere around 3-6pm on December 31st

History 2025-11-23 · ♥ 3,280 · ⟲ 126 · 🔖 339 · Permalink · View on X

the podcaster wants to be a comedian, the comedians want to be musicians and athletes, and those guys wanna be entrepreneurs, and the entrepreneurs wanna be public intellectuals, and the public intellectuals wanna be heads of state, and the heads of state want to be podcasters

Sociocultural Commentary 2026-03-27 · ♥ 3,253 · ⟲ 297 · 🔖 421 · Permalink · View on X

if you’re sufficiently charismatic, people who are attracted to you will thirst over specific “ordinary” features - even body parts - in ways that they wouldn’t when someone else without that quality has those same features. A lot of people seem to misunderstand how this works

Psychology & Emotions 2023-08-17 · ♥ 3,248 · ⟲ 267 · 🔖 1,160 · Permalink · View on X

My wife predicts divorces & failed relationships with stunning accuracy and I have learned a few of her tricks relationships are fucking hard, and to work they need a sort of functional “economy” (gratitude, laughter, kindness) and waste elimination system (pain, resentment)

Romance, Parenting & Family 2018-08-16 · ♥ 3,183 · ⟲ 931 · 🔖 845 · Permalink · View on X

There’s an interesting story here to be told about how the men think they’re talking to each other but maybe it’s actually the women who are controlling the conversation

Sociocultural Commentary 2018-12-02 · ♥ 3,144 · ⟲ 571 · 🔖 41 · Permalink · View on X

i’ve never encountered anything more interesting than my son. “you’re biased because its your kid” is of course true and it is the *point*. imagine looking in a mirror but its both you and your favorite person mixed together and it’s alive and independent. enchanting, bewitching

Romance, Parenting & Family 2023-11-04 · ♥ 3,131 · ⟲ 225 · 🔖 369 · Permalink · View on X

one of the many great examples of how something seemingly frivolous (an industry focused on “make car go fast”) led to lives being saved once you really internalize the implications of this, you never dismiss anything as frivolous ever

Philosophy 2025-10-19 · ♥ 3,128 · ⟲ 332 · 🔖 756 · Permalink · View on X

every act of avoidance reinforces avoidance as a strategy, and consecrates the thing avoided as A Thing To Be Avoided

Psychology & Emotions 2025-12-11 · ♥ 3,127 · ⟲ 399 · 🔖 830 · Permalink · View on X

I’ve personally helped several hundred people with their problems at this point and one of the most widespread issues was they were previously thinking of focus or attention span as something fungible, like a commodity, when it always turns out to be more like love and caring

Psychology & Emotions 2025-01-18 · ♥ 3,124 · ⟲ 187 · 🔖 2,835 · Permalink · View on X

imo there's a similarity here re: how to make social reality less barren. host more dinner parties and meetups, introduce people to each other. ecologize. incubate healthier social norms in small containers and then when that becomes strong, invite and support more people https://t.co/XOrBQXCrYz

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-04-28 · ♥ 3,112 · ⟲ 371 · 🔖 791 · Permalink · View on X

people asking for advice are often looking for something like "wear mouth tape" or "use blackout blinds" or some other bandaid intervention, but the deeper, truer solution to most persistent problems is more like "reconstitute your entire life around different fundamentals"

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-12-19 · ♥ 3,110 · ⟲ 348 · 🔖 1,134 · Permalink · View on X

@PopCulture2000s home button used to be a birdhouse 🥲 tweet button was a feather quill 🥲🥲

Internet Culture 2024-06-12 · ♥ 3,106 · ⟲ 131 · 🔖 35 · Permalink · View on X

everything changed when the girl I was dating got disowned by her family for it. felt like I got sucked into a vortex of adulthood. it broke and remade almost everything in me. got married, got a flat, got a job- in that order. it took my in-laws about a decade to come around https://t.co/AFg8aR08oV

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-09-16 · ♥ 3,093 · ⟲ 55 · 🔖 477 · Permalink · View on X

what are the best stats to pump on a baby’s skill tree in the early game? I think Wave Hand is OP, because they can then use it in public at strangers and this has like a 30-50% Charm bonus which leads to more interactions which is more XP

Observations & Humor 2024-12-13 · ♥ 3,070 · ⟲ 88 · 🔖 375 · Permalink · View on X

lots of people live like this https://t.co/UaHDOIzP9V

Life & Meaning 2024-06-05 · ♥ 3,022 · ⟲ 209 · 🔖 409 · Permalink · View on X

protip: whenever you feel compelled to say “that sounds boring”, swap it for “what do you like about it?” and watch your social life flourish as people begin to enjoy your company https://t.co/jtBNAbibCF

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-08-07 · ♥ 3,004 · ⟲ 341 · 🔖 496 · Permalink · View on X

I’ve gotten thousands of DMs over the years from people telling me about their problems. Here’s one interesting pattern/cluster I’ve noticed, which I’d loosely describe as “anxious self-flagellating ambitious guy who desires greatness but refuses to learn from his mistakes”

Psychology & Emotions 2024-04-19 · ♥ 2,997 · ⟲ 285 · 🔖 2,217 · Permalink · View on X

people keep saying TED talks died because TedX diluted the brand and there’s a truth to that but I have an even bleaker proposition, which is that the TED talk *won*, and has become the invisible implicit default frame for everything. It’s no longer necessary bc it’s everywhere

Media & Journalism 2026-05-03 · ♥ 2,948 · ⟲ 109 · 🔖 262 · Permalink · View on X

imo only builders have the mindset of “I could build that in 45 minutes”. you could cook a meal in 45 minutes and you still getting doordash or whatever. most of your real customers are the same, they wanna pay to make the problem go away

Business & Markets 2025-02-10 · ♥ 2,900 · ⟲ 142 · 🔖 442 · Permalink · View on X

one of the most depressing forms of internet illiteracy to me is when parents seem oblivious to the potential consequences of posting undignified/unflattering pictures and videos of their kids. we have already seen this play out with the kids of some of the early family bloggers

Internet Culture 2024-08-03 · ♥ 2,895 · ⟲ 169 · 🔖 224 · Permalink · View on X

I was getting emotional listening to my wife soothe my son in the next room, cooing and whispering to him in tones I can only describe as sacred. Suddenly she beckons me over in distress, help, come help, come help now. I rush over. There is a large pigeon on the windowsill.

Observations & Humor 2023-12-07 · ♥ 2,875 · ⟲ 68 · 🔖 174 · Permalink · View on X

I love Dan’s work, so simple and elegant and also… what’s the word for this… reorienting? unfamiliar yet familiar, which is the essence of art

Art & Creativity 2025-07-06 · ♥ 2,841 · ⟲ 103 · 🔖 356 · Permalink · View on X

I trade up for a 10% better wife every year, she just happens to be the same human I started dating 20 years ago Meanwhile I keep hearing from people people who underestimated the switching costs when you’re trying to migrate your meaning ecosystem to a whole new partner

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-02-05 · ♥ 2,838 · ⟲ 159 · 🔖 543 · Permalink · View on X

at almost every threshold there are a bunch of people who set up a basecamp where they discuss how to cross the threshold. some of those people do go on to cross the threshold, but those people tend to then become incomprehensible to most of those who are still in basecamp

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-11-27 · ♥ 2,823 · ⟲ 194 · 🔖 1,468 · Permalink · View on X

@crazyclips_ she has answers https://t.co/sLT13V7UFG

Random 2025-04-16 · ♥ 2,813 · ⟲ 114 · 🔖 1,274 · Permalink · View on X

babies seem to start reciprocating prosocial behavior earlier than i thought they would. i went in kinda assuming that kids are naturally supposed to be selfish/narcissistic until they're like 3+ years old or something, but my 1yo tries to feed me his food, offers me playthings

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-11-15 · ♥ 2,805 · ⟲ 77 · 🔖 267 · Permalink · View on X

the more and better access everyone has to tools, resources, etc, the clearer it becomes that the final boss bottlenecks are courage, imagination and giving a shit

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-07-01 · ♥ 2,792 · ⟲ 452 · 🔖 827 · Permalink · View on X

always lol @ this pattern of tweet "absolutely heartbroken to report that exercise is good for you" "crying, screaming at the discovery that going for a walk in the sunshine does actually boost my mood" "saddened to learn that hanging out with people who love me is joyous" https://t.co/kEenNvjfbv

Observations & Humor 2024-04-25 · ♥ 2,768 · ⟲ 292 · 🔖 485 · Permalink · View on X

in 2019, Scott Alexander wrote a review of The Body Keeps The Score, with an initial conclusion of "Overall, I was not too impressed with this book." A few weeks later, he updated the review with an anecdote of a patient's recovery that IMHO is more interesting than the review https://t.co/tbGLQSSz1M

Books & Literature 2023-04-30 · ♥ 2,709 · ⟲ 279 · 🔖 1,457 · Permalink · View on X

We need an Eastern European LLM https://t.co/QVw9XCMRtY

Science & Technology 2025-04-14 · ♥ 2,708 · ⟲ 153 · 🔖 416 · Permalink · View on X

fwiw: if your gf of 2.5 years says you’re marriage material but not hookup material, all you gotta do typically is hit the gym hard for 3-6 months and maybe accumulate some skill/status in some domain you have a shared interest in. pure upside, can’t lose

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-08-10 · ♥ 2,684 · ⟲ 79 · 🔖 646 · Permalink · View on X

a thing that took me 5+ years to learn, maybe closer to 10 years – and I resisted it for a long time – is something very foundational about attention sovereignty. basically you begin with the premise that your attention is extremely valuable and you allocate it like a VIP

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-07-31 · ♥ 2,657 · ⟲ 247 · 🔖 1,810 · Permalink · View on X

once you keep an eye out for people conflating intelligence with courage you see it everywhere https://t.co/V2Wkqxazry

Psychology & Emotions 2024-03-07 · ♥ 2,649 · ⟲ 200 · 🔖 849 · Permalink · View on X

sometimes people think their bottleneck is willpower but it’s actually the absence of a supportive context

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2025-04-30 · ♥ 2,622 · ⟲ 285 · 🔖 891 · Permalink · View on X

i used to agonize about this for years. i came to see that the agonizing is itself unproductive, lol. like an athlete who refuses to rest because he's not performing at 100%, when rest is required to perform. the ideal end-state is to transcend simplistic notions of productivity, https://t.co/ZVCURi2XmD

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-04-07 · ♥ 2,618 · ⟲ 371 · 🔖 725 · Permalink · View on X

@TylerAlterman i'm guessing whenever those things happen they just become a part of us. like our gut flora, the mitochondria in our cells, etc. we're just like "i like it. you are me now"

Observations & Humor 2023-12-12 · ♥ 2,600 · ⟲ 38 · 🔖 61 · Permalink · View on X

@justkiddingjeez @delia_cai @lewing99 in case u wanna know: a panopticon is a bit of prison architecture designed to make sure that the prisoners are always (pan) being watched, or feel like they’re being watched (opticon) https://t.co/wRvnrhCYzU

Education & Learning 2022-03-17 · ♥ 2,585 · ⟲ 55 · 🔖 135 · Permalink · View on X

young kids (2yo) will get a software update and then get gravely offended when you ask them if they’re going to do what they had done their whole lives until 30 seconds ago https://t.co/IVyy8MB5kH

Observations & Humor 2026-05-16 · ♥ 2,584 · ⟲ 67 · 🔖 114 · Permalink · View on X

fascinating. i went to look up the original post because this is so interesting to me. particularly the second paragraph where they list out everything they've "tried", which seems like successful processes (audience, paying customers), before listing out the failed outcomes... https://t.co/jq7Hg8C4Ib

Work & Ambition 2024-01-24 · ♥ 2,583 · ⟲ 194 · 🔖 3,385 · Permalink · View on X

@jeanpiconsuegra it’s like the sans serif version of a heavy metal band https://t.co/SCUzQYx7Qd

Art & Creativity 2025-09-20 · ♥ 2,574 · ⟲ 18 · 🔖 112 · Permalink · View on X

wife: wait so you're just gonna buy the $99 headphones without doing any research? me: yea wife: what if there's a better one at the same price or cheaper? me: i don't care, i'm happy with what I got! wife: ...was this how you decided to marry me me: ... yes?

Romance, Parenting & Family 2022-12-06 · ♥ 2,553 · ⟲ 123 · 🔖 200 · Permalink · View on X

undefeated https://t.co/Wti3FO3Hw8

Random 2024-12-09 · ♥ 2,531 · ⟲ 254 · 🔖 126 · Permalink · View on X

@hazalea_ or, https://t.co/wMa7w3cqVm

Random 2020-09-26 · ♥ 2,515 · ⟲ 150 · 🔖 48 · Permalink · View on X

@DrWendyRocks saved this because it cracked me up https://t.co/vYHCk2zV4s

Observations & Humor 2021-10-10 · ♥ 2,513 · ⟲ 176 · 🔖 66 · Permalink · View on X

lmfao i forgot i made this. it was out of frustration with people who don't appreciate that creatives have to make okay works before they can make great works https://t.co/IiAf7CoU8w

Art & Creativity 2024-01-03 · ♥ 2,496 · ⟲ 204 · 🔖 280 · Permalink · View on X

just had the happiest moment of my life: giving my son a bath while my wife plays peekaboo with him from behind my back. he giggles with the purest joy I have ever witnessed. nothing else comes close

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-03-08 · ♥ 2,488 · ⟲ 83 · 🔖 189 · Permalink · View on X

was walking around a shopping mall when my wife casually dropped a “I’m so excited to have your baby” and every other compliment I‘ve ever received in my life just got demoted to a lower category

Romance, Parenting & Family 2023-07-06 · ♥ 2,488 · ⟲ 108 · 🔖 160 · Permalink · View on X

*taps mic* people wanna be fuckable more than they wanna fuck

Romance, Parenting & Family 2019-02-13 · ♥ 2,451 · ⟲ 601 · 🔖 905 · Permalink · View on X

fun example of how you can live your life doing the things everyone else is doing but like in a silly way

Observations & Humor 2024-10-25 · ♥ 2,424 · ⟲ 148 · 🔖 230 · Permalink · View on X

fwiw: I started plotting “how do I get out of mainstream rat race wagie life” when I was about 17, and it took about 12 years to play out and pay off. I believe it can be done faster than that if you have the right support (I didn’t until I was ~23). imo 5 years if you’re srs https://t.co/UiRPHcI07u

Work & Ambition 2024-06-29 · ♥ 2,408 · ⟲ 135 · 🔖 1,295 · Permalink · View on X

Japanese art professor visits the Sagrada Familia, is so awestruck that he moves there, learns Spanish, converts to Catholicism, gets baptized, and impresses everyone so much that they make him Chief Sculptor now that’s what you call committing to the bit https://t.co/pgetfekQvc

Art & Creativity 2023-10-10 · ♥ 2,406 · ⟲ 253 · 🔖 444 · Permalink · View on X

I use this phrase so often that my wife picked it up from me not knowing the source, and I just witnessed her saying it to our baby. Much to think about. https://t.co/8tJoHLgk5z

Life & Meaning 2024-06-01 · ♥ 2,388 · ⟲ 68 · 🔖 239 · Permalink · View on X

having a clear vision for what you want sometimes feels almost like a sickening advantage over people who are navigating by social consensus

Work & Ambition 2024-01-25 · ♥ 2,385 · ⟲ 287 · 🔖 799 · Permalink · View on X

Wife and I were laughing about this last night: the thing nobody quite tells you about marriage is: you’re choosing the person in life who’s going to upset, disappoint annoy and frustrate you more than anybody else

Romance, Parenting & Family 2018-11-07 · ♥ 2,384 · ⟲ 461 · 🔖 1,352 · Permalink · View on X

view counts before and after you find product-market fit (ig: the_groove_engineer) https://t.co/eo1sAzFN2M

Internet Culture 2023-12-25 · ♥ 2,364 · ⟲ 110 · 🔖 323 · Permalink · View on X

@kylegordon101 I’ve watched this so much I’ve started looking for details like yo that’s the cameraman using an iphone https://t.co/dUK7TeOqZm

Pop Culture & Entertainment 2023-08-02 · ♥ 2,350 · ⟲ 27 · 🔖 17 · Permalink · View on X

we fucked up when we switched from excellent metaphors like web-surfing and hyperlinking and internet exploring and netscape navigating. We were voyagers. Now yall doomscroll. wtf is that. If you’re gonna face the doom, be a doomsurfer. a doomslayer. [BFG Division theme hits]

Internet Culture 2023-10-11 · ♥ 2,344 · ⟲ 240 · 🔖 163 · Permalink · View on X

i think every culture has something that seems completely normal within the culture, but looks weird to outsiders. i'd like to collect a list of such things, so: what's something you've witnessed in another culture that surprised you re: how normalized it was?

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-10-14 · ♥ 2,339 · ⟲ 79 · 🔖 852 · Permalink · View on X

There is an art to replying and commenting, and probably like 60-70% of people I’ve seen on the internet fail at it. The important thing is not to speak your mind, but to “support” the OP. You can support them by disagreeing well & you can “mis-support” them by agreeing stupidly

Internet Culture 2018-09-11 · ♥ 2,337 · ⟲ 469 · 🔖 2,075 · Permalink · View on X

since i was a kid i kept seeing variations of this idea being expressed. the president is an idiot. the boss is a fool. the mogul is a clown. and people would be arguing about whether that assessment was correct or wrong. and that in turn struck me as the wrong frame entirely https://t.co/r70WgmQe3C

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-03-16 · ♥ 2,333 · ⟲ 147 · 🔖 1,368 · Permalink · View on X

my belief: there's never been a maxed out person. we've never seen it happen. they've never existed. name whoever is your all time GOAT 'maxed out person', von neuman or einstein or whatever. they could've done even more/better if they had better support https://t.co/NL4YAKdXTW

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-07-23 · ♥ 2,322 · ⟲ 163 · 🔖 427 · Permalink · View on X

I say this with love: over the years I’ve been repeatedly surprised to discover that a lot of professionals in a lot of creative fields, have excellent micro-detail-management/execution, but somehow kinda mid taste when it comes to the gestalt of what they are doing

Art & Creativity 2024-10-25 · ♥ 2,289 · ⟲ 78 · 🔖 906 · Permalink · View on X

a lot of what it takes to do interesting work, or become an interesting person, requires muddling through intermediate steps that look silly, stupid or even “bad” to other people. steps that are basically “unjustifiable”

Work & Ambition 2023-12-24 · ♥ 2,280 · ⟲ 239 · 🔖 671 · Permalink · View on X

I love that the original spirit of trolling is still alive and well https://t.co/I1AsT7RH9E

Internet Culture 2024-11-20 · ♥ 2,277 · ⟲ 57 · 🔖 125 · Permalink · View on X

A thing I do casually, that took me a while to realize few other people do, is I sorta keep mental tabs on people’s backstories. who was homeschooled? whose parents were divorced? who were raised by alcoholics? who had an abusive ex? people seem quick to forget these details

Psychology & Emotions 2024-08-17 · ♥ 2,266 · ⟲ 109 · 🔖 417 · Permalink · View on X

thanks I hate it https://t.co/SV51AuaYYq https://t.co/DPQzPhMaMB

Observations & Humor 2024-01-06 · ♥ 2,264 · ⟲ 156 · 🔖 36 · Permalink · View on X

https://t.co/qsujxTlT6U

Random 2025-12-21 · ♥ 2,241 · ⟲ 85 · 🔖 56 · Permalink · View on X

even ordinary everyday eyesight is hallucinated to a degree that will trouble people when they find out the full extent of it https://t.co/k7cB5r7OW7

Psychology & Emotions 2023-11-14 · ♥ 2,226 · ⟲ 144 · 🔖 386 · Permalink · View on X

One must imagine Sisyphus excited, stoked, so happy to announce that he’ll be rolling a stone up a hill for all eternity! This is a great opportunity for him to really develop his career. What an amazing journey. All the best on your ceaseless ordeal, Sisyphus! Excited for you

Observations & Humor 2018-07-03 · ♥ 2,205 · ⟲ 520 · 🔖 47 · Permalink · View on X

@theharoldlard @RizzHOF potus1: washington potus2: adams potus3: jefferson potus4: madison potus5: monroe

History 2023-08-07 · ♥ 2,186 · ⟲ 4 · 🔖 6 · Permalink · View on X

local clothes retailer Giordano clearly using AI-generated images in its National Day ads wife didn’t believe me for a few seconds until I started pointing out the details, extra fingers being an obvious clue https://t.co/j7Roe8ed2R

Science & Technology 2023-07-06 · ♥ 2,179 · ⟲ 673 · 🔖 116 · Permalink · View on X

this is the animation equivalent of my frustration with most mainstream writing, which is that everybody uses the same goddamn grammar https://t.co/3qQZqzpgr7

Writing 2024-01-02 · ♥ 2,177 · ⟲ 151 · 🔖 529 · Permalink · View on X

when i was about 20 or 21, i ran a half-marathon without training, thinking that it would make regular runs feel like a breeze. i woke up the next morning feeling like i had been in a car accident. and... regular runs didn't feel any easier afterwards either

Health, Fitness & Body 2025-02-14 · ♥ 2,176 · ⟲ 33 · 🔖 146 · Permalink · View on X

so many things are like this. it’s easier to learn chess with fewer pieces on the board rather than the whole set. it’s easier to learn music with a subset of the keys rather than all of them. we are still so early when it comes to being any good at teaching anything

Education & Learning 2025-01-07 · ♥ 2,172 · ⟲ 149 · 🔖 1,024 · Permalink · View on X

one of the things that masters of good reply game do is great callbacks. I’ll start with a dieworkwear example and then point at several of my own https://t.co/9Xoq8h3c18

Language & Linguistics 2023-10-05 · ♥ 2,162 · ⟲ 87 · 🔖 374 · Permalink · View on X

i once went down a deep rabbithole out of curiosity to learn more about this lady – her name is Crystal Thierry, she recently-ish turned 40 years old, she strikes me as funny and smart and sort of a proto-egirl from the early 2000s before everything got algo-optimized https://t.co/yDlDkGjxTQ

Pop Culture & Entertainment 2023-06-07 · ♥ 2,154 · ⟲ 97 · 🔖 992 · Permalink · View on X

@deelalz https://t.co/9yDMxBjUib

Random 2018-09-01 · ♥ 2,149 · ⟲ 256 · 🔖 11 · Permalink · View on X

replies are a great example of how health is invisible to the healthy https://t.co/DIXv7cS6Eh

Psychology & Emotions 2024-02-03 · ♥ 2,142 · ⟲ 113 · 🔖 903 · Permalink · View on X

@Aella_Girl most elegant solution would be to informally introduce them to another dying 13yo with the same wish

Observations & Humor 2021-09-25 · ♥ 2,139 · ⟲ 32 · 🔖 15 · Permalink · View on X

acquaintance: I wanna write but I don’t wanna write mediocre stuff me: first write it mediocre. then write an explainer articulating precisely how and why it is mediocre. this explainer will strongly imply how to make it non-mediocre. and from there you can write the good stuff

Writing 2024-02-03 · ♥ 2,133 · ⟲ 235 · 🔖 929 · Permalink · View on X

some of the replies to this are a great example of what i mean when i talk about the cycle of wretchedness: a non-trivial % of people want anybody who is struggling/incompetent to basically f*ck off and die alone https://t.co/kYct61EcEH

Sociocultural Commentary 2023-09-15 · ♥ 2,119 · ⟲ 148 · 🔖 388 · Permalink · View on X

anybody got that CS lewis quote that goes something like, "just because misery exists somewhere doesn't mean it should be allowed to suspend joy everywhere else"? i'm definitely misremembering it, but I can't seem to find anything similar on goodreads

Books & Literature 2025-03-27 · ♥ 2,108 · ⟲ 91 · 🔖 528 · Permalink · View on X

OK https://t.co/qazZDEHGyi https://t.co/cfPNsuATor

Random 2023-04-03 · ♥ 2,108 · ⟲ 471 · 🔖 77 · Permalink · View on X

@yelyahwilliams @brianrobertjone @LindseyByrnes next album https://t.co/gstiJpCuVV

Music 2020-07-14 · ♥ 2,105 · ⟲ 258 · 🔖 12 · Permalink · View on X

if we play our cards right https://t.co/65KsVIYWuC

Observations & Humor 2020-04-30 · ♥ 2,088 · ⟲ 530 · 🔖 473 · Permalink · View on X

I would totally be bored of sleeping with the same damn person for 10+ years the solution in my case is that neither me nor my wife are the same damn persons we were last year tho this solution isn’t accessible to wider society bc people conform to static images of themselves https://t.co/xA8S64DMhj

Romance, Parenting & Family 2023-10-05 · ♥ 2,083 · ⟲ 120 · 🔖 422 · Permalink · View on X

"joe rogan is curious dumb chieftain" is a sticky trope– i wouldn't even describe myself as a rogan fan but lemme queue up a little snippet of joe doing something really incisive that more guys oughta learn how to do https://t.co/LnlSpUO53i

Pop Culture & Entertainment 2024-04-14 · ♥ 2,058 · ⟲ 62 · 🔖 809 · Permalink · View on X

sometimes a big problem has a small solution and people hate to hear it because they feel that their big problem deserve a big solution

Philosophy 2023-11-26 · ♥ 2,055 · ⟲ 345 · 🔖 324 · Permalink · View on X

she got the role because of this tweet. we play with live ammo around here. know the outcomes you want and shoot your shots accordingly!! https://t.co/6XzxuWidA0

Internet Culture 2024-03-20 · ♥ 2,044 · ⟲ 139 · 🔖 357 · Permalink · View on X

Its sooo much better than i even imagined. nothing compares 🥹 https://t.co/VTc0IQPTKS https://t.co/wmmWXvcr0T

Music 2024-07-29 · ♥ 2,039 · ⟲ 26 · 🔖 51 · Permalink · View on X

this is gonna sound fake but i swear its real: I eavesdrop a lot on random conversations around me, when i'm buying coffee etc, and in the past few months i've witnessed *multiple* teenage girls talking with each other about how useful AI is vs how they're supposed to hate it

Sociocultural Commentary 2026-05-18 · ♥ 2,036 · ⟲ 62 · 🔖 400 · Permalink · View on X

when my wife was 20 years old, she had a falling out with her parents, left home, paid for rent, ate biscuits and cup noodles, and saved up for a solo trip to europe where she visited germany and the netherlands by herself. as a 32yo man i am still inspired by that 20yo girl https://t.co/W7xFgnABnJ

Romance, Parenting & Family 2023-05-12 · ♥ 2,032 · ⟲ 103 · 🔖 211 · Permalink · View on X

i feel like i've heard/seen a bunch of stories over the years along the lines of, "man's wife gets pregnant, gives birth, he now finds her disgusting/unattractive, and starts lusting after perfect pretty young women" this is almost backwards for me personally,

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-04-17 · ♥ 2,023 · ⟲ 62 · 🔖 494 · Permalink · View on X

same the worst parts of being a parent have been about 10% as bad as i was led to believe and psychologically/emotionally prepare for the best parts of being a parent have been like 5000% better than i dared to believe maybe i'm lucky/blessed but that's my experience https://t.co/uWWs71KQBg

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-04-16 · ♥ 2,018 · ⟲ 110 · 🔖 380 · Permalink · View on X

tangentially, this is a fascinating example of someone who doesn’t have any real familiarity what they’re saying. all the emphases are on the wrong syllables

Language & Linguistics 2025-06-03 · ♥ 2,017 · ⟲ 39 · 🔖 478 · Permalink · View on X

sometimes the door is marked “pull” https://t.co/3b0lOfEwh6

Observations & Humor 2024-02-04 · ♥ 2,015 · ⟲ 171 · 🔖 299 · Permalink · View on X

ever since my son was born (19mo), my family life has been full of tremendous, indescribable joy— but at the same time my professional/creative life has withered severely. i haven't really talked much publicly about how that side of things has been a struggle on multiple fronts

Life & Meaning 2025-06-11 · ♥ 1,995 · ⟲ 31 · 🔖 463 · Permalink · View on X

The most beautiful thing I ever read about grief was written 9 years ago by a redditor called GSnow https://t.co/DX8gaWd5zn https://t.co/hUw0RMN5oT

Life & Meaning 2020-10-22 · ♥ 1,994 · ⟲ 464 · 🔖 1,300 · Permalink · View on X

even kings and billionaires wanna be poasters and podcasters

Internet Culture 2025-03-07 · ♥ 1,992 · ⟲ 120 · 🔖 131 · Permalink · View on X

a secret sneak peek inside Google HQ https://t.co/kq6KQXFUzx

Science & Technology 2023-09-27 · ♥ 1,988 · ⟲ 133 · 🔖 79 · Permalink · View on X

this is true for me too and i think it’s part of why ive always been somewhat skeptical about top-down “time management”. feels fake to me. to me time has always been strange and squishy and slippery and squelchy

Work & Ambition 2024-07-21 · ♥ 1,964 · ⟲ 142 · 🔖 386 · Permalink · View on X

there's so much personality in how little humans move that it becomes obvious that the suppression of movement is depersonalizing

Health, Fitness & Body 2024-01-11 · ♥ 1,962 · ⟲ 158 · 🔖 346 · Permalink · View on X

great example of someone receiving a large ask and appropriately right-sizing it into something smaller (and eventually delivering on the large ask too, but that one day was perfect even and especially if he couldn’t follow through for whatever reason)

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2025-04-09 · ♥ 1,961 · ⟲ 84 · 🔖 430 · Permalink · View on X

@VictorPopeJr I’ll get lasik the day my local hospital’s lasik doctors get it https://t.co/j9lxEqZuRH

Health, Fitness & Body 2023-10-31 · ♥ 1,960 · ⟲ 168 · 🔖 132 · Permalink · View on X

🌹 https://t.co/PFOcqKi8qk

Random 2023-01-23 · ♥ 1,959 · ⟲ 272 · 🔖 147 · Permalink · View on X

what are the slept-on movies from the 90s? so lets set aside the big names like titanic, jurassic park, lion king, forrest gump, the matrix, etc. my vote is for Contact (1997) – my favorite scifi film yet, and the reason I couldn't fully enjoy Arrival, Interstellar, Her, etc

Film & TV 2024-08-04 · ♥ 1,955 · ⟲ 85 · 🔖 1,578 · Permalink · View on X

if you make a really good plan and you stick to it really hard you can protect yourself from letting anything transcendently amazing happen to you

Philosophy 2023-12-26 · ♥ 1,941 · ⟲ 192 · 🔖 340 · Permalink · View on X

some of the adults and authority figures in my life called me lazy when i was a kid and it's kind of just starting to click for me that at some point I was like, "yea, well, would a lazy person do THIS?" and subjected myself to sleep deprivation for decades

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-01-06 · ♥ 1,937 · ⟲ 108 · 🔖 149 · Permalink · View on X

as I spend more time away from the internet– being with my family, being in nature, reflecting on my childhood– it’s become clearer to me that lots of my frenetic online poasting over the years was a coping mechanism, a response to feeling fragmented, disconnected, unlovable

Psychology & Emotions 2025-10-26 · ♥ 1,931 · ⟲ 88 · 🔖 534 · Permalink · View on X

I have several variations of the following recommendation: 1. practice hanging out with people without talking about The Thing that you’ve made Central in your life

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-03-08 · ♥ 1,912 · ⟲ 197 · 🔖 787 · Permalink · View on X

brought my 3mo son to my 75yo dad’s bday and it’s so amazing to witness 1sthand how the presence of a new baby reinvigorates the entire family. older children excited to become uncles and aunts, uncles and aunts reeling at seeing their own babies play with a baby, it’s tremendous

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-01-20 · ♥ 1,908 · ⟲ 75 · 🔖 143 · Permalink · View on X

the great tactician is capable of winning difficult battles that the great strategist knows how to avoid entirely

Philosophy 2025-03-22 · ♥ 1,880 · ⟲ 195 · 🔖 479 · Permalink · View on X

having a child means you no longer need to look for life lessons in obscure things. the lesson is now climbing and drooling all over you, smiling at you, screaming in your face, etc. eventually the lesson will want friends and want to live its own life and that too is a lesson

Life & Meaning 2024-04-09 · ♥ 1,878 · ⟲ 153 · 🔖 277 · Permalink · View on X

“i never loved you actually, i was faking the whole time” is such a hideously cruel thing to say to someone in a breakup, i almost feel like it should be criminalized. i know *multiple* people who’ve been more fucked up by an ex saying that, than by things like getting mugged

Romance, Parenting & Family 2023-11-16 · ♥ 1,869 · ⟲ 159 · 🔖 330 · Permalink · View on X

you don’t win by being less of a loser (minimizing negative variance), you win by winning (maximizing positive variance). I believe that the misunderstandings around this has cost the species quadrillions of $ worth of potential

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-10-16 · ♥ 1,869 · ⟲ 188 · 🔖 624 · Permalink · View on X

this was my primary mode of being from ages 10-25. I then listened to some Alan Watts, put the metaphorical gun down, and a large swath of my problems promptly began solving themselves https://t.co/cGIdPJZkDT

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-01-31 · ♥ 1,866 · ⟲ 105 · 🔖 1,195 · Permalink · View on X

when I was young I figured out a bunch of solutions to a bunch of problems and I thought it would make people love me lol but it actually alienated me from them, and it’s turns out it’s roughly because people identify with their problems

Psychology & Emotions 2025-01-03 · ♥ 1,857 · ⟲ 127 · 🔖 423 · Permalink · View on X

if "just do it" somehow doesn't work, try "just do a smaller version of it"

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-04-10 · ♥ 1,847 · ⟲ 351 · 🔖 322 · Permalink · View on X

a little joke anecdote I think about a lot: guy goes to fishing shop and sees all the lures and he’s like wow! do fishes like the lures more because they’re so shiny and colourful? and fishing shop guy says, my boy, I don’t sell to the fish

Marketing & Branding 2021-07-30 · ♥ 1,846 · ⟲ 254 · 🔖 309 · Permalink · View on X

maybe a little early to say this and I’ll get my ass kicked for it, or I’m delusional, etc, but one week in, I’d say caring for a newborn is not even in the top 10 most difficult things I’ve had to do. I was bombarded with so many warnings. Bro being a teenager was harder for me

Romance, Parenting & Family 2023-10-27 · ♥ 1,837 · ⟲ 67 · 🔖 142 · Permalink · View on X

sometimes when i have a problem and i'm not solving it, i sit down to write an explanation of why i am having the problem, and the explanation strikes me as so cringe that i end up solving the problem in a kind of cheerful embarrassment

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-09-02 · ♥ 1,834 · ⟲ 126 · 🔖 646 · Permalink · View on X

it’s funny to remember that I’ve had dinner with two of these guys. one of them pointed at me and said “you’re Tamil, right? your people really perfected modern suicide bombing!” the other was basically convinced that social media was haunted by demons out for him personally https://t.co/0UqZKaZfp8

Observations & Humor 2024-07-05 · ♥ 1,826 · ⟲ 58 · 🔖 301 · Permalink · View on X

the range of “real jobs” is so much wider than anybody who ever tells you to “get a real job” thinks it is https://t.co/ANcnRf9Q7Q

Work & Ambition 2024-08-15 · ♥ 1,817 · ⟲ 140 · 🔖 230 · Permalink · View on X

my hypothesis for this is that a lot of the people who ended up writing/producing tv shows were vindictive nerds who resented and envied popular kids, and pop culture end up being a product of their hallucinations https://t.co/YdjM2GK6OQ

Pop Culture & Entertainment 2024-02-24 · ♥ 1,814 · ⟲ 106 · 🔖 227 · Permalink · View on X

when i was a kid i would disproportionately be asked by teachers "visakan do you have something you would like to share with the class?" - it happened so often that i started preparing and refining material to share with the class

Education & Learning 2024-02-15 · ♥ 1,809 · ⟲ 37 · 🔖 122 · Permalink · View on X

what interested me the whole time about the pronoun stuff was never even gender but rather the emergence of what we might call mandatory disclosure. there are a bunch of cultural norms around 🏳️‍🌈 pride etc that don’t seem to consider that some ppl might just wanna be left alone https://t.co/bwV7WUQjYJ

Politics, Culture & Identity 2024-08-29 · ♥ 1,794 · ⟲ 74 · 🔖 345 · Permalink · View on X

had dinner with the very charming and thoughtful @dwarkesh_sp! https://t.co/cMc7VYvAZx

Friendship & Community 2025-06-18 · ♥ 1,776 · ⟲ 7 · 🔖 62 · Permalink · View on X

@stresscry indeed. and when ur an adult you’re like, eh fuck it shit disappears all the time. nature can have one fucked up sinkhole as a treat. the real question is where did my time go? where did my joy go? what mysterious triangle did that disappear into?

Life & Meaning 2021-03-21 · ♥ 1,771 · ⟲ 72 · 🔖 28 · Permalink · View on X

when I saw “light up into flames” I was expecting like, little sparks or maybe something like you’d see from an oil lamp. holy hell

Observations & Humor 2025-05-29 · ♥ 1,769 · ⟲ 79 · 🔖 152 · Permalink · View on X

@Variety Bale also finds it funny

Pop Culture & Entertainment 2025-04-16 · ♥ 1,769 · ⟲ 65 · 🔖 514 · Permalink · View on X

the way to get good at something is practice and study. ~95% of the time when someone asks “how did that person get so good at that thing”, the answer is “lots of practice and study”. music? writing? fitness? socializing? chess? basketball? whatever it is: practice and study https://t.co/3WyYhosdPF

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-11-16 · ♥ 1,753 · ⟲ 256 · 🔖 462 · Permalink · View on X

(Examples in replies) I’ve talked about this with many lady friends over the years n it’s just a v funny blind spot, the mirror of how a lot of men don’t realize what it’s like to be women. A lot of women have 0 training in “how to not be creepy”- why would they? U learn from xp https://t.co/MyUODotUwf

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-01-08 · ♥ 1,746 · ⟲ 50 · 🔖 463 · Permalink · View on X

this is me btw

Random 2025-02-19 · ♥ 1,743 · ⟲ 137 · 🔖 248 · Permalink · View on X

from time to time i hear from an old friend, "I used to post online like you but i stopped after i got married, had kids– now i no longer need validation from strangers" and it's so... tragic to find out that despite doing similar things, we had completely different motivations

Internet Culture 2024-07-10 · ♥ 1,743 · ⟲ 86 · 🔖 234 · Permalink · View on X

very skilful and nuanced frame from a school priest on the death of a bully https://t.co/V7c0sUFHT5

Religion 2025-06-25 · ♥ 1,742 · ⟲ 67 · 🔖 239 · Permalink · View on X

i used to assume that all married couples have less sex and probably worse sex after they have kids, based on popular culture, hearsay, internet complaints, etc but turns out this is NOT true for everyone, you just dont hear so much from happy couples (they're too busy fucking)

Romance, Parenting & Family 2025-04-29 · ♥ 1,739 · ⟲ 55 · 🔖 299 · Permalink · View on X

one thing i've noticed repeatedly is that many small biz owners (n=30?) who used to have their own websites generally stopped updating them around 2017-ish, and the only thing that's they're really still active on is Instagram. It does makes sense bc its easier to post + reply

Internet Culture 2024-07-25 · ♥ 1,726 · ⟲ 27 · 🔖 251 · Permalink · View on X

2yo has begun modifying his requests (“can I have X? Give me Y?”) to refer to himself in 3rd person (“give him a lollipop please!”) and I think I figured it out: he’s imitating the last thing the adults in his life say to each other before he *actually* gets something 😂

Romance, Parenting & Family 2025-12-16 · ♥ 1,723 · ⟲ 39 · 🔖 56 · Permalink · View on X

since becoming a parent I’ve updated on just how significant social environments are. I was already at “yeah obviously they’re significant” and now I’m like “sure, you’re saying that but if you truly realized the extent of it you’d update almost everything else to account for it”

Romance, Parenting & Family 2026-01-29 · ♥ 1,711 · ⟲ 56 · 🔖 361 · Permalink · View on X

https://t.co/Pg9n2uvIHa

Random 2026-03-02 · ♥ 1,707 · ⟲ 76 · 🔖 183 · Permalink · View on X

even during Baghdad’s golden age, thinkerbros grumbled that the public preferred food bloggers: “If you write about fish and vegetables, you garner much merit in the public’s eyes, but if you expound truly scientific subjects, they find it irksome and boring.” – Abd al-Quddus

Sociocultural Commentary 2023-10-15 · ♥ 1,703 · ⟲ 210 · 🔖 181 · Permalink · View on X

always entertaining to see men who believe that women can't be funny or smart get shocked when a funny-and-smart anon on the internet turns out to be a woman https://t.co/ZLoe6rNFRK https://t.co/TSpchUho5v

Politics, Culture & Identity 2023-06-22 · ♥ 1,701 · ⟲ 120 · 🔖 81 · Permalink · View on X

@randypaint they sentenced him to death for being too edgy https://t.co/pLxvAQpldR

Observations & Humor 2020-03-11 · ♥ 1,701 · ⟲ 63 · 🔖 12 · Permalink · View on X

the funniest effect of gaining 10kg+ of mostly muscle is thinking I'd be able to do all these before/after pics that make me feel good about looking better, but then i now look at the before pics and think that actually i looked good then too

Health, Fitness & Body 2024-04-24 · ♥ 1,694 · ⟲ 25 · 🔖 143 · Permalink · View on X

i've spent many years– actually now two decades– circling around articulations of things that felt obvious to me that seemed to elude the people in my social reality. rn i'm feeling that at the core of a lot of it is "you can figure stuff out" and "you can talk to people"

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-08-19 · ♥ 1,681 · ⟲ 78 · 🔖 598 · Permalink · View on X

a lot of people fantasize about money n status as a proxy for having freedom to do what they really want. interesting thing is that if you're specific about what you really want, you'll often find there are more accessible paths to get there that dont require as much as u think

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2022-10-09 · ♥ 1,681 · ⟲ 170 · 🔖 530 · Permalink · View on X

was talking a friend through a catastrophizing episode where he was like “I have no evidence that I’ll ever be capable of anything” and I said “well if you look at a 1yo there’s no evidence they will ever walk or talk”. All growth is about doing tomorrow what you can’t do today

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2025-01-08 · ♥ 1,680 · ⟲ 186 · 🔖 364 · Permalink · View on X

this did work out for me lol https://t.co/QYkHeJmaDO

Random 2024-02-29 · ♥ 1,679 · ⟲ 88 · 🔖 202 · Permalink · View on X

this is like being mad that a solar eclipse is ruining your sunrise watching plans https://t.co/JxddMzEziu

Observations & Humor 2024-04-24 · ♥ 1,675 · ⟲ 106 · 🔖 76 · Permalink · View on X

how you look gets you in the door, but making it largely boils down to whether you got that dawg in you. and most people don't. and that's ok. this general principle is a hard one to swallow; you'll see talented people with great potential in every domain give up every day

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2025-02-11 · ♥ 1,669 · ⟲ 68 · 🔖 413 · Permalink · View on X

just accompanied a lady friend swiping thru a dating app/site and I am reevaluating the “80% women go for the top 10% of attractiveness men” stat fucken guys don’t even take decent pictures of themselves, almost every dude is giving himself like an unnecessary 20-40% handicap

Sociocultural Commentary 2023-03-20 · ♥ 1,669 · ⟲ 82 · 🔖 208 · Permalink · View on X

since i was kid i always wondered why things weren't better. i've probably spent thousands of hours thinking and reading and talking about this. my current assessment is something like, there first needs to be a healthy culture where people can openly discuss how to do better

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-01-03 · ♥ 1,668 · ⟲ 149 · 🔖 352 · Permalink · View on X

i used to hate getting people gifts but now i kinda love them. the trick is to NOT ask "what do i get this man" or "what do i get this woman", that's lazy corporate advertising/marketing imposed on tired/busy people. the winning question is "what kinda fucken freak is this mf?" https://t.co/SPwaZ4rGUp

Observations & Humor 2023-12-10 · ♥ 1,665 · ⟲ 114 · 🔖 392 · Permalink · View on X

borrowed this from the library on a whim and really enjoying it so far, so eloquent and comprehensive thx for writing it @anthrowittering https://t.co/g6gz3CdJEe

Books & Literature 2025-09-27 · ♥ 1,661 · ⟲ 128 · 🔖 1,291 · Permalink · View on X

My favorite essay of all time was written in 2011, and pretty much predicted the inevitability of today's culture wars (because it happened throughout history over and over again with the advent of each new piece of new media tech) https://t.co/iAmVULAp7Z https://t.co/m7qBdier6V

Sociocultural Commentary 2018-01-25 · ♥ 1,660 · ⟲ 381 · 🔖 946 · Permalink · View on X

I am once again reminded that one of the great psychic divides is between people who’ve made/sold stuff in the open marketplace, and people who haven’t

Business & Markets 2021-04-30 · ♥ 1,657 · ⟲ 261 · 🔖 518 · Permalink · View on X

I had a very high-trust relationship with my ex-boss. he said this gently and kindly and it’s stuck with me: he said something like “Visa, if you’re leaving to run away from your problems, you should know that your problems are inside you and will follow you everywhere you go”

Work & Ambition 2024-11-12 · ♥ 1,656 · ⟲ 103 · 🔖 423 · Permalink · View on X

@JamTeezy @priya_ebooks apparently any sort of warmth or humanity is weakness that must be sacrificed on the altar of economic growth

Politics, Culture & Identity 2020-03-27 · ♥ 1,656 · ⟲ 55 · 🔖 9 · Permalink · View on X

you can have a very happy life being chosen by 1% of people https://t.co/mwkfuEtsdV

Life & Meaning 2023-10-08 · ♥ 1,652 · ⟲ 63 · 🔖 83 · Permalink · View on X

I used to think this from 2002-2015 and it fucked me up 😅. Maybe it works for some people, but my exp taught me I that can’t win a war with myself. What finally worked for me was to realize I had to negotiate a peace with the “saboteur”, who really just wants us to be safe

Psychology & Emotions 2025-02-11 · ♥ 1,650 · ⟲ 113 · 🔖 427 · Permalink · View on X

I think I have tweeted enough. 250,000+ tweets is more than enough for anyone. I’ve said basically everything there is to say. gotta know when it’s time to step away… so long and thanks for all the good times

Internet Culture 2025-04-01 · ♥ 1,645 · ⟲ 30 · 🔖 101 · Permalink · View on X

this is ~basically me i never even really set out to be this person, as a kid I thought I would be a STEMlord honestly, but i was so often in situations where nobody was stepping up to do this, and it was so obviously a valuable thing to do, for everyone involved https://t.co/MNN70ibIul

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-11-17 · ♥ 1,637 · ⟲ 62 · 🔖 520 · Permalink · View on X

chattin with some friends who Get It about how so many people are so unserious, so absent, so distracted, so caught up in past hallucinations... that social reality ends up bending for anybody who's just actually present

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-09-12 · ♥ 1,634 · ⟲ 108 · 🔖 606 · Permalink · View on X

few things are as unwelcome as a solution to a problem that people build an identity out of having

Psychology & Emotions 2023-11-03 · ♥ 1,634 · ⟲ 236 · 🔖 257 · Permalink · View on X

guy: how do I make great art picasso: make 50,000 pieces guy: ur kidding picasso: im not

Art & Creativity 2019-11-28 · ♥ 1,634 · ⟲ 338 · 🔖 885 · Permalink · View on X

@JSMilbank my favorite suggestion to combat this misunderstanding:

Random 2025-12-23 · ♥ 1,628 · ⟲ 26 · 🔖 33 · Permalink · View on X

reviews and social proof for my book Introspect, the thread (buy it here: https://t.co/pWry0F4w7I)

Marketing & Branding 2022-02-03 · ♥ 1,627 · 🔖 712 · Permalink · View on X

@benjrainwrite https://t.co/2uknWoq8VB

Random 2022-07-07 · ♥ 1,621 · ⟲ 92 · 🔖 18 · Permalink · View on X

when i carry my 18mo toddler like this and go about my errands, he waves and says hi to every single stranger and they all laugh and smile and wave back. i get more joy directed my way in minutes than i used to get in years sometimes https://t.co/AiIKjJ8l72

Romance, Parenting & Family 2025-04-27 · ♥ 1,601 · ⟲ 46 · 🔖 68 · Permalink · View on X

1,300,000 views on a video of an abandoned subway station being power washed… in powerwash simulator https://t.co/aYLonfmoDk

Games 2023-06-17 · ♥ 1,600 · ⟲ 59 · 🔖 85 · Permalink · View on X

i met my wife when we were 9, kissed at 14, married at 22, baby at 33. if u ever wonder why i am such an insufferable fucken beam of sunshine, that’s a p significant part of it 😇😂 (sometimes i worry if sharing this makes me unrelatable lol but the honesty pact overrules it) https://t.co/4iId8YcRvd

Romance, Parenting & Family 2023-11-02 · ♥ 1,594 · ⟲ 40 · 🔖 136 · Permalink · View on X

I stuck out my tongue at my baby and he stuck his tongue out back at me, repeated several times, this is the best day of my life

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-05-11 · ♥ 1,588 · ⟲ 57 · 🔖 69 · Permalink · View on X

sometimes i see someone who’s down bad who would be tremendously better off if they made the tiniest of changes, but i know from experience they’re exceedingly unlikely to react positively to the suggestion. Here it is for someone who might be more receptive:

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-11-13 · ♥ 1,586 · ⟲ 69 · 🔖 890 · Permalink · View on X

I think a lot about a line from Steve Jobs that I don’t see quoted very often, which is when someone asked him ~“whatcha working on” and he said something like “I’m waiting for the next opportunity” https://t.co/1LYbhpxiY7

Work & Ambition 2024-09-04 · ♥ 1,580 · ⟲ 90 · 🔖 479 · Permalink · View on X

i'm always looking for inspiration on how to organize things beautifully, and today i hit jackpot on garden landscape pinterest https://t.co/taS1fnBDyB

Art & Creativity 2025-06-23 · ♥ 1,578 · ⟲ 65 · 🔖 1,156 · Permalink · View on X

i just got off a call with my first consulting client since my son was born, and i stepped out of my study and saw my wife and child giggling and playing in bed, and my heart swelled with so much joy i felt like my body could explode into pieces https://t.co/YHfwCMN1N3

Life & Meaning 2024-03-19 · ♥ 1,575 · ⟲ 47 · 🔖 174 · Permalink · View on X

sometimes when i journal a bunch i write a sentence that just bursts my heart open and floods me with relief. today that sentence is, "i've been living in fear of getting it wrong, but when i look back i realize i've been doing it wrong the whole time anyway, and i'm still here"

Life & Meaning 2023-11-14 · ♥ 1,573 · ⟲ 179 · 🔖 271 · Permalink · View on X

one of the worst traps for a thinking person imo is to spend loads of time theorizing and refining their theories about populations (most men… most women… most employers…) etc instead of getting good at seeking exceptional people to work and play with

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2025-02-06 · ♥ 1,565 · ⟲ 129 · 🔖 358 · Permalink · View on X

in both cases it involves playing stereotypes straightforwardly with lots of heart, which is very challenging for any creative to pitch to their peers, since it’ll sound cheesy and simplistic. this is also why haters so often do the best marketing; they reduce you to essentials https://t.co/msMFSA8iTE

Art & Creativity 2026-01-20 · ♥ 1,561 · ⟲ 94 · 🔖 247 · Permalink · View on X

All it takes to make a difference https://t.co/yiJIE04YLy

Observations & Humor 2019-09-20 · ♥ 1,561 · ⟲ 385 · 🔖 109 · Permalink · View on X

a silly pet peeve of mine is people using phrases like “4D chess, 6D chess”, etc when thinking several steps ahead is straightforwardly doable in good ol’ 2d chess

Observations & Humor 2023-11-23 · ♥ 1,559 · ⟲ 51 · 🔖 55 · Permalink · View on X

respectfully, this is true of all powerful magic in the hands of untrained/unskilled wielders. and we see a lot of discourse about the relative costs and benefits of all the magical devices and practices, but comparatively little about what it means to become more skilful

Philosophy 2024-12-15 · ♥ 1,558 · ⟲ 107 · 🔖 487 · Permalink · View on X

the year is 2045. @stewart is still trying to make a decent goddamn video game. he has now sold his 4th company for five trillion dollars, built from the wreckage of yet another failed games studio. https://t.co/0foHlDBZmf

Games 2020-12-01 · ♥ 1,553 · ⟲ 289 · 🔖 88 · Permalink · View on X

in the 5+ years I worked for my ex-boss Dinesh, he constantly, casually-yet-intensely would ask me about my goals & desired outcomes "what do you want to get out of this?" "how will you measure your progress?" "what's the next step?" "what's the limiting factor?"

Work & Ambition 2021-06-09 · ♥ 1,551 · ⟲ 175 · 🔖 1,347 · Permalink · View on X

@nosilverv for like my ~20th birthday my friends all pooled their $ to buy me a hefty Starbucks gift card in support of my writing (since I was broke but liked writing there) reaching 100,000 followers, selling $100,000 worth of ebooks, both of those things feel like fruits of that seed

Friendship & Community 2025-08-24 · ♥ 1,548 · ⟲ 15 · 🔖 45 · Permalink · View on X

the first time you do something that everyone in your social environment tells you is a bad idea, and it turns out you were right, is more psychoactive than any drug

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-10-31 · ♥ 1,547 · ⟲ 133 · 🔖 204 · Permalink · View on X

here’s my current interpretation the smart people who remain chronically single despite their apparent attempts to not be, are likely using their intellect, agency etc to mask their emotional/relational issues, which often began in early childhood (may be opaque to themselves)

Psychology & Emotions 2025-11-07 · ♥ 1,546 · ⟲ 67 · 🔖 571 · Permalink · View on X

the sentence "i didn't say she stole my money" can have 7 different meanings depending on which word you emphasize now consider how people read each other's plaintext tweets all the time without knowing where the emphasis is

Language & Linguistics 2024-01-22 · ♥ 1,544 · ⟲ 149 · 🔖 262 · Permalink · View on X

this has been exactly my life strategy 100%. it’s so straightforward. it just works. and like 98% of people seem to find it hard to believe that that could possibly work. I ended up looking up history to find other examples and fr there have always been people like us!! https://t.co/dYXrWZkBlS

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-03-28 · ♥ 1,542 · ⟲ 120 · 🔖 877 · Permalink · View on X

i once witnessed someone who was deemed clinically mentally slow– probably ~80 IQ – casually make an observation about his dating life that demonstrated remarkable theory of mind, better than some alleged 140+ IQ mfs I know https://t.co/jKk4j5EE2Z

Psychology & Emotions 2024-03-08 · ♥ 1,542 · ⟲ 51 · 🔖 413 · Permalink · View on X

fwiw, I think solo travel is the best modern initiation for young men, along some dimensions like accessibility, immediacy, etc etc. It’s easier than it’s ever been, which sorta takes some of the edge off, but I still recommend it nonetheless. Go as far as possible from home https://t.co/ZxWS38cfwF

Travel & Place 2023-11-23 · ♥ 1,539 · ⟲ 121 · 🔖 791 · Permalink · View on X

the more experience i accumulate in helping (coregulating) my son eat, sleep and breathe, the clearer it becomes to me that i didnt have much of that myself as a kid growing up, which makes so much of my unhinged childhood make so much more sense

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-01-04 · ♥ 1,534 · ⟲ 47 · 🔖 298 · Permalink · View on X

I had a long commute ages 22-28 and I co-sign this. If someone said that the leading cause of my general happiness and joy in life is that I don’t have a commute anymore, I’m not sure I’d dispute it https://t.co/7ZKdidYEPN

Transportation & Urban Life 2023-10-26 · ♥ 1,534 · ⟲ 95 · 🔖 162 · Permalink · View on X

have yall noticed that there’s gym outfit tier list that corresponds with the “level” that the gymgoer is at? people seem to unlock new levels of outfits at new levels of fitness. I notice this at the pool too, like only good swimmers wear bold neon colors

Sociocultural Commentary 2026-05-13 · ♥ 1,527 · ⟲ 15 · 🔖 207 · Permalink · View on X

@cljack I always pull this up

Random 2025-08-28 · ♥ 1,523 · ⟲ 11 · 🔖 72 · Permalink · View on X

I think many people will agree that some forms of mental illness or psychosis etc are contagious and transmissible through the internet– it’s clearly happening to those wacko people yonder over there! not us though of course haha… 👀

Internet Culture 2024-10-06 · ♥ 1,515 · ⟲ 88 · 🔖 201 · Permalink · View on X

maybe I’m overindexing, but over the years I’ve come to see grandiose gestures as a fairly reliable indicator of unsustainability. the healthier approach is to start small and escalate continually for decades https://t.co/KLBGl64C0q

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-02-14 · ♥ 1,513 · ⟲ 93 · 🔖 211 · Permalink · View on X

some personal news: https://t.co/jfb7FxvaFW

Random 2023-06-27 · ♥ 1,511 · ⟲ 21 · 🔖 13 · Permalink · View on X

🦖 🦕 ! https://t.co/I0LOJejhuQ

Pets & Animals 2023-11-02 · ♥ 1,510 · ⟲ 16 · 🔖 10 · Permalink · View on X

the phrase 'learning curve' is interestingly misunderstood, people tend to say things like "that has a steep learning curve" to imply that something is hard to learn. but actually the steep learning part is the good part. a hard to learn thing has a long and flat early stage

Language & Linguistics 2024-10-29 · ♥ 1,503 · ⟲ 58 · 🔖 224 · Permalink · View on X

one of the reasons my wife and I got married at 22 was that we figured if in 5 years we didn’t work out, being 28yo and divorced is not so bad. If you don’t have kids, you’re basically indistinguishable from ordinary singles https://t.co/Oitf9juHNF

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-01-12 · ♥ 1,500 · ⟲ 46 · 🔖 257 · Permalink · View on X

me when I find out the next guest after me: https://t.co/FRcqGF3NLe

Pop Culture & Entertainment 2024-11-12 · ♥ 1,490 · ⟲ 21 · 🔖 159 · Permalink · View on X

even if we dont remember the specifics about the first 0-2 years of our lives— caring for a newborn makes it feel deeply intuitively obvious to me that interactions during this time surely create formative “emotional memories”. foundational beliefs re: how world works

Psychology & Emotions 2023-10-25 · ♥ 1,489 · ⟲ 66 · 🔖 126 · Permalink · View on X

until i had a kid, my answer to "what would u do if you could live your life over" was "be more aggressive about seeking excellent peers". now it's "strive to have more kids sooner". i'm not saying anybody else should do this, but I just... didn't know how good it could be for me

Romance, Parenting & Family 2025-02-17 · ♥ 1,486 · ⟲ 51 · 🔖 326 · Permalink · View on X

"you have once again mistaken inertia for rest" is the one that beat my ass https://t.co/nLDAakVsjH

Life & Meaning 2024-07-10 · ♥ 1,482 · ⟲ 130 · 🔖 795 · Permalink · View on X

i have never been able to persuade myself to be interested in the snail thought experiment here's one that bothers me instead: there's some set of words in your subconscious that, if you said them out loud in the right way, would rearrange your entire reality. what are they?

Philosophy 2023-07-03 · ♥ 1,482 · ⟲ 176 · 🔖 1,123 · Permalink · View on X

1. Nerds (people for whom curiosity is a dominant drive) are rare to begin with. Let’s say 5-10% 2. Friendly nerds and ambitious nerds tend to be broadly assumed to be separate camps, different and at odds 3. Friendly ambitious nerds are (seems to me) radical and ~0.01% rare

Sociocultural Commentary 2022-04-17 · ♥ 1,482 · ⟲ 164 · 🔖 598 · Permalink · View on X

ha this is like the mirror version of "never interrupt your enemy when they are making a mistake". never interrupt your family when they are making happiness

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-10-15 · ♥ 1,480 · ⟲ 65 · 🔖 208 · Permalink · View on X

“advice” literally means “how I see it”, and its transmogrification into “what you should do” is a great and destructive failure

Language & Linguistics 2023-09-13 · ♥ 1,480 · ⟲ 266 · 🔖 215 · Permalink · View on X

there are people who go to festivals etc just to feed and care for other people there’s this cosplay lady who goes to cosplay cons just to do free repairs for other people’s costumes as long as people like this exist in the world, I’m on their team https://t.co/9cMUHHI9wH

Friendship & Community 2023-05-30 · ♥ 1,480 · ⟲ 90 · 🔖 52 · Permalink · View on X

@elonmusk what about competing social media platforms? https://t.co/ftM6PhVSnO

Internet Culture 2022-12-18 · ♥ 1,480 · ⟲ 47 · 🔖 7 · Permalink · View on X

today I was changing my 18mo and was planning to let him run around the house in a diaper when he sweetly said “pants? daddy? pants?” so we put his pants on and then he said “socks?” and then “shoes?” and next thing I know we’re at the playground

Romance, Parenting & Family 2025-05-04 · ♥ 1,476 · ⟲ 52 · 🔖 254 · Permalink · View on X

messes are clutters not just of things, but of intentions. that's what really makes them difficult to tidy

Psychology & Emotions 2024-03-26 · ♥ 1,471 · ⟲ 214 · 🔖 419 · Permalink · View on X

it’s a small % of people who post anything at all in that group it’s a small % who put in any real thought or effort at all in that group it’s a small % who have a long game in mind and stick around from this angle, the internet seems rather quiet and uninhabited

Internet Culture 2024-11-08 · ♥ 1,463 · ⟲ 83 · 🔖 317 · Permalink · View on X

Yea- imo the wildest thing nobody properly tells you about being very good at something is how it becomes a wingman introducing you to other people who are very good at other things. Then yall can be fans of each other, it’s absolutely delightful and thrilling https://t.co/skHnENCljv

Friendship & Community 2024-01-19 · ♥ 1,451 · ⟲ 136 · 🔖 520 · Permalink · View on X

Prophet: ok i'm gonna blow ur fuckin mind are u ready Disciples: yes Prophet: love people Disciples: [writing down] be a cop, got it

Observations & Humor 2022-04-18 · ♥ 1,451 · ⟲ 162 · 🔖 188 · Permalink · View on X

@randypaint they did cancel him in the end

Observations & Humor 2020-03-11 · ♥ 1,443 · ⟲ 14 · 🔖 6 · Permalink · View on X

twitter_rpg_strategy_guide.txt

Internet Culture 2019-02-10 · ♥ 1,441 · ⟲ 183 · 🔖 1,899 · Permalink · View on X

one thing that really startled me in its stark simplicity is how often depressed/anxious people talk about being overwhelmed by the future (or burdened by the past) while people with the opposite experience/temperament are radically present in the Now

Psychology & Emotions 2026-01-19 · ♥ 1,439 · ⟲ 78 · 🔖 346 · Permalink · View on X

i started strategizing "how to not have a job" when i was about 13. i remember when i was 20 i was so anxious-nervous about it. i did mostly like my job (great boss, work environment) ages 22-28, but still every day on my bus-train-walk commutes i would plot and scheme my escape

Work & Ambition 2024-04-11 · ♥ 1,436 · ⟲ 54 · 🔖 420 · Permalink · View on X

a person with this attitude, even if they intend it as a joke, should not be head of product of x. give me someone who actually likes the internet, please

Internet Culture 2026-03-27 · ♥ 1,435 · ⟲ 103 · 🔖 60 · Permalink · View on X

sometimes people will stumble upon a winning strategy by accident, and instead of being delighted at finding a better way to win, they will grumble that the game does not value their current losing strategy

Sociocultural Commentary 2025-04-25 · ♥ 1,429 · ⟲ 99 · 🔖 318 · Permalink · View on X

wife pointed out to me the other day that we are considered low-income Singaporeans, and I was like how could that be? and, oh https://t.co/2q3A82FHU8

Sociocultural Commentary 2026-02-10 · ♥ 1,426 · ⟲ 64 · 🔖 128 · Permalink · View on X

Someone asked me how do you know if someone stepped away from a successful trajectory rather than simply failed despite trying, and I wish so hard I wasn’t chronically sleep deprived because there’s probably a really good essay in there that a well-slept visakanv could write

Writing 2025-04-18 · ♥ 1,426 · ⟲ 41 · 🔖 694 · Permalink · View on X

In my alternate universe, any child that reads books under the desk at school is given a full scholarship to do whatever they want. If they want, they get to skip regular school and hang out in the library with all the other self-directed nerds. Some elder nerds loosely supervise

Education & Learning 2019-11-27 · ♥ 1,424 · ⟲ 200 · 🔖 56 · Permalink · View on X

when somebody says “nobody cares” my mind tends to autocorrect it to something like “nobody I know cares”. I probably have a hundred such little mental autocorrects that let me have a pleasant experience where others get flustered

Psychology & Emotions 2024-09-23 · ♥ 1,423 · ⟲ 87 · 🔖 282 · Permalink · View on X

recently when I talked about how I got a massage table for me and my wife to get massages, a deranged masseuse (probably frustrated for other reasons) said that we’re going to break each other’s necks because we’re unlicensed lol https://t.co/N1Xy6Rwr9h

Observations & Humor 2024-02-19 · ♥ 1,421 · ⟲ 34 · 🔖 147 · Permalink · View on X

when it's time to go to bed: i hate it in there, the sleepy world is a bad place of inaction and indolence when it's time to get out of bed: I remember now that this is a good place, truly the closest thing to paradise on earth, it's the waking world that is the enemy https://t.co/781g1WCl55

Observations & Humor 2024-06-25 · ♥ 1,420 · ⟲ 157 · 🔖 162 · Permalink · View on X

I think often about the grandpa who, on his deathbed, surrounded by tearful loved ones, pointed to the pacemaker in his chest and whispered “eBay…” before peacing out

Observations & Humor 2026-05-10 · ♥ 1,419 · ⟲ 13 · 🔖 52 · Permalink · View on X

the most punk thing you can do is love what you love with all your heart. you don’t have to be a guardian of anything. just love what you love, full-heartedly https://t.co/euRE2KVB3J

Life & Meaning 2025-01-07 · ♥ 1,419 · ⟲ 180 · 🔖 319 · Permalink · View on X

"talk to 1000 people to find 3 good friends" is something that to some people seems completely unreasonable, and to other people is an aha moment

Friendship & Community 2023-08-23 · ♥ 1,419 · ⟲ 75 · 🔖 230 · Permalink · View on X

Can’t sleep, time to do a fresh reboot of VV’s talking points

Observations & Humor 2020-11-23 · ♥ 1,410 · ⟲ 265 · 🔖 2,544 · Permalink · View on X

sometimes all it takes to win is to have the audacity to reach out and take the thing. the comments section will be like “boo, I could’ve done that” or “next time ima do that too”, but if you observe for decades, you’ll notice that audacity remains pretty scarce overall

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-11-11 · ♥ 1,409 · ⟲ 141 · 🔖 335 · Permalink · View on X

never be gleeful about violence https://t.co/5Hw7muM63W

Politics, Culture & Identity 2021-01-08 · ♥ 1,409 · ⟲ 242 · 🔖 191 · Permalink · View on X

a critical skill if you wanna walk through the walls of culture, and/or “see the matrix” of social reality, is to de-fixate on who the winners or losers of some social exchange are, who’s higher status or lower status, whose group is better or worse, who’s allied with who, etc

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-06-28 · ♥ 1,406 · ⟲ 102 · 🔖 617 · Permalink · View on X

@dom_lucre he improved it. call it “the weight of the world” or some shit and increase the price tag https://t.co/KK3C57zFOC

Business & Markets 2025-06-14 · ♥ 1,405 · ⟲ 30 · 🔖 50 · Permalink · View on X

i'm always kinda sad that a bunch of the guys i looked up to when i was growing up, didn't keep growing into greater and greater kingship, but rather they mostly sorta became caricatures of themselves

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-08-21 · ♥ 1,394 · ⟲ 66 · 🔖 272 · Permalink · View on X

there's a phenomenon that everyone here must be familiar with by now, but I feel like it hasn't yet been given a really good name. it's the relegation, demotion, debasement of in-person reality in service of media/content/feeds/socials. i'll start collecting examples here

Internet Culture 2026-02-27 · ♥ 1,393 · ⟲ 74 · 🔖 616 · Permalink · View on X

from a purely structural-technical standpoint, I would give these 3 tweets the highest grade of anything I've ever written (particular to the medium) https://t.co/tVxaQnrrz7

Writing 2025-02-02 · ♥ 1,393 · ⟲ 81 · 🔖 439 · Permalink · View on X

here's a 10-minute attempt to summarize my 300 page book @introspectVV into ~500 words. didn't precisely meet the brief of "in one breath" but i'll try again multiple times https://t.co/vdOSJt2DHf

Writing 2023-06-14 · ♥ 1,393 · ⟲ 204 · 🔖 1,728 · Permalink · View on X

baby that doesn’t yet know how to ask for things with words: fuck it we bawl https://t.co/Q5686497fk

Romance, Parenting & Family 2023-11-06 · ♥ 1,392 · ⟲ 83 · 🔖 34 · Permalink · View on X

Singapore is very good at gaming all the stats, awards, performing on tests. We’re maybe the best test performers on the planet. But we’re kinda mid on the field; which is why people struggle to point at our great entrepreneurs, artists, filmmakers, authors, etc. troubles me tbh https://t.co/vdD5ZsOtnz

Education & Learning 2024-07-16 · ♥ 1,388 · ⟲ 130 · 🔖 432 · Permalink · View on X

I’ve told variations of this story several times but it bears repeating When I was about 8 years old and I first sat at a computer and typed words into a forum and got replies from people elsewhere in the world, I swear on my life I instantly knew I had found The Holy Grail

Internet Culture 2023-05-31 · ♥ 1,385 · ⟲ 88 · 🔖 364 · Permalink · View on X

my current #1 bit of advice to myself is to have long conversations with my friends more. the crazy thing is i was a natural at this as a teenager, and then was persuaded by the adults in my life to feel guilt/shame about being so 'wasteful' with my time

Friendship & Community 2024-07-11 · ♥ 1,384 · ⟲ 101 · 🔖 221 · Permalink · View on X

it’s also just straight up a terrible name! there is no single letter of the alphabet that can work as a good name. Closest are things like 3M, CNN, BBC. Imagine if CNN tried to rebrand as C. “Did you read the article on C?” “See what?” “No, I mean the news site, C” https://t.co/ZlTLDY3riB

Internet Culture 2024-03-08 · ♥ 1,384 · ⟲ 52 · 🔖 46 · Permalink · View on X

“talk to 100 people about it” or “read 100 things about it” has always been a natural part of my approach to solving problems and i got a bit confused sometimes when people don’t do it. so i talked to 100s of people about it, turns out people are scared and socially repressed

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-09-24 · ♥ 1,382 · ⟲ 100 · 🔖 280 · Permalink · View on X

there's a widespread pretense that beauty in architecture is subjective people drop this pretense when it's time to take wedding photos

Art & Creativity 2026-04-06 · ♥ 1,381 · ⟲ 60 · 🔖 92 · Permalink · View on X

Before having a kid I tried to mentally rehearse all the kinds of guy he might grow up to be, particularly the kinds that don’t have synchronicities with me (writer/musician/creative). I thought maybe he’ll be a sports guy? maybe he’ll be into insects? Dirt biking? Academia? As I watch him fish through my wallet for the 100th time saying “Money! Money!” it dawns on me I never considered the possibility that he might become a finance bro

Romance, Parenting & Family 2025-06-02 · ♥ 1,380 · ⟲ 24 · 🔖 107 · Permalink · View on X

it's become clearer to me how an integral challenge of raising a toddler is dealing with their anger and frustration. they don't yet have much of a model of how the world works, what expectations are realistic, what reasonable social behavior is, etc. and it's so easy to mess up

Romance, Parenting & Family 2025-07-06 · ♥ 1,375 · ⟲ 38 · 🔖 327 · Permalink · View on X

toddlers be like, “empirically speaking I have never been seriously hurt, which affirms my hypothesis that I am essentially immortal” before yeeting themselves down a fight of stairs

Observations & Humor 2025-04-27 · ♥ 1,374 · ⟲ 109 · 🔖 86 · Permalink · View on X

i love this so much this is such a great example of someone being well-prepared to get the most out of their social interactions this is a Friendly Ambitious Nerd i can just tell https://t.co/Yz9w4Oe5xA

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-03-02 · ♥ 1,372 · ⟲ 79 · 🔖 237 · Permalink · View on X

understandable https://t.co/4mRAB3WYJg https://t.co/bbRa4zCl4n

Observations & Humor 2023-12-25 · ♥ 1,371 · ⟲ 78 · 🔖 82 · Permalink · View on X

suppose a person is anxious there often exists an utterance or a series of utterances, that if you say to this person in the right way, will actually result in them being less anxious however, it is EXTREMELY unlikely that the phrase is “calm down” or “just relax”

Psychology & Emotions 2023-06-03 · ♥ 1,369 · ⟲ 91 · 🔖 247 · Permalink · View on X

im pretty disgusted by how much “growing older and wiser” has turned out to be simply about deciding to trust one’s instincts– instincts that were there all along but suppressed through socialization. there’s something arrogant-coded about disregarding consensus…

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-02-02 · ♥ 1,368 · ⟲ 147 · 🔖 160 · Permalink · View on X

A recurring pattern I’ve noticed is when people are hanging around discussing how to solve a problem– not just complaining but actually discussing how to solve it– they often ignore it when a person comes along with an actually superior solution to anything they’re arguing about

Psychology & Emotions 2024-03-31 · ♥ 1,360 · ⟲ 100 · 🔖 391 · Permalink · View on X

do not leave your longings unattended https://t.co/cqo40rvsNw

Life & Meaning 2024-11-13 · ♥ 1,357 · ⟲ 130 · 🔖 322 · Permalink · View on X

me: I’m upset bc I tried to replace our kitchen drawer rails and ran into multiple difficulties… wife: what would you say to our son if he told you this? me: that I’m proud of him for trying to do something nice, and that it’s fine, nobody got hurt, the mess got cleaned… wow

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2026-05-05 · ♥ 1,355 · ⟲ 40 · 🔖 147 · Permalink · View on X

you can discourage some people by asking supportive questions. if that sounds weird, here’s the weirder part: this is almost always ideal

Sociocultural Commentary 2023-09-05 · ♥ 1,355 · ⟲ 77 · 🔖 387 · Permalink · View on X

@justalexoki for people wondering like i was, they would have been called - Matthew: Mattityahu/Maththaios - Mark: Yochanan/Markos - Luke: Loukas - John: Yochanan/Ioannes

Religion 2025-04-23 · ♥ 1,354 · ⟲ 23 · 🔖 168 · Permalink · View on X

I got to witness firsthand recently how an older relative reacting loudly ~(“OMG!! Be careful!! You see what happens when you’re not careful??”) to my toddler falling, imo clearly *interrupted* his internal feedback loop, ie actually interfered with his learning

Romance, Parenting & Family 2025-04-01 · ♥ 1,354 · ⟲ 51 · 🔖 245 · Permalink · View on X

when you have a game-changing insight you’ll often have to repeat it for 5-7 years before people start to really get it

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-10-29 · ♥ 1,348 · ⟲ 127 · 🔖 385 · Permalink · View on X

focusing on what you want to see more of: https://t.co/Y7W1S02klk

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-08-20 · ♥ 1,343 · ⟲ 122 · 🔖 354 · Permalink · View on X

@melissajenna especially since this number is substantially inflated by serial marriages, some people have had like 8 marriages!!

Romance, Parenting & Family 2025-01-26 · ♥ 1,341 · ⟲ 4 · 🔖 24 · Permalink · View on X

it took me maybe 10+ years to properly appreciate that one of the reasons many people don't do so well at things is that they're either unwilling or unable to determine the win conditions of a thing, and act accordingly

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2025-01-14 · ♥ 1,341 · ⟲ 64 · 🔖 463 · Permalink · View on X

I’m fascinated by how many people don’t believe how consequential practice can be. it seems to me almost like it’s a kind of geocentricism. and a failure of education. which might be easily remedied with small additions to one’s information diet

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-11-16 · ♥ 1,340 · ⟲ 98 · 🔖 458 · Permalink · View on X

if you ever think someone isn’t creative you should look at their excuses

Art & Creativity 2021-05-12 · ♥ 1,336 · ⟲ 239 · 🔖 319 · Permalink · View on X

a few years ago I was chatting with a mentor who has decades of xp witnessing people trying to do things. i asked him: you've surely seen people trying to do what i'm trying to do. what's the #1 reason people like me fail? and he said, i paraphrase, their wives make them sell out https://t.co/qjUKmg0COu

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-07-31 · ♥ 1,335 · ⟲ 45 · 🔖 633 · Permalink · View on X

Christoph Niemann: "The only relevant artistic talent is the ability to deal with frustration." https://t.co/YMPqMunSLh

Art & Creativity 2025-06-23 · ♥ 1,332 · ⟲ 137 · 🔖 907 · Permalink · View on X

there has to be something more subversive and radical that a wealthy adult man can do than behave like an edgy 13 year old

Sociocultural Commentary 2025-02-10 · ♥ 1,332 · ⟲ 80 · 🔖 97 · Permalink · View on X

ime the reason for this is primarily envy, and the thing about envy is that it gets worse the higher up you go, because the odds of you meeting people 10x more [insert metric you've been obsessing about] keeps increasing. millionaire feels poor because he knows a billionaire, etc

Psychology & Emotions 2025-04-22 · ♥ 1,329 · ⟲ 54 · 🔖 255 · Permalink · View on X

one of my favorite rory sutherland anecdotes is about how people complained that an elevator took too long to arrive. it would cost ~ a million dollars to make the elevators 5% faster. they solved the problem for ~$100 by adding mirrors so people groomed themselves while waiting

Sociocultural Commentary 2023-11-06 · ♥ 1,325 · ⟲ 68 · 🔖 217 · Permalink · View on X

abolish 12am, for it is a source of confusion and strife. only have 0am and 12pm. never get confused again

Observations & Humor 2024-01-15 · ♥ 1,323 · ⟲ 66 · 🔖 29 · Permalink · View on X

@julesterpak google glass team falling to their knees rn

Science & Technology 2023-12-17 · ♥ 1,323 · ⟲ 19 · 🔖 12 · Permalink · View on X

casual reminder that you should enjoy at least some of your life *now*, not be deferring all joy in the hope of enjoyment some day in the future

Life & Meaning 2021-10-11 · ♥ 1,319 · ⟲ 253 · 🔖 73 · Permalink · View on X

some people are recreationally miserable

Observations & Humor 2023-08-19 · ♥ 1,317 · ⟲ 154 · 🔖 78 · Permalink · View on X

many people keep telling me things like “the first 2 months of having a child will be the worst months of your life” I don’t expect it to be easy, but for me personally I don’t expect it to be even in the top 10 worst couple of months in my life maybe I’ll be wrong, we’ll see

Romance, Parenting & Family 2023-08-22 · ♥ 1,316 · ⟲ 56 · 🔖 82 · Permalink · View on X

a snippet from a conversation with a friend that’s still ringing with me: when you’re young, say 14-22, it’s hard to properly imagine how your existing social reality is going to change. you may feel a sense of loyalty to your friends, such that the idea going out and seeking new friends can seem like a kind of betrayal. In practice, hardly anybody even really puts words to these vague, subtle feelings. it’s only after years of drift and loss and grief that you (may) begin to loosen your subconscious grip on what you had held together as immutable about your reality. While painful, the destruction of this order creates the opportunity for something new. New imaginings, new possibilities, new ways of being, new ways to relate to people, new people to relate to. Not many people really articulate this either, so a lot of people are living amidst layers of emotional debris… I’m drifting here though… what I really wanted to get to was, a sudden striking sense I got as to why “seek excellent peers” doesn’t always resonate all the way through for everyone. It’s at least partially because the idea of consciously seeking new peers seems mercenary to people. This perspective changes as one lives through change and witnesses the ebb and flow of all things. Gently focusing on what you genuinely want, slowly reveals itself to be an earnestly loving way of being. Time and tide will tell.

Friendship & Community 2023-12-05 · ♥ 1,315 · ⟲ 118 · 🔖 666 · Permalink · View on X

incredible story from 2023. a little 8-metre sailboat was in distress, having lost its rudder. they called for help, expecting maybe the coast guard. THIS arrived. the crew of the sailboat described feeling unmoored from reality, wondering if they were dreaming

Observations & Humor 2026-05-12 · ♥ 1,314 · ⟲ 77 · 🔖 149 · Permalink · View on X

a very important and powerful skill, that for a long time never even occurred to me that I had, is as follows: don’t assume that someone is saying something that they didn’t actually say. that’s it. that’s like 80% of good reading comprehension and good listening skills

Language & Linguistics 2023-09-13 · ♥ 1,313 · ⟲ 155 · 🔖 205 · Permalink · View on X

i was rewatching the arnold netflix documentary, and they kinda casually skim past how, after he decided to stop doing mr olympia contests and get into movies, for 5 years, nothing came out of it. 5 years!! most people would give up imo

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-01-22 · ♥ 1,311 · ⟲ 50 · 🔖 248 · Permalink · View on X

the funniest thing to me about zoomer perms is how similar it is to a boomer chinese auntie aesthetic. i used to joke that if you wanna know what’ll be trendy, just look at what asian grandparents are doing, and its more prophetic than id have guessed

Sociocultural Commentary 2025-05-16 · ♥ 1,310 · ⟲ 41 · 🔖 128 · Permalink · View on X

the first mistake was not talking to gamers before/during development the second mistake was "i decided to take a step back and look at my game objectively" without talking to gamers the third mistake was "i updated the game nearly every day"... instead of talking to gamers https://t.co/qHaVUI6VOG

Games 2024-06-15 · ♥ 1,310 · ⟲ 62 · 🔖 418 · Permalink · View on X

sometimes i spend all morning just lying in bed with my wife and son and im brimmimg with so much happiness its almost unbearable

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-02-01 · ♥ 1,307 · ⟲ 33 · 🔖 102 · Permalink · View on X

show up, don’t die, don’t quit https://t.co/xw7MH7mjYR

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-10-04 · ♥ 1,299 · ⟲ 180 · 🔖 178 · Permalink · View on X

if you're insanely talented at something but nobody gets it, it's worth paying someone who's insanely talented at marketing/comms to translate, frame, package that talent into something that people appreciate https://t.co/WF6tjp9eue

Marketing & Branding 2024-01-13 · ♥ 1,293 · ⟲ 105 · 🔖 519 · Permalink · View on X

I never fully realized how much pressure I was under, as a kid, to pretend I was fine when I was not. I pretended inwardly as well as outwardly. because I internalized “It’s not okay to be visibly not okay” from my social environment. So I became invisible to myself.

Psychology & Emotions 2026-05-10 · ♥ 1,291 · ⟲ 79 · 🔖 261 · Permalink · View on X

25 years into a creative process, it really becomes clear how little anything matters. random people’s opinions, arguments, so much of everything rounds to zero. the only thing that matters is you love the work and you’re excited to face it again tomorrow

Life & Meaning 2026-04-20 · ♥ 1,291 · ⟲ 159 · 🔖 285 · Permalink · View on X

@DanielleFong I wonder what the margin for error is here. I’m guessing it could be 10km/h too slow or too fast and he’d still probably be ok?

Science & Technology 2026-03-29 · ♥ 1,291 · ⟲ 5 · 🔖 10 · Permalink · View on X

feel like something about this generalizes beyond landscaping but I can’t quite put my finger on what one thing is to keep things people-shaped, but there’s also something else about… gradients…? https://t.co/RaNOkJGcRl

Art & Creativity 2024-10-07 · ♥ 1,291 · ⟲ 43 · 🔖 344 · Permalink · View on X

fascinating thing to observe at the playground is how young kids (5-8) who step into the temporary role of big bro / big sis for younger kids (2-4) suddenly seem much older themselves. and then when their own older siblings show up (10-12) they “regress” into kid roles

Sociocultural Commentary 2025-03-14 · ♥ 1,287 · ⟲ 37 · 🔖 112 · Permalink · View on X

similarly “I’ve tried everything” for a lot of people is “I’ve tried 3-7 things” https://t.co/Oo3BGvnfPM

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-09-19 · ♥ 1,286 · ⟲ 60 · 🔖 285 · Permalink · View on X

the opposite is simultaneously true and maybe easier to understand: think of anyone (everyone knows someone) who finds a way to be upset or miserable even when things are going great. people who have trained to feel bad unconditionally

Psychology & Emotions 2026-01-16 · ♥ 1,284 · ⟲ 75 · 🔖 391 · Permalink · View on X

from time to time i've encountered some numbers re: the economics of grifting and it's so bleak man. there are people who sell their souls for like $6,000

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-12-27 · ♥ 1,282 · ⟲ 51 · 🔖 153 · Permalink · View on X

@hair_tennant @CallMeVoldrat @elonmusk Elon maybe

Pop Culture & Entertainment 2018-10-14 · ♥ 1,281 · ⟲ 24 · Permalink · View on X

“why is this idiot successful” is one of my favorite observations people make because they’re always on the cusp of getting it but they never do

Sociocultural Commentary 2026-04-08 · ♥ 1,280 · ⟲ 48 · 🔖 412 · Permalink · View on X

this just actually brought back a vivid buried memory when i was a teenager i sometimes cried myself to sleep wishing i was stupid and superficial and unable to see the bigger picture, unable to see the obvious path to my own success. it was a burden too heavy to bear alone https://t.co/z3flLJBwsJ

Psychology & Emotions 2024-02-24 · ♥ 1,280 · ⟲ 76 · 🔖 458 · Permalink · View on X

@RoshanCricket Such an easily verifiable bit of misinformation should be grounds for bluecheck removal

Internet Culture 2020-08-14 · ♥ 1,280 · ⟲ 23 · Permalink · View on X

fascinating quote from an anthropologist realizing that people from other cultures can have a sense of humor about their spirituality https://t.co/3ut1bbJ7R0 https://t.co/1MkzV4lcXt

Religion 2021-07-17 · ♥ 1,277 · ⟲ 211 · 🔖 174 · Permalink · View on X

i've been going to many people's houses lately while looking for one to buy, and it's striking how some houses put me at ease, and some houses make me anxious and stress me out. this is one of those "well, duh" observations that nonetheless got me doing a Big Think

Psychology & Emotions 2025-01-12 · ♥ 1,271 · ⟲ 31 · 🔖 201 · Permalink · View on X

You can be rigorous about only following a thousand lovely sensible kind people on this site, nonetheless each year about 1-2% of them will straight up go insane

Internet Culture 2023-12-23 · ♥ 1,263 · ⟲ 88 · 🔖 102 · Permalink · View on X

when i reflect on the hardest experiences of my life, they typically involved me losing most of my will to live. i had to constantly fight off the intrusive thoughts begging me to end it all. i had versions of this at 13, 17 and about 24-25. i felt incredibly alienated, alone

Life & Meaning 2023-10-28 · ♥ 1,263 · ⟲ 55 · 🔖 304 · Permalink · View on X

the solution to so many things is "keep playing, stay alive, keep your eyes open, and learn from your experience"

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-04-15 · ♥ 1,261 · ⟲ 208 · 🔖 313 · Permalink · View on X

bro my 1yo son was climbing a box and then he was nervous and scared to climb back down but I encouraged him and he did it and I smiled and clapped and he’s smiling and clapping too and I love being a dad bro it’s the best thing in the world 🥹

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-11-12 · ♥ 1,259 · ⟲ 31 · 🔖 44 · Permalink · View on X

one of my best 'party tricks' is that i can have an interesting conversation with any subject matter expert about anything for an hour despite me having 0 prior knowledge of the thing. core thing is to ask earnest "I'd love to learn more" questions https://t.co/jAKc5uVXby

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-09-15 · ♥ 1,257 · ⟲ 118 · 🔖 425 · Permalink · View on X

one thing I’ve noticed repeatedly over the years is that generous-spirited people tend to do well and uncharitable people tend not to. and I’ve observed this long enough in enough situations to be pretty sure I’m not making a round-trip fallacy here (success → generosity)

Sociocultural Commentary 2026-04-18 · ♥ 1,256 · ⟲ 71 · 🔖 344 · Permalink · View on X

high-performing doesn't necessarily mean you're doing what you actually want to be doing https://t.co/ccZ1rxEVQd

Work & Ambition 2026-03-02 · ♥ 1,251 · ⟲ 100 · 🔖 816 · Permalink · View on X

since i was a child I have staked my entire life on the following belief: that there are people in the world who give a shit about other people. I was happy to make this gamble because if it's wrong I'd rather die. I do not want to live in a cold, soulless, transactional world

Life & Meaning 2023-07-01 · ♥ 1,249 · ⟲ 187 · 🔖 131 · Permalink · View on X

“We socialize it out of them” thread https://t.co/PyIt6OHfzu

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-01-11 · ♥ 1,245 · ⟲ 92 · 🔖 596 · Permalink · View on X

I highly recommend having a folder on your desktop titled 'you are loved', where you put in screenshots of lovely things people have said to/about you. here are some of mine https://t.co/DBNxyNZlI9

Psychology & Emotions 2024-12-03 · ♥ 1,241 · ⟲ 103 · 🔖 396 · Permalink · View on X

@minordissent specialization and trade allows a handful of hyperfunctional people to get a lot done for everyone, which in turn also allows people to get away with being less and less functional. in this sense civ actually enables dysfunction, most of us wouldn't survive without it

Sociocultural Commentary 2026-05-07 · ♥ 1,233 · ⟲ 42 · 🔖 118 · Permalink · View on X

the linear model of intelligence (simplistic notion that you’re on a spectrum somewhere from smart to stupid) is for unserious people

Psychology & Emotions 2025-03-12 · ♥ 1,231 · ⟲ 88 · 🔖 300 · Permalink · View on X

@crazyclipsonly ok robbery aside, there has to be a smarter way to take a drop like that right? like if a parkour expert or a stuntman had to take that fall, what would they advise to minimise injury?

Health, Fitness & Body 2023-05-18 · ♥ 1,229 · ⟲ 4 · 🔖 24 · Permalink · View on X

when I tell my 19mo “stop it” when he’s fiddling with a car door handle, he doesn’t stop doing it- rather, he says “stop it!” *while* doing it. he’ll even say it unprompted the next time he does it I wonder how much of human psychology is like this

Psychology & Emotions 2025-05-31 · ♥ 1,223 · ⟲ 30 · 🔖 140 · Permalink · View on X

i used to do a thing where if someone asked me for a free copy of my book(s), i'd say "i'll make you a deal: i'll send you a copy if you promise to write an honest review of it after you read it." I did this dozens of times, I don't think I've gotten a single review out of it

Marketing & Branding 2023-12-07 · ♥ 1,223 · ⟲ 22 · 🔖 104 · Permalink · View on X

one of my non-obvious sources of power is that my wife is a very gifted and natural cross-examiner, which means i have been under loving interrogation for 20+ years now

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-10-18 · ♥ 1,221 · ⟲ 34 · 🔖 182 · Permalink · View on X

@DannyPage @jack @TwitterSupport https://t.co/6Z2Wm7kXqb

Internet Culture 2022-12-18 · ♥ 1,221 · ⟲ 73 · 🔖 24 · Permalink · View on X

looking back over my life, my biggest failures have been 1. bad accounting hygiene ($ & 🕰️) 2. excessive postponing, “perfectionism”, really runaway avoidance of discomfort 3. lack of presence and attunement. disassociating 4. poor meatbag management 5. poor project management

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2026-05-06 · ♥ 1,218 · ⟲ 54 · 🔖 534 · Permalink · View on X

few pop songs have reached this zenith since. maybe espresso comes kinsa close in recent times. but like in 2011 this had… US soldiers in foreign bases lip syncing to the entire song and people ate that shit up back then. Really kind of a magical moment https://t.co/RnWca9R9mb

Music 2024-09-20 · ♥ 1,218 · ⟲ 54 · 🔖 88 · Permalink · View on X

@SaturationJasen he had beef https://t.co/k7ab6X1aww

Random 2025-04-26 · ♥ 1,211 · ⟲ 5 · 🔖 43 · Permalink · View on X

here's a really simple and powerful thing that few people do 1. make a list of all the times you've had a conversation with someone that left you feeling energized, excited, empowered, encouraged 2. be deliberate about talking to those people again that's it

Friendship & Community 2021-07-30 · ♥ 1,202 · ⟲ 190 · 🔖 248 · Permalink · View on X

older traditional Asian parents don’t often *say* “I love you” to their kids. Asian kids who grow up in Western culture can be led to think that their parents don’t love them bc they don’t say it. which sometimes tragically spirals into resentment, stemming from misunderstanding https://t.co/pt9UYvyDXq

Sociocultural Commentary 2023-11-19 · ♥ 1,201 · ⟲ 95 · 🔖 317 · Permalink · View on X

1/ It's very interesting and useful I think to apply the MVP model of product development to personal development. http://t.co/ef1dY1UNr8

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2014-11-23 · ♥ 1,199 · ⟲ 257 · 🔖 841 · Permalink · View on X

before I had a kid I used to think, “I can barely remember to feed myself, how am I gonna feed someone else?” but the thing is your kid is not gonna let you forget lmao. and since I’m feeding him I might as well feed myself too sometimes making things harder makes things easier

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-11-20 · ♥ 1,198 · ⟲ 43 · 🔖 118 · Permalink · View on X

@elocinationn https://t.co/ErNHURV0Ok

Random 2025-04-27 · ♥ 1,197 · ⟲ 25 · 🔖 358 · Permalink · View on X

a thing that always trips me out is reflecting on the distribution of effort to reward. most of the rewards i get in my life today are for efforts i put in 10, 15 years ago, which at the time often seemed like it was fruitless

Life & Meaning 2023-10-13 · ♥ 1,195 · ⟲ 93 · 🔖 204 · Permalink · View on X

@marvinvenis For those who don’t know why it can’t be older than 1999 https://t.co/0xz5RGCJo7

History 2020-08-29 · ♥ 1,194 · ⟲ 15 · 🔖 15 · Permalink · View on X

example of cultural differences: here is a comment on a Singaporean moving out of their parents’ home at 32 https://t.co/wo2MkhnItA

Sociocultural Commentary 2021-04-18 · ♥ 1,193 · ⟲ 358 · 🔖 75 · Permalink · View on X

time and time again i keep finding that pooping is one of the best analogies for talking about emotion. i hesitate to use it because it's a bit gross, but ime it almost always gets the point across simply and clearly

Psychology & Emotions 2024-01-13 · ♥ 1,187 · ⟲ 75 · 🔖 472 · Permalink · View on X

It’s kind of funny that as you get better at noticing things, one of the harder things to notice is the difference between what you notice and what others notice. once you’ve noticed something it tends to feel “obvious” and it’s natural to assume everyone else notices it too

Psychology & Emotions 2025-05-05 · ♥ 1,184 · ⟲ 83 · 🔖 175 · Permalink · View on X

2yo: want lollipop! want yoghurt! want basket! me: daddy wants some peace. how about some peace 2yo: [pauses to think] 2yo: no… no no…

Observations & Humor 2025-11-17 · ♥ 1,182 · ⟲ 27 · 🔖 34 · Permalink · View on X

wrote about an anecdote that I often bring up in conversations with people who are struggling with trying to change their behaviors: https://t.co/Uk7c78VspW https://t.co/EsMIQnibW6

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-05-23 · ♥ 1,182 · ⟲ 128 · 🔖 637 · Permalink · View on X

imho this incidentally explains ~80% of the divorce mystery the divorce mystery is: why do so many people end up divorcing, and even loathing, the person they thought was their favorite? bc people select for partners ~'based on' good times and break up ~'because of' bad times https://t.co/1wqyPPJqgm

Romance, Parenting & Family 2023-05-01 · ♥ 1,182 · ⟲ 96 · 🔖 400 · Permalink · View on X

@AmScuderia @crazyclipsonly now I've had the time of my life no, I never felt like this before https://t.co/SKx3de9o1l

Observations & Humor 2023-07-15 · ♥ 1,181 · ⟲ 9 · 🔖 8 · Permalink · View on X

sometimes- quite often, really - the answer to the question of “but what if it hurts” is “then you suffer, lol”

Observations & Humor 2022-04-11 · ♥ 1,177 · ⟲ 238 · 🔖 345 · Permalink · View on X

a person can be hot just from the way they look at other people, this seems to be overlooked in texts and pics and speech

Psychology & Emotions 2025-03-05 · ♥ 1,176 · ⟲ 59 · 🔖 245 · Permalink · View on X

trying out an oversimplification: Q: when does a person have good vibes? A: when they don’t mind what happens

Life & Meaning 2023-12-02 · ♥ 1,176 · ⟲ 109 · 🔖 421 · Permalink · View on X

I always feel vaguely bad about procrastinating but it always feels incredible when the extra wait reveals something to me that turns out to be much more powerful/critical than anything I had on my conscious radar starting out I wonder…

Psychology & Emotions 2024-08-28 · ♥ 1,175 · ⟲ 59 · 🔖 284 · Permalink · View on X

a friend asked, what’s it like having a toddler? I said it’s great but also stressful because they have more autonomy than sense. we laughed about it and thought about how that might apply to us too. then contemplated how we tend to suppress autonomy rather than cultivate sense

Romance, Parenting & Family 2025-09-06 · ♥ 1,168 · ⟲ 121 · 🔖 238 · Permalink · View on X

I am once again asking y’all to watch this guy go from like a 5 to a 9 in sex appeal in seconds https://t.co/dOPKyFyI7m

Observations & Humor 2022-03-30 · ♥ 1,167 · ⟲ 59 · 🔖 310 · Permalink · View on X

the flattening of attention metrics is something that seems to trip up even the most thoughtful of people 1 follow or view from the right person is worth 10,000 casual randos, maybe 100k. this is hardly ever reflected anywhere in practice it’s a kind of sliding scale but still

Internet Culture 2021-07-07 · ♥ 1,166 · ⟲ 129 · 🔖 452 · Permalink · View on X

i've never finished reading christopher alexander's timeless way of being, because every time i read it I end up being inspired to do something. i suppose this is maybe one of the highest compliments i can give a book

Books & Literature 2026-03-23 · ♥ 1,164 · ⟲ 35 · 🔖 725 · Permalink · View on X

"I am under zero delusions" is the final boss of all delusions https://t.co/79j2TUdfZH

Observations & Humor 2023-10-14 · ♥ 1,162 · ⟲ 102 · 🔖 50 · Permalink · View on X

i learned it https://t.co/ruUf3kDhLc https://t.co/hYm8Ulcnyq

Art & Creativity 2023-12-27 · ♥ 1,148 · ⟲ 21 · 🔖 233 · Permalink · View on X

today is my 35th birthday! If any of my writing, ideas, introductions etc has helped you in a tangible way I’d love to hear about it 🤓

Art & Creativity 2025-06-06 · ♥ 1,146 · ⟲ 9 · 🔖 101 · Permalink · View on X

every hour i ever spent on homework was, for me personally, an unconscionable a waste of time https://t.co/JdorVn2YHr

Education & Learning 2023-09-27 · ♥ 1,145 · ⟲ 68 · 🔖 28 · Permalink · View on X

one of my recurring talking points to anybody who's willing to listen: any small group of people loosely-but-truly aligned on something can create powerful vectors by producing public-facing work that's directed at each other talking about the creation of scenes, basically

Art & Creativity 2019-07-23 · ♥ 1,143 · ⟲ 194 · 🔖 519 · Permalink · View on X

how it started vs how it's going #1 vs #391 https://t.co/OrU9rlJA8P https://t.co/RE91UF60DM

Internet Culture 2023-09-29 · ♥ 1,141 · ⟲ 57 · 🔖 151 · Permalink · View on X

if you think and talk and write a lot, you invariably end up accurately diagnosing your own problems long before you realize it

Psychology & Emotions 2025-04-17 · ♥ 1,137 · ⟲ 85 · 🔖 212 · Permalink · View on X

I feel this. one of the weirdest things about being a creative is that it becomes very hard to distinguish leisure from work

Art & Creativity 2025-02-18 · ♥ 1,134 · ⟲ 57 · 🔖 192 · Permalink · View on X

had to do it https://t.co/pAEuaKQp29

Observations & Humor 2025-01-27 · ♥ 1,134 · ⟲ 87 · 🔖 102 · Permalink · View on X

“improbable” matches can happen if you’re strategic, bold, persistent, ask for what you want, enlist other people in your search most people don’t have the guts to really do this and follow through, which makes it a remarkably effective filter https://t.co/Z34RVwDkwY https://t.co/XlAcJMDQYR

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-06-02 · ♥ 1,133 · ⟲ 72 · 🔖 409 · Permalink · View on X

Oscar Wilde, on bad reply game: "A bore is someone who deprives you of solitude without providing you with company."

Observations & Humor 2020-04-20 · ♥ 1,133 · ⟲ 157 · 🔖 215 · Permalink · View on X

one of the bitterest chasms is between a person who knows (but doesn’t know how they know), and a person who asks, quite reasonably, how tf could you possibly know

Philosophy 2023-09-06 · ♥ 1,128 · ⟲ 116 · 🔖 161 · Permalink · View on X

"haters are fans too" – ea-nasir https://t.co/H8gMgSoDBI

History 2021-03-15 · ♥ 1,125 · ⟲ 248 · 🔖 73 · Permalink · View on X

this feels to me almost too mundane to mention but the simple knowledge that multiple things can be true, even seemingly conflicting things, has given me many winsome outcomes over the years, in all sorts of domains

Philosophy 2024-04-04 · ♥ 1,124 · ⟲ 123 · 🔖 202 · Permalink · View on X

i did this and it really confused everyone in my life https://t.co/vKvygwMl4z

Observations & Humor 2023-09-20 · ♥ 1,119 · ⟲ 44 · 🔖 90 · Permalink · View on X

actually lemme walk yall thru how i've worked through my own versions of these feelings, ie a realtime rerun of past introspection. A: "I am a failure" B: "what makes me say that?" A: "i am not achieving the results I am supposed to be achieving" B: "ok, two paths here. (1) where do these expectations come from, and are they reasonable? (2), can we get better results? do we know how? what are the next steps?" A: 1. "family, friends, society... i don't know if they're reasonable, but it's not like i can realistically get away from them anytime soon..." 2. "probably, i'm not very sure, idk, work smarter I guess..." B: 1. "when did you last have a conversation with specific individuals about the expectations you're dealing with?" 2. "what does working smarter look like? how are you currently allocating your time and energy? what specific outcomes do you want to make progress towards?"

Psychology & Emotions 2024-01-17 · ♥ 1,117 · ⟲ 104 · 🔖 1,112 · Permalink · View on X

took me years to begin to understand that one of the most heroic things you can do is not hate yourself

Psychology & Emotions 2021-11-21 · ♥ 1,117 · ⟲ 182 · 🔖 216 · Permalink · View on X

10mo: im going to sleep in my parents bed, in between my parents the parents: haha cute, parallel with us right 10mo: https://t.co/z1NXl54fLW

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-08-31 · ♥ 1,116 · ⟲ 22 · 🔖 41 · Permalink · View on X

it’s so annoying how many people who are right about things have to be such dicks about it, making correctness dick-coded by association

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-02-17 · ♥ 1,116 · ⟲ 74 · 🔖 117 · Permalink · View on X

we should flood the suez canal with giant rubber ducks. it won't help at all, I just like the idea of it https://t.co/ug2YNZZkfR

Observations & Humor 2021-03-26 · ♥ 1,116 · ⟲ 198 · 🔖 12 · Permalink · View on X

love is a skill you can get better at it with practice and study

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-01-16 · ♥ 1,114 · ⟲ 161 · 🔖 184 · Permalink · View on X

i'm still thinking of a phrase from john mayer in interview with zane lowe where he improvised a song in real time. he said he could do it basically whenever, but he doesn't always, because "it takes a stupid bravery" to do it. i think that's my 2024 intent: to be stupidly brave

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-12-30 · ♥ 1,112 · ⟲ 114 · 🔖 287 · Permalink · View on X

in retrospect many of the worst things that happened to me were the best things that happened to me – because they taught me I can endure such things and still be ok, which greatly expanded my sense of freedom

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-11-27 · ♥ 1,112 · ⟲ 127 · 🔖 189 · Permalink · View on X

slander? that’s the hardest pic of zuck that I have ever seen

Pop Culture & Entertainment 2024-01-31 · ♥ 1,111 · ⟲ 34 · 🔖 79 · Permalink · View on X

It's time for a History of Singaporean Chinese people in Brownface 2012 UOB bollywood-themed party https://t.co/mqlMPe5VpT https://t.co/lhuF0VUyUp

Politics, Culture & Identity 2019-07-30 · ♥ 1,109 · ⟲ 2,268 · 🔖 135 · Permalink · View on X

🧐 https://t.co/dnMUpQbfyk

Random 2024-12-14 · ♥ 1,108 · ⟲ 31 · 🔖 126 · Permalink · View on X

@Ruesavatar this was kinda how my wife and i ended up getting married

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-03-16 · ♥ 1,108 · ⟲ 1 · 🔖 11 · Permalink · View on X

5. 4chan mimics zizek explaining 4chan https://t.co/IzxamoXeSz

Internet Culture 2024-11-15 · ♥ 1,106 · ⟲ 44 · 🔖 166 · Permalink · View on X

I say this with love: every single time a friend has said this about anything, jokingly or otherwise, I have to call them out and because it is always always ALWAYS wrong. If you haven’t gotten it already it isn’t because you aren’t being beaten hard enough or often enough

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-12-05 · ♥ 1,104 · ⟲ 54 · 🔖 455 · Permalink · View on X

when I think of a luxurious software experience I think of Christopher Nolan not having a phone at all, he has assistants who handle his correspondence and scheduling etc https://t.co/TwgmKzysot

Science & Technology 2024-05-23 · ♥ 1,104 · ⟲ 60 · 🔖 129 · Permalink · View on X

i remember watching this when I was 21 and dreading that my 30s would be even lonelier than my 20s ... atypical? but: my 30s have been fantastic so far, and I would say roughly since 28 i've had deep new connections with more people each year than i did in my entire life before

Life & Meaning 2025-04-06 · ♥ 1,098 · ⟲ 34 · 🔖 193 · Permalink · View on X

recurring conversation: me: I love how this abundance allows us more freedom to do what we love them: I liked the scarcity more because things were more meaningful when it was scarce me: ? you can still choose to allocate meaning to what u love them: that makes no sense to me

Philosophy 2024-08-15 · ♥ 1,090 · ⟲ 94 · 🔖 268 · Permalink · View on X

when i look at the young people I admire who are ambitious, the bottleneck keeping them from doing more rarely seems to be that their aspirations aren't high enough – the bigger issue tends to be that their thinking is muddled, often by social contagion

Sociocultural Commentary 2023-05-21 · ♥ 1,089 · ⟲ 107 · 🔖 481 · Permalink · View on X

one of my favorite type of person is the “yo let’s meet at a cafe with pen and paper and write down all our problems and then come up with creative novel solutions to those problems” type of dude. I’ve met I think <10 ppl who are really like this over the years

Friendship & Community 2023-02-06 · ♥ 1,089 · ⟲ 84 · 🔖 260 · Permalink · View on X

agreed. there were so many branches on the tech aesthetic tree that were just senselessly abandoned https://t.co/PqFm1mzsah

Science & Technology 2024-04-18 · ♥ 1,087 · ⟲ 92 · 🔖 111 · Permalink · View on X

I used to experiment with setups like these, and the complication is: if it’s light enough to move easily, it’ll move when you don’t want it to. If it’s heavy enough not to, it’s a pain to move. I can imagine a carpentry-nerd solution with locking mechanisms, but… carpentry https://t.co/h4pAnVK7N5

Art & Creativity 2024-06-06 · ♥ 1,085 · ⟲ 28 · 🔖 191 · Permalink · View on X

💊 https://t.co/mvHM4TGHaW

Random 2023-01-18 · ♥ 1,085 · ⟲ 112 · 🔖 109 · Permalink · View on X

same. a mild culture shock (a culture... jolt?) for me was discovering how many people identify as anxious overthinkers. i'm more aligned with feynman's vibe of "thinking solves problems". thinking is fun! if you're not having fun / solving problems you're doing it wrong imo

Psychology & Emotions 2024-07-24 · ♥ 1,083 · ⟲ 74 · 🔖 400 · Permalink · View on X

when did long 2020 end? might’ve been somewhere mid-2022 or 2023. If you asked me to give an answer right away I’d go with Jul 21 2023, aka Barbenheimer day. But idk there’s probably a better answer https://t.co/MePA4UcfOl

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-12-22 · ♥ 1,081 · ⟲ 34 · 🔖 121 · Permalink · View on X

i was really lucky in hindsight that my family's computer was far too shit to run world of warcraft, because i saw what it did to my friends and i know clearly in my heart that i would have been even worse https://t.co/bziOPdBV6u

Games 2024-08-10 · ♥ 1,080 · ⟲ 36 · 🔖 63 · Permalink · View on X

there’s a thing I often wish I could explain to people… but hilariously, it fits the same pattern I’m trying to explain: a lot of the most interesting, valuable things you can do are things that have very small windows of opportunity https://t.co/2sWzzC1off

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2025-02-21 · ♥ 1,076 · ⟲ 50 · 🔖 565 · Permalink · View on X

in my 30s i've been coming around to learning that most people are quite forgiving. i got burned really harshly in my teenage years by peers who would nuke multi-year friendships over perceived slights and i never quite realized that i'd been walking on eggshells for years since

Psychology & Emotions 2022-11-24 · ♥ 1,076 · ⟲ 63 · 🔖 85 · Permalink · View on X

a bunch of arguments on here fit the form of “you need flour to make a cake” “wtf idiot you need eggs” “wrong, you need flour, you have obviously never baked a cake in your life”

Sociocultural Commentary 2025-02-24 · ♥ 1,075 · ⟲ 72 · 🔖 97 · Permalink · View on X

you know what, fuck it, i'm casting an earnest wish into the sky for GTA 6 to heal gender relations

Games 2025-05-08 · ♥ 1,070 · ⟲ 34 · 🔖 67 · Permalink · View on X

https://t.co/5k6VoiwTt4 https://t.co/bcurofKmKo

Art & Creativity 2024-01-31 · ♥ 1,070 · ⟲ 43 · 🔖 103 · Permalink · View on X

steve jobs said a bunch of really insightful things over the years, but it can be surprisingly tedious to find them because there's so much noise from people over-quoting the inspirational babble. I find myself thinking this a few times a year; probably worth making my own set

Business & Markets 2018-12-18 · ♥ 1,070 · ⟲ 146 · 🔖 1,541 · Permalink · View on X

Story: You suck at something It bothers you, so you work hard at it & many years, through lots of pain and failure You are now good at the thing & it comes easy to you You look around and you see that most people suck at this Why don’t they just get good?? Being good rules!

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2019-02-07 · ♥ 1,068 · ⟲ 180 · 🔖 562 · Permalink · View on X

It’s my 34th birthday!! 🥳 if any of my writing or videos etc has ever helped you with anything, I would love love love to hear about it!! 🤓🙏🏾

Friendship & Community 2024-06-06 · ♥ 1,065 · ⟲ 18 · 🔖 80 · Permalink · View on X

people who feel constrained by shame will attempt to constrain others by shame. this works well until they try to do it to a shameless person who enjoys the attention

Psychology & Emotions 2024-10-22 · ♥ 1,064 · ⟲ 103 · 🔖 228 · Permalink · View on X

One of the biggest tells that someone doesn’t know what they’re talking about: glossing over addressing resource constraints, or saying things that imply infinite resources. Effectively everything is resource-constrained, & seasoned practitioners are especially sensitive to this https://t.co/DZi8XbYQqx

Work & Ambition 2019-04-02 · ♥ 1,063 · ⟲ 212 · 🔖 579 · Permalink · View on X

you can't do anything interesting without breaking from consensus, and you can't break from consensus without looking like an idiot to the people inside the consensus

Philosophy 2025-01-30 · ♥ 1,061 · ⟲ 126 · 🔖 225 · Permalink · View on X

wife and i were on a walk with our son and we witnessed an interesting conflict in another family unit. there was a wailing toddler asking her aunt(?) (cousin?) to carry her, and an older aunt(/grandma?) was insisting very forcefully that no!!, she must walk!!, dont be lazy!!!…

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-01-03 · ♥ 1,058 · ⟲ 31 · 🔖 317 · Permalink · View on X

The most powerful IRL interview/conversation/flirting skill isn’t asking good questions nearly as much as asking good followup questions - it’s being sensitive to interesting micro-reactions. When you ask a question and they respond “😂... no”, and you go “Why 😂?” Etc

Psychology & Emotions 2019-05-26 · ♥ 1,057 · ⟲ 175 · 🔖 706 · Permalink · View on X

"give them a fake job so they don't mess anything up" what are some examples of this in movies, tv, or best of all, in real life? https://t.co/kZsv5RCXqC

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-05-31 · ♥ 1,056 · ⟲ 68 · 🔖 307 · Permalink · View on X

found an old note to self https://t.co/oqUti0CRIK

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2025-03-22 · ♥ 1,055 · ⟲ 84 · 🔖 245 · Permalink · View on X

over the years I’ve found there’s a discernable “signature” to the way people are confidently wrong vs the way people are confidently right. it’s hard to pin down to any one element though. it’s discerned more ecologically. confidently wrong has a clunky bluntness to it

Psychology & Emotions 2024-11-22 · ♥ 1,055 · ⟲ 42 · 🔖 286 · Permalink · View on X

off the top of my head, a list of things i find myself always a little surprised to have to point out to people:

Observations & Humor 2024-03-27 · ♥ 1,055 · ⟲ 70 · 🔖 1,267 · Permalink · View on X

you can* make a living** saying “obvious” things because nothing is obvious to everyone

Work & Ambition 2023-10-11 · ♥ 1,055 · ⟲ 85 · 🔖 165 · Permalink · View on X

people who are very familiar with the technical aspect of a domain are often aghast at the simplistic, ‘suboptimal’ solutions that non-technical customers prefer. this is typically bc the expert has forgotten what it’s like to be low-info, low-context, low-complexity-tolerating

Psychology & Emotions 2025-05-15 · ♥ 1,050 · ⟲ 52 · 🔖 246 · Permalink · View on X

Idk how to put my finger on it but this is one of the most impressive videos I’ve ever seen. It uses assets from the latest Mortal Kombat game, which has been out for a while, but somehow it feels more real than most things. The animator got the body language etc really right https://t.co/pkMyLoXZhv

Games 2024-11-21 · ♥ 1,050 · ⟲ 76 · 🔖 345 · Permalink · View on X

I have a lot of thoughts about this, as someone who both tweets a lot and likes reading books I think for starters a lot of people do themselves a disservice by comparing their current/adult selves with their tutorial zone kid selves who read when there was little else to do

Books & Literature 2024-11-17 · ♥ 1,050 · ⟲ 54 · 🔖 308 · Permalink · View on X

best 2023 content so far

Observations & Humor 2023-02-27 · ♥ 1,049 · ⟲ 95 · 🔖 310 · Permalink · View on X

i believe strongly in the ratatouille rules: 1. anyone can cook 2. a great chef can come from anywhere, but not everyone can be a great chef

Film & TV 2023-06-03 · ♥ 1,045 · ⟲ 61 · 🔖 100 · Permalink · View on X

i don't explicitly use this phrase but I have a huge body of work about developing psychic defenses! (part of how it works is that you don't label it 'developing psychic defenses', because that itself attracts unnecessary attention/scrutiny). lemme freestyle some elaboration...

Psychology & Emotions 2024-11-08 · ♥ 1,044 · ⟲ 35 · 🔖 907 · Permalink · View on X

wife: have you thought about what you’re going to do with your child me: yea i think the first thing is to inform them about the nature of uncertainty

Romance, Parenting & Family 2023-10-04 · ♥ 1,044 · ⟲ 68 · 🔖 61 · Permalink · View on X

the big lesson of survivor bias is that you should optimize for being a survivor

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2020-08-16 · ♥ 1,044 · ⟲ 214 · 🔖 429 · Permalink · View on X

one of the funny quirks of the way humans and narratives work is that people tend to be more interested in the stories of those who struggle their way to success, than those who succeed without struggling imo this creates a distortion that struggle is more necessary than it is

Philosophy 2024-05-29 · ♥ 1,041 · ⟲ 99 · 🔖 302 · Permalink · View on X

huh; not sure I ever connected these two dots so directly before. makes a lot of sense

Psychology & Emotions 2025-11-12 · ♥ 1,040 · ⟲ 31 · 🔖 196 · Permalink · View on X

what I would tell my younger self personally: funnily what my has experience has taught me (painfully) is “get it back quickly” tends to be slower than “get it back slowly”. just get back to it when you can. all the fretting about speed is slowing you (past-Visa) down https://t.co/B5MeRmS9fa

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-05-03 · ♥ 1,040 · ⟲ 121 · 🔖 352 · Permalink · View on X

it is truly astounding how fast babies grow https://t.co/fTF2elb0QZ

Romance, Parenting & Family 2025-04-15 · ♥ 1,038 · ⟲ 3 · 🔖 14 · Permalink · View on X

a thing i learned from my wife is to be persistent in getting evasive people to answer a question my default mode was to just get along and let things slide etc, and i think part of what drew me to her even when we were kids was the sense that she had a power that i didn’t have

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-07-09 · ♥ 1,038 · ⟲ 55 · 🔖 256 · Permalink · View on X

the solution to “woe is me, for my mind is broken, and I possess only my broken mind to fix it”, is actually to interface with reality. like- grow a plant. make friends with regulars at a coffeeshop. take walks. play with lego. feed a bird. ride a bicycle. sing a song

Psychology & Emotions 2023-07-18 · ♥ 1,033 · ⟲ 120 · 🔖 215 · Permalink · View on X

a common misunderstanding i see when it comes to embarking on some sort of endeavor is assuming that a low probability event will likely never happen, rather than it being near-inevitable if you can persist long enough to take enough shots on target

Philosophy 2025-02-03 · ♥ 1,032 · ⟲ 69 · 🔖 311 · Permalink · View on X

imo: "if i listened to my body i would only eat fast food" is a v narrow band of listening. it's really only listening to the cravings, which is like only listening to someone when they're yelling. it's not listening to the discomfort afterwards, & everything else before n after https://t.co/PD5ykYfFoM

Health, Fitness & Body 2023-12-21 · ♥ 1,031 · ⟲ 72 · 🔖 218 · Permalink · View on X

periodic reminder that no matter how famous or busy a person is, if they love their work, they always like hearing specific details about how their work has impacted your life

Friendship & Community 2025-12-23 · ♥ 1,030 · ⟲ 58 · 🔖 140 · Permalink · View on X

people tend to struggle to understand network effects. a common question I’ve seen is something like “why should athletes be paid so much for kicking a ball”. but they’re not paid for kicking a ball exactly; they’re paid for entertaining millions of people

Business & Markets 2025-04-23 · ♥ 1,026 · ⟲ 51 · 🔖 176 · Permalink · View on X

I still can’t get over how dramatically different people are around me when I have my child around me vs not. Loads of people become way more open and warm, not just to my child but to me as well. I don’t think anybody explicitly told me this about fatherhood

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-08-17 · ♥ 1,025 · ⟲ 32 · 🔖 96 · Permalink · View on X

periodic reminder that you can simply refuse to rate anybody’s attractiveness on a 10-point scale

Sociocultural Commentary 2025-01-19 · ♥ 1,020 · ⟲ 76 · 🔖 100 · Permalink · View on X

Thinkwert is a top-tier misinformation *artist*, one of the best poasters of this age of twitter rn https://t.co/jxs763GtGT

Internet Culture 2023-09-07 · ♥ 1,019 · ⟲ 68 · 🔖 61 · Permalink · View on X

it might sound cheesy to say it but i think its worth saying from time to time: the quiet voice inside you that knows what’s good, is more important than approval from established players. ideally a good established player (senior, elder, senpai, etc) should encourage this

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-09-19 · ♥ 1,018 · ⟲ 97 · 🔖 158 · Permalink · View on X

basically everything in life is some form of a resource management game, and a lot of the seemingly-good-advice that's imo quite-bad-actually is often in the form of like "try to distribute your resources kinda evenly across everything". ie do all the things https://t.co/3743FSkvM1

Philosophy 2024-04-03 · ♥ 1,013 · ⟲ 73 · 🔖 308 · Permalink · View on X

if you scratch the surface of self-hate you’ll often find self-fear and there is a deep sadness and despair in that

Psychology & Emotions 2024-03-20 · ♥ 1,011 · ⟲ 100 · 🔖 260 · Permalink · View on X

Mean Girls clarified a lot about the world for me, more than probably 95% of books I've read. I often amuse friends by quoting it when talking about international relations (you can't sit with us!)

Film & TV 2018-02-28 · ♥ 1,008 · ⟲ 232 · 🔖 545 · Permalink · View on X

@fizzbhau @skyler_higley https://t.co/t2IMyyJQkR https://t.co/dOBI46jLA3

Random 2025-05-18 · ♥ 1,005 · ⟲ 42 · 🔖 198 · Permalink · View on X

slowly and increasingly convinced that the nietzschean yes-sayers are the most powerful beings on the planet https://t.co/YfB4CfJNRc

Philosophy 2022-07-22 · ♥ 1,001 · ⟲ 148 · 🔖 469 · Permalink · View on X

reminder for the new year: replying to stuff you think is bad will only show you more of it, this is true on basically all the apps. focus on what you want to see more of and scroll past what you don’t

Internet Culture 2024-01-01 · ♥ 1,000 · ⟲ 150 · 🔖 74 · Permalink · View on X

the hardest way to undo an addiction is to try to undo it the best way to undo an addiction is to do other things

Psychology & Emotions 2024-05-08 · ♥ 999 · ⟲ 79 · 🔖 259 · Permalink · View on X

if you're a field medic and you're surrounded by people who are in various degrees of incapacitation, one of the best choices you can make, is to help another field medic this is very obvious to gamers, idk how obvious it is to everyone else

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-01-10 · ♥ 999 · ⟲ 37 · 🔖 154 · Permalink · View on X

as long as I can remember, I always wanted to grow up and become an adult. Nothing about being weak, powerless, disregarded, etc ever appealed to me. When people said shit like “you’ll miss your childhood / the good old days” when I was 7, 10, 12, I’d think “Not Me” n I was right

Life & Meaning 2023-07-13 · ♥ 997 · ⟲ 81 · 🔖 81 · Permalink · View on X

An exercise I would guide my younger creative self through: 1. Make a list of your favorite works 2. List out everything bad, janky, poorly done etc about them 3. Notice how this does not diminish your love for the works 4. realize that this will be true of your work too

Art & Creativity 2022-02-23 · ♥ 997 · ⟲ 132 · 🔖 267 · Permalink · View on X

India and Nigeria are going to play a much larger role in mainstream international English-speaking culture. metrics-oriented influencers etc will increasingly pander to those audiences

Sociocultural Commentary 2025-02-19 · ♥ 994 · ⟲ 68 · 🔖 190 · Permalink · View on X

seeing multiple people say things like “I’ve tried this and it doesn’t work”. yeah, it’ll typically miss more than it hits. but you only really need it to hit once https://t.co/1MtkEy9S5u

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-11-14 · ♥ 988 · ⟲ 61 · 🔖 156 · Permalink · View on X

I started becoming successful on my own terms 10x faster once I decided to stop fixating on people’s imperfections. Utterances are especially ALWAYS imperfect. “How can this be interesting” “how might this be true” are much more nourishing questions than “why this is bad/wrong”

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-12-07 · ♥ 985 · ⟲ 57 · 🔖 351 · Permalink · View on X

@eigenrobot https://t.co/ySVaxmz1xA

Random 2025-03-25 · ♥ 984 · ⟲ 15 · 🔖 69 · Permalink · View on X

there are so many powerful moves you could make that are shaped like this rebrand <thing you want to do> as a <version of thing you're already doing> i like to think of cleaning my house as tuning my guitar but for living https://t.co/Lx4fWYNZpR

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-05-04 · ♥ 984 · ⟲ 83 · 🔖 457 · Permalink · View on X

had a bolt of clarity while on an evening walk that “focus on what you want to see more of” is even more powerful than I’ve been conveying, particularly, the corollary of “mostly* ignore** what you want to see less of” is also more powerful than I realized. more nuance here tho

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-02-16 · ♥ 984 · ⟲ 91 · 🔖 455 · Permalink · View on X

I read all 200+ replies and only about 4 people mention the solution which is that you can press upwards behind the balls to get the last drops out

Health, Fitness & Body 2025-05-21 · ♥ 982 · ⟲ 44 · 🔖 270 · Permalink · View on X

@saintdoII i think this is a good reference re: what we should be contextualizing her claims against https://t.co/JRWMQ1a2IM

Media & Journalism 2024-09-21 · ♥ 981 · ⟲ 7 · 🔖 41 · Permalink · View on X

This is an appreciation tweet for everyone who is quietly holding it together and not taking their shit out on anybody else. I appreciate you and I hope everything goes wonderfully for you 💐

Friendship & Community 2023-08-28 · ♥ 981 · ⟲ 105 · 🔖 46 · Permalink · View on X

I watched this video over a decade ago and still think about it all the time: Bobby McFerrin teaches the audience to be his backing track and performs a song with them in real time https://t.co/vWjO0Dm5nQ

Music 2020-06-08 · ♥ 980 · ⟲ 255 · 🔖 298 · Permalink · View on X

it's funny how people will make up blatant fanfiction about other people's motivations, internal lives, private circumstances, etc and then articulate nuanced opinions about those entirely fictitious scenarios

Psychology & Emotions 2024-07-19 · ♥ 978 · ⟲ 128 · 🔖 113 · Permalink · View on X

might change my mind on this later but rn in this moment i feel like the biggest lie i've been told in my life has been abt the nature of distraction. or u could say the nature of attention. it seems to me that the misunderstanding of it is woven into the fabric of civilization

Philosophy 2024-03-28 · ♥ 978 · ⟲ 66 · 🔖 882 · Permalink · View on X

this is what i thought about myself from ages 12 to 22 before i came to realize that (in my personal case) it was a cover story designed to protect my feelings. to insulate me from effort shock and the pain of mediocrity. "lazy" for me was a smoke screen to mask "incompetent" https://t.co/CKJ3IvFWyO

Psychology & Emotions 2023-04-15 · ♥ 977 · ⟲ 77 · 🔖 348 · Permalink · View on X

I wish I had saved the quote but I read something once about men in Florence complaining that you could no longer distinguish proper women from whores https://t.co/pnZd8cRfAJ

History 2024-08-15 · ♥ 972 · ⟲ 33 · 🔖 182 · Permalink · View on X

My last two active neurons every night https://t.co/UanxTX7MW8

Observations & Humor 2022-12-22 · ♥ 970 · ⟲ 141 · 🔖 160 · Permalink · View on X

if Jeff Bezos gave up his entire networth, you could run the US military for ~90 days If you liquidated both Bill Gates & Elon Musk too, you could get to maybe ~180 days Throw Zuck into the grinder & you squeeze out another ~45 days You’d still need ~$200B+ to finish the year

Politics, Culture & Identity 2020-08-08 · ♥ 969 · ⟲ 169 · 🔖 56 · Permalink · View on X

i have routinely bungled my top 1% of social interactions this way. i still havent replied to an email derek sivers sent me like a decade ago

Psychology & Emotions 2023-12-30 · ♥ 967 · ⟲ 32 · 🔖 174 · Permalink · View on X

it's remarkably difficult to explain california buddhism to a barely-online southeast asian culturally buddhist fella. where do i even start. first you have to explain white people

Religion 2023-01-09 · ♥ 967 · ⟲ 54 · 🔖 48 · Permalink · View on X

I had such a fantastic time in New York and I think it’s because for the first time in my life I was in a city where the external situation really reflected my internal reality https://t.co/VHNVIbmzzW

Travel & Place 2023-10-31 · ♥ 964 · ⟲ 42 · 🔖 101 · Permalink · View on X

i think a lot of people's idea of intelligence is really informed by a fictitious model of some sherlock holmes type character who never makes mistakes. they particularly seem to fail to separate positive-variance maxxing with negative-variance-minimizing

Psychology & Emotions 2025-02-09 · ♥ 963 · ⟲ 66 · 🔖 266 · Permalink · View on X

for me the greatest joy in life is having people who make a conscientious effort to understand you and are eager to keep speaking with you for 50+ years

Life & Meaning 2024-01-05 · ♥ 962 · ⟲ 106 · 🔖 148 · Permalink · View on X

always tickles me to reflect on how i basically dont need to have a job because i spent 20+ years putting in slightly more effort than everyone else at writing good replies on the internet

Internet Culture 2024-07-18 · ♥ 961 · ⟲ 19 · 🔖 219 · Permalink · View on X

people treat pets with the love they’d like to give other people if they weren’t afraid of getting hurt

Psychology & Emotions 2022-05-22 · ♥ 961 · ⟲ 107 · 🔖 94 · Permalink · View on X

when i was a teenager i used to go to the gym regularly, ineffectually, trying to gain weight. i was stuck at 64.5kg for years, feeling like i was cursed to never see 65kg yesterday i crossed 90kg for the first time in my life 🥹

Health, Fitness & Body 2024-02-07 · ♥ 960 · ⟲ 7 · 🔖 112 · Permalink · View on X

painful lesson over the past ~20 years of relationships: in the medium run it’s exciting to feel hype about people who seem to relate strongly in specific ways, but in long run it’s really how you handle misunderstandings, conflict, confusion, disagreement that go the distance

Romance, Parenting & Family 2022-10-17 · ♥ 959 · ⟲ 95 · 🔖 189 · Permalink · View on X

@_oBalla @padeliciouss Oh man this has to be it

Observations & Humor 2023-06-15 · ♥ 958 · 🔖 1 · Permalink · View on X

@1929stockcrash fwiw, my actual wife takes great pleasure in saying precisely the things that I might be foolish enough to put on a “things my wife would never say” list

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-06-15 · ♥ 957 · ⟲ 14 · 🔖 20 · Permalink · View on X

💎 https://t.co/oJQYYw2jFC

Random 2022-02-01 · ♥ 955 · ⟲ 240 · 🔖 392 · Permalink · View on X

@TonyMichaelX inside you there are two weebs https://t.co/qOgzKvzt8v

Pop Culture & Entertainment 2026-03-30 · ♥ 954 · ⟲ 24 · 🔖 87 · Permalink · View on X

the ant circle of death has been weighing on me a lot recently because if you meditate on it for a while and allow it to abstract itself you start seeing how it happens in human systems too https://t.co/XAhzb4GT2U

Philosophy 2021-12-14 · ♥ 954 · ⟲ 210 · 🔖 189 · Permalink · View on X

https://t.co/vTHoY81R9m

Random 2025-04-19 · ♥ 952 · ⟲ 30 · 🔖 41 · Permalink · View on X

this is a principle of storytelling I’ve been obsessing about for a while now, I tend to phrase it as “heft”, and I’ve been keeping a lookout for good egs of it vs bad egs of it. My guess is Nolan didn’t bother too much bc he took for granted that the audience would do it for him https://t.co/YrKmjMAgCq

Art & Creativity 2024-04-02 · ♥ 951 · ⟲ 41 · 🔖 542 · Permalink · View on X

having a microwave is so crazy. my ancestors made stuff hot by putting it atop fires, meanwhile ima reheat my tea by using magnets and an electron stream to generate high-frequency radiation that agitate the water molecules

Observations & Humor 2023-09-27 · ♥ 951 · ⟲ 93 · 🔖 40 · Permalink · View on X

when my son is sleeping on my chest, from time to time he will do this big stretch, lifting his head up as high as he can, and then at the top of that stretch he lets go and falls back on my chest with a big plop. its the cutest fucken thing i have ever experienced

Romance, Parenting & Family 2023-10-30 · ♥ 950 · ⟲ 14 · 🔖 29 · Permalink · View on X

with love: in my view, this isn’t ADHD itself, but punitive, coercive self-bullying. It’s likely inherited from the people in your life who didn’t know how to deal with your ADHD. This is *mismanagement* of ADHD (it’s not your fault if you don’t know better), not ADHD itself

Psychology & Emotions 2021-06-16 · ♥ 950 · ⟲ 191 · 🔖 528 · Permalink · View on X

some low executive function people have a lot of highly-focused executive function when it comes to defending and arguing for their position, which I’ve always thought is fascinating. Like there was that lady one time who wrote like a 30+ tweet thread about how she can’t do stuff https://t.co/xdD3PTOLJD

Psychology & Emotions 2023-10-12 · ♥ 949 · ⟲ 36 · 🔖 198 · Permalink · View on X

one of my favorite moments from Aaron Swartz (RIP 👑) was when he gave a talk, asked for questions, and then after a beat said something like “if you don’t ask me anything I’m going to start lecturing you about the economics of micro-loans(?).” Made something click for me

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-09-21 · ♥ 948 · ⟲ 30 · 🔖 126 · Permalink · View on X

part of the reason this works is because it’s absurd and cheerfully leans into the absurdity. whenever I see American-made AI slop on my timeline it’s things like “Hancock vs Homelander, this is going to bankrupt Hollywood!!” and it’s a broken half-baked mess. Exception: Sora cat

Internet Culture 2026-03-27 · ♥ 947 · ⟲ 36 · 🔖 151 · Permalink · View on X

btw i've put on more muscle mass in the past 5 months than in any 5 month period of my entire life the simplest approach i've ever used kettlebell overhead tricep extensions + bent over rows, several sets a day drinking lots of chocolate milk + soybean milk by the carton https://t.co/WXEwNRImrb

Health, Fitness & Body 2024-03-25 · ♥ 947 · ⟲ 9 · 🔖 691 · Permalink · View on X

tokugawa ieyasu: "upon victory, tighten the cords of your helmet" https://t.co/JjDIiVyNRa

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-08-20 · ♥ 945 · ⟲ 57 · 🔖 73 · Permalink · View on X

the thing I love about the format here is how it resembles sanctum-within-a-sanctum architecture. If it opened with just a guy preaching about loving life, it wouldnt get this sort of reception. It’s the layered framing ▣, the dream within the dream where the magic happens

Art & Creativity 2025-10-12 · ♥ 944 · ⟲ 50 · 🔖 276 · Permalink · View on X

one of my goals in life is to be as Nyquist-y as I can be, for as many of the best possible people I can be that for, for as long as possible https://t.co/6sq0bBcBKt

Friendship & Community 2024-03-10 · ♥ 943 · ⟲ 72 · 🔖 267 · Permalink · View on X

The Witcher might seem like it’s about fantasy and magic and swordfighting but really it’s about the struggles of being a freelancer

Film & TV 2019-12-26 · ♥ 942 · ⟲ 276 · 🔖 24 · Permalink · View on X

putting a smartphone in everyone's hands set off the largest seismic activity in the history of humanity's collective nervous system. it's still ongoing and we are still dealing with the absolute clusterfuck of it all. nobody is "qualified" to "handle" this

Internet Culture 2022-10-11 · ♥ 940 · ⟲ 79 · 🔖 97 · Permalink · View on X

@AskYatharth quiet is cheaper than justice and schools don’t have the budget for the latter https://t.co/XSlcfR7nYo

Education & Learning 2024-01-16 · ♥ 939 · ⟲ 74 · 🔖 79 · Permalink · View on X

if you say you're ambitious, but you don't have a body of work you can point at, you should STFU and build the body of work first. even if it's a bunch of notes and drafts and crappy prototypes or whatever. code your apps, write your plays and poems. I will die on this hill.

Work & Ambition 2021-10-21 · ♥ 939 · ⟲ 190 · 🔖 374 · Permalink · View on X

it’s fascinating to me that people struggle to imagine meaningful things other than kids or travel. the obvious answer to me is ‘community service’, and there are 1000s of ways you could define that. you could mentor kids. you could host dinner parties. someone near u needs help! https://t.co/hwytnn21Rp

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-12-18 · ♥ 938 · ⟲ 47 · 🔖 126 · Permalink · View on X

sometimes people think their bottleneck is time but it’s actually the absence of a supportive context

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2022-05-20 · ♥ 938 · ⟲ 152 · 🔖 285 · Permalink · View on X

for me it's always startling to witness how much people forget every ~10 years. so many people forget so much that it creates the illusion of a new standalone reality. retcons and memoryholes everywhere. but the new reality is always downstream of the prior reality

Philosophy 2024-07-13 · ♥ 937 · ⟲ 68 · 🔖 132 · Permalink · View on X

how you budget your attention is at *least* as important as how you budget your money

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-05-01 · ♥ 936 · ⟲ 130 · 🔖 236 · Permalink · View on X

a good 80% of the best posters i knew, quit. we're left with the comparatively mediocre survivors. and i bet this was true for like, all of literature. maybe all of everything

Internet Culture 2023-11-18 · ♥ 935 · ⟲ 31 · 🔖 114 · Permalink · View on X

@DefenderOfBasic yea there was this crazy incident in singapore a couple of years ago where there was this big accident and a woman was on fire for like 2 mins and nobody seemed to realize. similar to the methanol thing someone linked

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-11-26 · ♥ 934 · ⟲ 10 · 🔖 46 · Permalink · View on X

I suspect that school cannot teach people to be less gullible significantly because school is a system of entrenching gullibility. Hard to explain in a tweet but loosely school is a fixed frame that gives you a predictable OODA loop that bad actors can weasel into

Education & Learning 2024-03-30 · ♥ 933 · ⟲ 92 · 🔖 207 · Permalink · View on X

a while ago some people were dismissing James Clear’s Atomic Habits with “it isn’t habits that matter, but identity”, which I found really annoying because he talks about this *right from the start*. if you’re gonna dunk on something at least get your facts straight https://t.co/bWfS1eJ1kv

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-01-15 · ♥ 933 · ⟲ 64 · 🔖 514 · Permalink · View on X

“insightful visuals” thread 1. Improvement vs perceived improvement https://t.co/gOCucvURFf

Psychology & Emotions 2018-11-25 · ♥ 933 · ⟲ 183 · 🔖 946 · Permalink · View on X

always pretty sad to see how flippant people are about other people's coping mechanisms that they don't relate to like i've never had a problem with say, binge eating, but i know that "just eat less lmao" isn't going to work bc i have been haunted and hounded by my own demons

Psychology & Emotions 2024-09-04 · ♥ 932 · ⟲ 60 · 🔖 160 · Permalink · View on X

i never liked mornings before i love mornings now https://t.co/6LXYpZmaJn

Life & Meaning 2023-12-02 · ♥ 932 · ⟲ 7 · 🔖 11 · Permalink · View on X

one of my favorite memes this decade was Creamsicle, from 2012 – it started by riffing off of someone's "i'm not like other girls" post (not sure if meant to be ironic) and then tumblr said "make love not war" and shipped them together https://t.co/4wUKHaCe3b

Internet Culture 2019-12-17 · ♥ 931 · ⟲ 310 · 🔖 62 · Permalink · View on X

(terrible music, so watch it on mute) this was one of the most interesting trends on tiktok because imo it really revealed how much of age is embodied in mannerisms. the moms don't just dress like their daughters, they also MOVE like them, and look *physically* younger for it

Sociocultural Commentary 2025-05-05 · ♥ 928 · ⟲ 40 · 🔖 313 · Permalink · View on X

Yo you know that thing you started a while ago and made a bit of progress on but then sorta abandoned? Do me a favor and go back to it and just update it a little bit. Nothing dramatic just move stuff around, look at it, add a lil thing here and there

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2022-05-14 · ♥ 927 · ⟲ 129 · 🔖 122 · Permalink · View on X

@missnakamura333 https://t.co/TSwCd9dTUx

Random 2025-04-26 · ♥ 926 · ⟲ 52 · 🔖 64 · Permalink · View on X

i tweeted thousands of tweets for many years for basically 0 replies 0 retweets 0 likes

Internet Culture 2024-02-15 · ♥ 926 · ⟲ 42 · 🔖 86 · Permalink · View on X

meiguo roon implies the existence of zhongguo roon https://t.co/3wXk3AadcA

Observations & Humor 2025-01-30 · ♥ 925 · ⟲ 23 · 🔖 52 · Permalink · View on X

most people will agree that it's good to play long games, but in the short run people do often get flustered or critical when you seem to don't have much to show for it. this is understandable. it's part of why so few people persist all the way through. the dip is disheartening https://t.co/UUJi4fvnUC

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-05-28 · ♥ 925 · ⟲ 77 · 🔖 294 · Permalink · View on X

one of the best things about my part of twitter from ~2015-2021 or so was that it was full of people working on active, ongoing intellectual projects, and everyone casually riffing in each other's replies was very fruitful. from my pov this feels like it's diminished maybe 80%

Internet Culture 2025-07-07 · ♥ 924 · ⟲ 40 · 🔖 143 · Permalink · View on X

when im out and about with my very pregnant wife i can feel people being kinder and gentler with me too. like physically im less “tall dark man who might be a threat” and more “dad-to-be who is nervously protecting his family unit”

Sociocultural Commentary 2023-09-18 · ♥ 919 · ⟲ 17 · 🔖 35 · Permalink · View on X

sometimes you don’t even need advice or feedback, you may just need someone you can witness yourself thinking out loud to

Psychology & Emotions 2024-02-04 · ♥ 917 · ⟲ 129 · 🔖 143 · Permalink · View on X

rocking my son back to sleep at 3am one night I was struck by a deep feeling in my heart that every single one of my ancestors was once a baby that someone had to care for, just as I was doing. I felt that runaway chain of love just bursting out of me echoing thru time https://t.co/FQKLVVLYD7

Romance, Parenting & Family 2025-01-23 · ♥ 915 · ⟲ 41 · 🔖 74 · Permalink · View on X

my son is 7 months old and i still cant believe he’s real sometimes. this whole-ass lil guy just hanging out in my house giggling and being silly. we made him! he looks just like us! its so crazy man

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-05-23 · ♥ 914 · ⟲ 10 · 🔖 46 · Permalink · View on X

https://t.co/lC9ULLKjPA

Random 2024-11-25 · ♥ 912 · ⟲ 40 · 🔖 46 · Permalink · View on X

if you get skilled at collaborating you can basically get everything you want. extremely overpowered skill tree and they’ve never managed to nerf it

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-02-18 · ♥ 912 · ⟲ 80 · 🔖 406 · Permalink · View on X

Philip K. Dick: "It really seems to me that in the midst of great tragedy, there is always the possibility that something terribly funny will happen." https://t.co/t6HnrcSjop

Life & Meaning 2023-08-25 · ♥ 911 · ⟲ 91 · 🔖 218 · Permalink · View on X

nothing is truly original but 1. ayy lmao 2. focus... (see bio) 3. joke about outcomes you want 4. optimize for survival 5. do 100 things 6. solve for distribution 7. articulate your vector 8. greatness is deviance 9. thinking is easy, info architecture is hard 10. psychofauna https://t.co/VPY4Dj4w9U

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-06-30 · ♥ 907 · ⟲ 49 · 🔖 519 · Permalink · View on X

random old Japanese guy wins the entire Olympics https://t.co/3C8fH4qiWI

Sports 2021-07-29 · ♥ 907 · ⟲ 91 · 🔖 11 · Permalink · View on X

@TechEmails "will be picked up by MTV and Maxim right away" – is now bigger than both combined by at least an order of magnitude!

Internet Culture 2024-06-01 · ♥ 905 · ⟲ 9 · 🔖 25 · Permalink · View on X

one of my goals in life is, I wanna find all the kids who get in trouble for doing things, and introduce them to people who'd pay them to do it https://t.co/OvBtPgxRVC

Work & Ambition 2021-06-02 · ♥ 904 · ⟲ 146 · 🔖 29 · Permalink · View on X

the annoying thing to me about “an AI generated this piece” is that it overlooks the human input that produced it. you can give the same AI tool to everyone, but not everyone is going to come up with equally interesting material. it still takes taste persistence to work thru https://t.co/zbhe5aU28D

Science & Technology 2023-09-23 · ♥ 903 · ⟲ 66 · 🔖 82 · Permalink · View on X

now this is cinema https://t.co/6bLd1Rcajy

Film & TV 2023-01-02 · ♥ 903 · ⟲ 90 · 🔖 39 · Permalink · View on X

I spent ~25 years of my life developing what I might call a “~correct answer generator” in my head. I put it together from doing a lot of reading and thinking and talking to people. This has been at the heart of a lot of what has gone well in my life. But lately I’m reflecting…

Psychology & Emotions 2025-10-16 · ♥ 902 · ⟲ 28 · 🔖 439 · Permalink · View on X

every day is all there is

Life & Meaning 2024-11-02 · ♥ 901 · ⟲ 83 · 🔖 141 · Permalink · View on X

everyone has a troubleshooting system. a baby’s is to cry until the problem goes away. as we get older we typically develop somewhat more sophisticated systems. a big threshold to cross in life is when you realize that your troubleshooting system itself needs troubleshooting

Philosophy 2024-03-25 · ♥ 901 · ⟲ 82 · 🔖 242 · Permalink · View on X

been publicly wrong is how I learn being privately wrong is a lot slower when there’s nobody to correct you

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-01-18 · ♥ 900 · ⟲ 62 · 🔖 119 · Permalink · View on X

@Duderichy had to look it up https://t.co/z9bpTtpaUk

Random 2023-12-29 · ♥ 898 · ⟲ 2 · 🔖 108 · Permalink · View on X

there’s a great essay and book titled “more sex is safer sex” that basically makes this point: deterrents for bad actors can deter good actors more than it deters bad actors, resulting in a higher concentration of bad actors than before

Sociocultural Commentary 2022-11-30 · ♥ 898 · ⟲ 62 · 🔖 270 · Permalink · View on X

some of yall should reduce your twitter usage by ~98% and instead read 100 good books and write 500,000 words of introspective journalling and then you can return with real textual finesse

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-04-28 · ♥ 897 · ⟲ 111 · 🔖 161 · Permalink · View on X

hall of fame tweet, I can’t believe this is the first time I’m seeing it https://t.co/OwaDT2GR7t

Observations & Humor 2024-06-15 · ♥ 896 · ⟲ 18 · 🔖 55 · Permalink · View on X

@ellegist I think it’s quite telling that he doesn’t say anything about the child. what’s the plan there??

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-02-06 · ♥ 894 · ⟲ 4 · 🔖 11 · Permalink · View on X

Meeting internet friends from around the world is always a huge highlight of my life and fills me with a lot of gratitude. Despite the wanton amounts of rampant fuckery on here, there are good, fun, kind, interesting people worth hanging out with

Friendship & Community 2018-05-31 · ♥ 894 · ⟲ 88 · 🔖 175 · Permalink · View on X

chronically, hastily, anxiously initiating projects of change turns out to be a more effective way of enforcing stasis than gently facing and accepting the full truth of one’s situation (which often leads to change quite naturally)

Life & Meaning 2023-11-29 · ♥ 892 · ⟲ 81 · 🔖 365 · Permalink · View on X

me to me: if you're trying to do some work, and you experience resistance against doing the work, it's worth identifying and articulating that resistance, and then integrating it *into* the work. once the resistance is *inside* the work, it doesn't need to act *against* the work

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-07-16 · ♥ 888 · ⟲ 69 · 🔖 289 · Permalink · View on X

I’m kinda emotional about the end of dialup. It was, in my lifetime, the world of the new. the exciting sound of the frontier. soon it will be a curious relic of the past. the waves of time crash on the shores of reality, every moment precious and fleeting and making and unmaking

Life & Meaning 2025-08-10 · ♥ 887 · ⟲ 60 · 🔖 130 · Permalink · View on X

recurringly sad thing to encounter is the kind of person who cringes at the exact thing that would solve their problems if they simply accepted it. but of course there's typically a good reason why they're cringing at it, so there's a secondary thing they have to address first

Psychology & Emotions 2023-06-13 · ♥ 883 · ⟲ 61 · 🔖 169 · Permalink · View on X

“creative but easily distractible” is often a cover for people who are afraid to ship anything because it’ll mean seeing their imperfections actualized, having their work judged, etc, and infinite agents may not be enough to help them

Psychology & Emotions 2026-02-17 · ♥ 882 · ⟲ 50 · 🔖 184 · Permalink · View on X

every infodumper should get tattoos about their favorite things "nice tattoo! what does it mean?" [laser eyes] u just activated my trap card

Observations & Humor 2022-07-19 · ♥ 882 · ⟲ 149 · 🔖 23 · Permalink · View on X

i love how this one tweet hits at like 3 of my best talking points https://t.co/irxPl5LDDX

Internet Culture 2024-04-29 · ♥ 881 · ⟲ 45 · 🔖 510 · Permalink · View on X

the secret ingredient to almost everything good is simply giving a shit

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2021-09-20 · ♥ 881 · ⟲ 132 · 🔖 181 · Permalink · View on X

news sites have clearly learned how to use a variant of cunningham's law ("the best way to get the right answer on the internet is not to ask a question; it's to post the wrong answer") in order to maximize engagement and traffic

Media & Journalism 2019-02-01 · ♥ 880 · ⟲ 266 · 🔖 109 · Permalink · View on X

ppl saying "this won't build the world's best doctor" are sorta missing the forest for the trees imo. what it'd technically build is the world's most insane medical nerd. interacting w such an entity wud have a remarkable effect on srs curious ppl, even if it's wrong sometimes

Science & Technology 2024-01-18 · ♥ 878 · ⟲ 51 · 🔖 157 · Permalink · View on X

doing a mental audit of things I’ve been stressed about vs things that cost/hurt me, and it’s very strange to really face how little correlation there is between the two. it’s like having a really loud, incompetent assistant who has no sense of priority or proportion

Psychology & Emotions 2025-11-26 · ♥ 875 · ⟲ 64 · 🔖 226 · Permalink · View on X

the closer my wife and i get over the years, the more we trust each other, the more psychologically and emotionally safe we feel with each other… the more worrisome a transcript of our conversations would look without context

Romance, Parenting & Family 2023-05-31 · ♥ 873 · ⟲ 25 · 🔖 61 · Permalink · View on X

finding out the origin of the name of this color Chartreuse was such a fckin trip. "It was named because of its resemblance to the green color of a French liqueur called green chartreuse, introduced in 1764." ok, why is the drink called that? https://t.co/Cpt8e44R8c

Language & Linguistics 2022-07-30 · ♥ 872 · ⟲ 116 · 🔖 225 · Permalink · View on X

in this world / we walk on the roof of hell / gazing at flowers -kobayashi issa

Life & Meaning 2012-12-15 · ♥ 870 · ⟲ 172 · 🔖 329 · Permalink · View on X

I am never leaving this site https://t.co/mwAdNr9jit

Internet Culture 2024-08-02 · ♥ 868 · ⟲ 29 · 🔖 54 · Permalink · View on X

I’m sure nobody who’s flinched from my irl presence ever meant anything by it personally but being out and about with a child and being received warmly by strangers really breaks my heart for my pre-dad self, and for dangerous-looking soft-hearted men everywhere

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-02-04 · ♥ 868 · ⟲ 24 · 🔖 124 · Permalink · View on X

when I was miserable some people advised me not to be honest about that on main in case it made people feel bad when I became happy and successful (on my own terms) some people advised me not to be honest about that on main in case it made people feel bad

Internet Culture 2024-09-16 · ♥ 867 · ⟲ 32 · 🔖 99 · Permalink · View on X

To the Asian kids who wonder if their parents might be nicer to them if they had achieved more in life: lately I’ve been hearing from my ultra-high-achiever friends that their parents guilt them with “oh, you very smart lah, you know everything, we stupid lah” TLDR you can’t win

Romance, Parenting & Family 2018-11-20 · ♥ 867 · ⟲ 364 · 🔖 77 · Permalink · View on X

my dad has been buying my mom her-age-in-roses every birthday since she was 19. She is now 67: 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹 https://t.co/umw4RlvkvS

Romance, Parenting & Family 2025-03-01 · ♥ 865 · ⟲ 30 · 🔖 41 · Permalink · View on X

i assume this old xkcd (2044) is about technology, and/but it's also interestingly similar to the hedgehog's dilemma https://t.co/G0rKKddsK3

Philosophy 2023-09-15 · ♥ 865 · ⟲ 57 · 🔖 134 · Permalink · View on X

recurring pattern I’ve seen in both others and myself 1. try to do stuff 2. approach it badly 3. scold self for (2) instead of trying to improve the approach 4. approach remains bad so stuff doesn’t get done repeat loop

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-11-04 · ♥ 862 · ⟲ 57 · 🔖 272 · Permalink · View on X

(overheard in a bookstore) girl: the world is so big… her friend: are you having an existential crisis? girl: I love the world https://t.co/diUDKGdDpx

Life & Meaning 2023-08-11 · ♥ 861 · ⟲ 56 · 🔖 26 · Permalink · View on X

this is very illustrative. there are over a billion people in India. what are the odds that two people would meet and photograph the same guy, and then meet on twitter? pretty high, actually! if the guy pictured makes it a point to go where visiting photogs go, and insist on pics

Internet Culture 2024-12-15 · ♥ 858 · ⟲ 25 · 🔖 114 · Permalink · View on X

it’s amazing to me sometimes that the world functions at all https://t.co/kCdFSCGpsT

Observations & Humor 2023-07-21 · ♥ 858 · ⟲ 47 · 🔖 31 · Permalink · View on X

it’s actually possible to be too persuasive or too charming for your own good. as with any other power tool (including wealth, intelligence and beauty), the more of it you have, the more corresponding wisdom you need in order to wield it without hurting yourself and others

Philosophy 2024-07-05 · ♥ 857 · ⟲ 62 · 🔖 214 · Permalink · View on X

reflecting on how all my life it seemed like there was such a tremendous emphasis on the value of being cerebrally clever, and yet how all of the really wicked problems I’ve had + I’ve known people around me to have had, have come from incompetence with emotions, below the neck

Psychology & Emotions 2025-07-19 · ♥ 854 · ⟲ 60 · 🔖 230 · Permalink · View on X

one of my casual beliefs is that a person who is an outlier on a couple of dimensions is more likely, not less, to be an outlier on even more dimensions. ie, a person who is demonstrably weird in at least 3 ways seems to me to be likelier-than-not to be weird in 7+ ways

Philosophy 2022-12-25 · ♥ 853 · ⟲ 18 · 🔖 100 · Permalink · View on X

sometimes vagueness is the correct amount of precision

Philosophy 2024-01-24 · ♥ 852 · ⟲ 133 · 🔖 106 · Permalink · View on X

@ChadNotChud https://t.co/Y8SL2fzKjF

Random 2022-05-21 · ♥ 852 · ⟲ 46 · 🔖 72 · Permalink · View on X

chaos-surfing well requires understanding a buncha things 1. how things appear to me are not necessarily how they are 2. what people say is not necessarily what they mean 3. what is said/shown is not necessarily all there is 4. what is true for me may not be true for you

Philosophy 2024-05-24 · ♥ 851 · ⟲ 136 · 🔖 639 · Permalink · View on X

if you want people to really understand something, you'll often have to get them to see it dozens of times in dozens of different ways over several years. those who get it quick are typically those who were already on the cusp of seeing it thanks to their preceding experience

Education & Learning 2023-12-19 · ♥ 851 · ⟲ 88 · 🔖 171 · Permalink · View on X

just realized you can watch Netflix in Japanese, which makes it feel like an anime https://t.co/S0G5gm9i1j

Film & TV 2022-01-10 · ♥ 851 · ⟲ 148 · 🔖 53 · Permalink · View on X

References I use pretty often:

Random 2020-11-30 · ♥ 851 · ⟲ 109 · 🔖 1,467 · Permalink · View on X

if one person who writes a poem or story that moves me to tears, tells me to take cold showers and do all that morning routine bro shit, I would do it up until now, afaik, those two circles have not intersected

Art & Creativity 2023-01-03 · ♥ 850 · ⟲ 33 · 🔖 77 · Permalink · View on X

I wanna hear stories about people picking up skills for silly/arbitrary reasons that ended up serving them well later in life. Or more broadly, any silly-arbitrary thing that ended up being consequential. Tell me ur stories

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2022-12-16 · ♥ 850 · ⟲ 56 · 🔖 238 · Permalink · View on X

what if you did a tiny little bit of the thing you’re avoiding, but like, as a joke

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2022-02-08 · ♥ 849 · ⟲ 96 · 🔖 83 · Permalink · View on X

fitness isn't my forte but i've seen this general class of issue spoil a lot of things in premature optimization. eg if you wanna become a youtuber and you just started a youtube channel, the only thing that matters is that you're excited about making your next video. that's IT https://t.co/kdrif8KaWe

Work & Ambition 2024-08-01 · ♥ 848 · ⟲ 43 · 🔖 228 · Permalink · View on X

a sustainable long-term strategy in anything cannot depend on getting everyone to stop misunderstanding and misrepresenting you

Philosophy 2024-07-06 · ♥ 848 · ⟲ 129 · 🔖 172 · Permalink · View on X

@ChannelNewsAsia “had sex with”

Language & Linguistics 2018-08-12 · ♥ 848 · ⟲ 39 · Permalink · View on X

caring for a newborn is sort of like that stage in a video game where you lose all your powers and weapons and stats and you have to get by with your most basic wits and ingenuity. literal escort mission lol

Romance, Parenting & Family 2023-10-26 · ♥ 847 · ⟲ 32 · 🔖 35 · Permalink · View on X

When people say “Indian food” or “Chinese food”, they’re typically talking about a narrow band of whatever’s been imported to their region and presented to them as such. 3 billion people eat a lot more than two types of food. Even these maps are hideously oversimplified https://t.co/vtkZmfNWo7

Food & Dining 2019-11-24 · ♥ 847 · ⟲ 254 · 🔖 85 · Permalink · View on X

I once interviewed like a dozen entrepreneurs my last job and imo the funny thing imo is basically even entrepreneurs don’t particularly want to be their own boss, they just fucking can’t stand working for someone else https://t.co/t7I1TmqLVn

Work & Ambition 2023-05-11 · ♥ 846 · ⟲ 42 · 🔖 97 · Permalink · View on X

imposter syndrome cannot be solved by working harder. because the problem isn't how we feel about ourselves, the problem is that we lack an understanding of the interiority of others. writer's block cannot be solved by working harder, for similar reasons

Psychology & Emotions 2023-06-09 · ♥ 845 · ⟲ 67 · 🔖 284 · Permalink · View on X

I have sometimes transformed a hater into a friend just by asking them to consider “why do you think I said that? what experiences do you think I might have had that led to me saying that?”

Friendship & Community 2023-08-21 · ♥ 844 · ⟲ 75 · 🔖 191 · Permalink · View on X

connected a few dots i’ve been simmering on for years now oversimplified: one of the reasons there arent ~“simple solutions to everybody’s human problems” is that what sets off a cascade of insight for someone at one tier of wretchedness can worsen things for someone below

Philosophy 2024-11-03 · ♥ 842 · ⟲ 45 · 🔖 417 · Permalink · View on X

our ancestors got picked off by megafauna, our peers get picked off by psychofauna

Internet Culture 2022-11-05 · ♥ 839 · ⟲ 158 · 🔖 159 · Permalink · View on X

11 years ago i did one of my best replies ever https://t.co/zonsXDFqgU

Internet Culture 2025-04-26 · ♥ 837 · ⟲ 19 · 🔖 38 · Permalink · View on X

just realized I crossed an amazing milestone 90 days ago: I have now been a feral free agent for longer than I was ever a salaried employee (5.5 years), and I’ve also actually made more money since! Gangster shit. I would like to thank Me for being a bad motherfucker

Work & Ambition 2024-02-23 · ♥ 837 · ⟲ 20 · 🔖 54 · Permalink · View on X

I haven’t even met my child yet but I can feel the ancient ancestral dad fire archetype stirring deep inside my heart. I already know I will jump in front of a train for this tiny mf

Romance, Parenting & Family 2023-10-20 · ♥ 835 · ⟲ 16 · 🔖 19 · Permalink · View on X

it took me a very long time to fully realize how quietly radical and powerful it is to simply like what you like i've always kinda taken it for granted. this is sort of like finding out i have adamantium bones or something

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-03-25 · ♥ 835 · ⟲ 61 · 🔖 125 · Permalink · View on X

eras tour just ended… google just announced some kind of superprocessor… syrian rebels ousted assad… korea did a lil martial law… shooter is allegedly a luigi… 2024 season finale goes hard

Observations & Humor 2024-12-09 · ♥ 834 · ⟲ 49 · 🔖 63 · Permalink · View on X

people who have an encyclopediac knowledge of porn stars really assume everyone else know them too. “thats obviously lauren phillips” why tf am i supposed to know who lauren phillips is https://t.co/z9WRhC5cmA

Observations & Humor 2023-12-30 · ♥ 834 · ⟲ 28 · 🔖 98 · Permalink · View on X

The “killer” signs: - Contempt. Doesn’t matter if you’re laughing as you jokingly put each other down. One day it won’t be funny. - Dismissiveness. “Ugh, she’s always like that” - Indifference. “nah it’s nbd whatever” This is bad form - when the hard times hit, they’ll buckle

Romance, Parenting & Family 2018-08-16 · ♥ 833 · ⟲ 164 · 🔖 85 · Permalink · View on X

An instance of this I can speak about: when I was depressed I hardly interacted with anybody socially, ~fearing that they would reject me. When I’m upbeat and cheerful, I interact with tonnes of people, and I actually endure like 100x more rejection as a consequence– cheerfully

Psychology & Emotions 2023-11-17 · ♥ 831 · ⟲ 64 · 🔖 219 · Permalink · View on X

Stage 1: Do unpaid work for yourself Stage 2: Use that as leverage to negotiate a position where you get paid to do work for others Stage 3: Save up enough so you can be free to do more, higher-quality unpaid work for yourself <--- I am currently here Stage 4: We’ll see

Work & Ambition 2018-07-07 · ♥ 831 · ⟲ 109 · 🔖 410 · Permalink · View on X

I’m increasingly convinced that there’s a kind of impediment to learning which is basically a learned resistance to change the strong version of this hypothesis, which I’m not yet sure about, is that all resistance to learning is resistance to change

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-11-14 · ♥ 830 · ⟲ 64 · 🔖 208 · Permalink · View on X

15-year-old Brady McDonough (@BowlingBrady300) scoring a perfect 300 with his unique “two handed” technique. Very satisfying watch https://t.co/SMDzzfRspG

Sports 2023-08-06 · ♥ 830 · ⟲ 50 · 🔖 84 · Permalink · View on X

has anybody ever moved from somewhere hot and humid to somewhere cooler, and found that they exercised more frequently as a consequence? i've long vaguely held on to this idea as a comforting belief and i wanna know if it's actually been true for anyone

Health, Fitness & Body 2024-07-12 · ♥ 829 · ⟲ 16 · 🔖 83 · Permalink · View on X

if you know you know https://t.co/Wr4ihK6n2F https://t.co/NyjkUr5Cbi

Internet Culture 2023-11-26 · ♥ 828 · ⟲ 59 · 🔖 71 · Permalink · View on X

people calling kamala hq the worst social media campaign/team of all time have forgotten how bad hillary’s was (or maybe they were too young, yeesh)

Politics, Culture & Identity 2024-11-08 · ♥ 826 · ⟲ 11 · 🔖 39 · Permalink · View on X

one of the smartest decisions i ever made was to plonk my table down next to the CEO of the company i used to work for, and then basically inherit a bunch of intangible "how to get shit done" vibes from him via osmosis, by watching him act over 5+ years https://t.co/Q02XAJJKSi

Work & Ambition 2024-01-14 · ♥ 824 · ⟲ 32 · 🔖 303 · Permalink · View on X

people who are good at dealing with failure don’t think of failure as failure

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-07-28 · ♥ 824 · ⟲ 105 · 🔖 81 · Permalink · View on X

inside every hot girl there is a skeleton

Observations & Humor 2021-02-11 · ♥ 824 · ⟲ 128 · 🔖 23 · Permalink · View on X

a remarkably strong candidate for "coolest person I've ever seen" https://t.co/W0LOdhvkod

Observations & Humor 2019-07-03 · ♥ 823 · ⟲ 93 · 🔖 28 · Permalink · View on X

one of my fav anecdotes: a old retiring teacher was asked, what have you noticed over the decades? She said, “in all decades, kids assume their technology was always around, and kids also assume they are the first people in history to experience love, heartbreak, betrayal, grief”

Sociocultural Commentary 2025-05-13 · ♥ 822 · ⟲ 53 · 🔖 148 · Permalink · View on X

a shift i've been going through over the past... decade, almost, but it's really increased in the last couple of years, is that i now rarely bother to try to get into alignment with ppl who respond to me in misaligned ways. what this means is i ignore them instead of disagreeing

Psychology & Emotions 2024-01-18 · ♥ 822 · ⟲ 48 · 🔖 199 · Permalink · View on X

one of my favorite things to do on youtube is to search for things like “London walk”, “Rio walk”, etc for different cities around the world. it’s so nice to just see ordinary people going about their lives all over the world https://t.co/JVko0EaHvT

Travel & Place 2024-03-01 · ♥ 818 · ⟲ 38 · 🔖 168 · Permalink · View on X

it’s sort of recursive how loads of people really struggle with the idea that someone might be focused on a precise outcome that’s only interesting to a few. over the years I’ve increasingly bumped into something I’m tempted to call the tyranny of mass appeal/approval

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-08-30 · ♥ 816 · ⟲ 37 · 🔖 317 · Permalink · View on X

top action items for any world dictator 1. standardize electrical sockets 2. standardize kids shoe measurements 3. end daylight savings time 4. YYYY-MM-DD 5. Standardize paper to a4 6. ?

Observations & Humor 2026-05-18 · ♥ 815 · ⟲ 34 · 🔖 57 · Permalink · View on X

this funny, insigntful exchange between seinfeld and burr about meetings in showbiz goes far beyond the domain of showbiz. it also applies to dating, to being “an ideas guy”, living in fantasy over reality, avoiding difficult and uncomfortable situations, unhelpful therapy… https://t.co/BOigX7gGJf

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-04-25 · ♥ 815 · ⟲ 64 · 🔖 724 · Permalink · View on X

my answer might seem a little cringe but i did it earnestly and it worked: i watched motivational videos on youtube https://t.co/udnRW6VauB

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-04-18 · ♥ 814 · ⟲ 50 · 🔖 424 · Permalink · View on X

sometimes guys say “idk how to talk to girls” and the ladies respond (understandably, but unhelpfully) “you know girls are people, right…?” – this is an eg of cultural confusion. Because what the guy is conveying is “my model of people is overtrained on male-male interactions”

Sociocultural Commentary 2023-02-28 · ♥ 814 · ⟲ 36 · 🔖 168 · Permalink · View on X

periodic reminder that if you haven’t worked out in a while- gone for a walk, played a sport, hit the gym, whatever your favorite thing is– you’ll likely enjoy picking it up again

Health, Fitness & Body 2025-03-17 · ♥ 813 · ⟲ 43 · 🔖 75 · Permalink · View on X

the interior lives of men are better captured by video games than by singer-songwriters. i say this as a man and as a singer-songwriter https://t.co/AQ26GlHTwn

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-01-21 · ♥ 813 · ⟲ 58 · 🔖 202 · Permalink · View on X

me: can you say “bye mommy I love you?” 2yo: bye mommy I love you!!! his mom: 😍 I love you too baby 2yo: bye TV I love you!! me: ok that’s not- 2yo: bye scotch tape I love you!!! bye paper cup I love you!!! bye rubbish bin, I love you!!!

Observations & Humor 2026-05-05 · ♥ 812 · ⟲ 9 · 🔖 29 · Permalink · View on X

fascinating thing about this to me is that there’s a generation of people in their teens and twenties who- before Avengers Endgame- previously assumed they wouldn’t live past 30, and now suddenly can assume they’ll make it to 60+. I’m curious to hear everything they have to say

Sociocultural Commentary 2025-12-27 · ♥ 810 · ⟲ 24 · 🔖 116 · Permalink · View on X

@signulll such a dramatic vibe shift, even their names and faces and usernames changed! 🙀 https://t.co/3Xh1QA6ZOS

Internet Culture 2024-06-01 · ♥ 810 · ⟲ 11 · 🔖 49 · Permalink · View on X

the world will surely change more in the next 10 years than it did in the last 10 years

Philosophy 2024-01-08 · ♥ 810 · ⟲ 44 · 🔖 51 · Permalink · View on X

i believe that: we cringe at our recent old work because we see how it falls short of our current standards but when we look at OLD old work, past a certain distance, we can see more clearly how all of those imperfections actually represented us at the time perfectly https://t.co/6UsxJcTTtv

Life & Meaning 2024-08-23 · ♥ 808 · ⟲ 64 · 🔖 116 · Permalink · View on X

I keep hearing from people “you can’t develop charisma, it’s innate, you have it or you don’t” if you believe that then yeah you’re probably never gonna develop it but my experience has taught me otherwise https://t.co/OjRER5YXmd

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-05-03 · ♥ 808 · ⟲ 46 · 🔖 479 · Permalink · View on X

i was nourished alive by the kindness of strangers in gratitude i strive to be a kind stranger to others

Life & Meaning 2024-04-28 · ♥ 808 · ⟲ 173 · 🔖 90 · Permalink · View on X

you don’t win big from being the goodest good boy you can be (minimizing negative variance to try and please your internal taskmaster) you win big by being a bad motherfucker who’s sensitive to feedback (maximizing positive variance in alignment with your deepest feelings)

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-04-26 · ♥ 808 · ⟲ 85 · 🔖 329 · Permalink · View on X

bust out the hostage negotiation playbook 1. ask them precisely what they think you ought to be doing, make a list 2. having made the list, ask them precisely how they expect you to achieve all of the things on the list, and what they think is a realistic-reasonable path https://t.co/7O1YqGP5GS

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-03-23 · ♥ 807 · ⟲ 92 · 🔖 288 · Permalink · View on X

flirting seems complex to someone with no experience, but so does playing a first person shooter where you have to move the character with one joystick and the camera with another

Romance, Parenting & Family 2023-08-26 · ♥ 806 · ⟲ 45 · 🔖 138 · Permalink · View on X

“I didn’t expect to meet another YC founder here” https://t.co/05PeTuEhvN

Business & Markets 2024-03-01 · ♥ 805 · ⟲ 15 · 🔖 68 · Permalink · View on X

@washingtonpost this is harmfully misleading journalistic malpractice

Media & Journalism 2020-10-21 · ♥ 805 · ⟲ 7 · Permalink · View on X

@michaelcurzi Plans are worthless, planning is priceless. Spend a day making elaborate plans and then disregard them completely to make whatever you think is most compelling. Repeat monthly or quarterly

Work & Ambition 2020-11-30 · ♥ 804 · ⟲ 142 · 🔖 371 · Permalink · View on X

i still deeply fundamentally believe that anybody who doesn't like me simply doesn't know me well enough

Psychology & Emotions 2023-12-18 · ♥ 802 · ⟲ 73 · 🔖 82 · Permalink · View on X

I’ve obsessed with this problem for as long as I can remember!! my current thinking on it is that it’s futile to try and fight the cycle by resisting it– rather the smart move is to have people who are aware of the cycle and work/plan for continuity. most practically, this means-

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-12-03 · ♥ 800 · ⟲ 33 · 🔖 430 · Permalink · View on X

a 90% rejection/failure rate is incredible if you can tolerate it and get through it fast

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-06-28 · ♥ 799 · ⟲ 36 · 🔖 120 · Permalink · View on X

@TomChivers this gif is even more intuitive I think https://t.co/1yljFJttlD

Science & Technology 2022-12-09 · ♥ 796 · ⟲ 59 · 🔖 147 · Permalink · View on X

was thinkin abt this gen class of thing again this morning. the central thing i think is that humans are dynamic, not static. anything that we want, is something we want from a particular state, a moment in time. but even the most delicious cake or the sweetest podium finish...

Philosophy 2025-06-13 · ♥ 795 · ⟲ 50 · 🔖 247 · Permalink · View on X

when I look back on my life it’s really so true that I regret the things I didn’t do 100x more than the things I regret doing

Life & Meaning 2025-03-26 · ♥ 792 · ⟲ 53 · 🔖 152 · Permalink · View on X

people who use the phrase "in the real world" are pretty much always talking about their limited concept and experience of reality rather than the actual real world, which is incomprehensibly massive, complex, and full of exceptions to every rule, and markets for everything https://t.co/KCkeWIZDZA

Language & Linguistics 2024-02-20 · ♥ 790 · ⟲ 61 · 🔖 163 · Permalink · View on X

AI will kill visual arts in roughly the same way digital cameras and smartphones killed photography

Art & Creativity 2022-04-08 · ♥ 789 · ⟲ 84 · 🔖 47 · Permalink · View on X

the job of an artist is to feel and to fail. everything else is logistics

Art & Creativity 2026-01-06 · ♥ 787 · ⟲ 109 · 🔖 117 · Permalink · View on X

i've talked to a lot of ambitious elders about this and the general shape of the answer i found was that those who were most fulfilled were those who gave back to others. they're proud of the difference they made to people, not the artifacts they produced or awards they won

Life & Meaning 2025-06-26 · ♥ 787 · ⟲ 58 · 🔖 181 · Permalink · View on X

I’ve been noticing a correlation between people who have “leaky interpretations” and people who are miserable, that venn diagram appears to be almost a circle. By leaky interpretations I mean me taking your descriptions of your own experience as being directed at me personally

Psychology & Emotions 2023-11-28 · ♥ 787 · ⟲ 60 · 🔖 248 · Permalink · View on X

it was always trivially obvious to me that it’s worth talking to thousands of people to find the right weirdo. It’s worth writing a million words to get one sublime tweet. If it really matters to you then it’s obviously worth it. Obvious to me anyway

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-11-04 · ♥ 786 · ⟲ 60 · 🔖 119 · Permalink · View on X

“you can’t be a 99th percentile man without dealing with some 99th percentile bullshit” - my wife comforting me after I was startled by another random stranger being shocked at my height

Observations & Humor 2023-08-17 · ♥ 786 · ⟲ 29 · 🔖 56 · Permalink · View on X

A thing I didn’t appreciate as a kid, but understand better now, is why so much of the world is suboptimal - it’s not just because people don’t know better, but largely because people are trapped. Many (most?) people are too tired and overwhelmed to bring their A game to anything

Life & Meaning 2018-05-22 · ♥ 783 · ⟲ 165 · 🔖 104 · Permalink · View on X

coincidentally this is how Terence Tao does math https://t.co/KmrZpY9x3Z

Education & Learning 2025-01-31 · ♥ 782 · ⟲ 28 · 🔖 286 · Permalink · View on X

the wildest, trippiest thing about being a celebrity that regular folks seldom properly appreciate (I get a teensy micro-taste of this) is how often you'll encounter things that feel like hallucinations, but are actually real. it's a stepping stone to actual madness https://t.co/pzSviOak2H

Psychology & Emotions 2024-01-05 · ♥ 782 · ⟲ 26 · 🔖 143 · Permalink · View on X

this actually happened to me when i started blogging! https://t.co/QcQ514Mr0T

Writing 2024-09-23 · ♥ 779 · ⟲ 10 · 🔖 82 · Permalink · View on X

been thinking for weeks now about a comment I saw on contrapoints latest video, paraphrased: “I can barely sit through a single episode of tv these days, but I when I saw you release this i dropped everything to watch all 3 hours of this vid and was engrossed the whole time”

Psychology & Emotions 2024-08-15 · ♥ 779 · ⟲ 11 · 🔖 212 · Permalink · View on X

spent a decade of my life scheming and plotting to figure out how I could give myself unfair advantages, and now that I have them I feel bad for everyone who doesn’t have them lol

Psychology & Emotions 2023-08-16 · ♥ 779 · ⟲ 34 · 🔖 174 · Permalink · View on X

just got called Uncle by a group of teenage girls… that’s a nail in the coffin for my youth. I accept this… I accept this

Observations & Humor 2023-10-02 · ♥ 777 · ⟲ 11 · 🔖 12 · Permalink · View on X

the pro move is to use stimulants (sparingly or whatever) to make yourself do stuff that makes it easier to face your music and process your feelings and knots https://t.co/ucPeDQbYwE

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-09-03 · ♥ 776 · ⟲ 27 · 🔖 195 · Permalink · View on X

singaporean adult: ah, what a wonderful day, it sure would be nice to do some dancing at my local dance floor singaporean dance floor: https://t.co/F4J2mrrBem

Observations & Humor 2023-05-18 · ♥ 776 · ⟲ 101 · 🔖 50 · Permalink · View on X

"So you're basically saying 'fuck the haters'"? "No, Joe. If you're thinking about your haters at all, you've already lost. Are you a loser, Joe? You're not. You're a winner. Winners focus, Joe. They focus on the outcomes they want. They focus on winning. Be a winner, Joe." https://t.co/MnaXsiifLy

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-10-28 · ♥ 775 · ⟲ 51 · 🔖 120 · Permalink · View on X

Always wack when you get to witness people learn something about themselves in public https://t.co/nIg3xgHZ1w

Sociocultural Commentary 2022-03-19 · ♥ 774 · ⟲ 98 · 🔖 208 · Permalink · View on X

“By middle/high school, the average student has learned how normal people talk. The resulting language is underwhelming and predictable - the safe regurgitations of a thoroughly socialized consciousness.” https://t.co/5evo3vYThl https://t.co/qfpwv2A94k

Education & Learning 2019-02-01 · ♥ 774 · ⟲ 163 · 🔖 324 · Permalink · View on X

can someone help me ghibli this pic

Art & Creativity 2025-03-26 · ♥ 773 · ⟲ 8 · 🔖 89 · Permalink · View on X

a thread of pics of diane morgan as philomena cunk vs as herself (or in other roles), to try and discern the pattern of tension she uses to perform Cunk https://t.co/ISgR1Ft8L8

Film & TV 2025-01-18 · ♥ 773 · ⟲ 33 · 🔖 173 · Permalink · View on X

the statistic for how rare a lightning strike is becomes significantly less relevant when you’re in a thunderstorm in an open field, because most of the lightning strikes that do not happen, do not happen to people who are not in thunderstorms in open fields

Philosophy 2024-05-06 · ♥ 773 · ⟲ 37 · 🔖 92 · Permalink · View on X

getting good at anything means witnessing people who are 1. bad at it, 2. bad at realizing they're bad at it, 3. bad at appreciating how much better things would be for them if they got good at it, 4. bad at seeing the git-gud gradients, 5. bad at not feeling attacked,

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-09-24 · ♥ 772 · ⟲ 44 · 🔖 205 · Permalink · View on X

@nonregemesse freelancer → sellsword

Observations & Humor 2026-03-01 · ♥ 771 · ⟲ 8 · 🔖 13 · Permalink · View on X

@DarthShmoney @youlovegio @OwnwardR @ape_jonnn @Kerrisue1985 @DirtySoon @ReagansTweets Idk what the fuck y’all are on but I want to play too https://t.co/Wh15fLISdf

Observations & Humor 2022-05-30 · ♥ 771 · ⟲ 4 · 🔖 1 · Permalink · View on X

the way to stay interesting as a creator, is to continue to focus on gratifying your ever-evolving taste, rather than on trying to please the largest segment of your audience. this protects you from becoming a caricature of yourself https://t.co/3WyYhosdPF

Art & Creativity 2023-11-11 · ♥ 769 · ⟲ 98 · 🔖 174 · Permalink · View on X

@FloraEGill This is just to say... I have seen the ‘Meme’ that was on your Zoom background it was funny and very good but I am concerned it doesn’t project the air of professionalism you should be striving for perhaps just your apartment next time? Stay well

Observations & Humor 2020-04-23 · ♥ 768 · ⟲ 32 · 🔖 6 · Permalink · View on X

every generation of kids basically uses their excess of time to create spaces that are inscrutable to their elders as a form of preserving their limited autonomy

Sociocultural Commentary 2023-02-04 · ♥ 767 · ⟲ 49 · 🔖 58 · Permalink · View on X

when it’s easier to help others than yourself: https://t.co/ltF0yL2xij

Psychology & Emotions 2025-07-01 · ♥ 764 · ⟲ 64 · 🔖 66 · Permalink · View on X

everyone knows David Beckham was one of the most successful football players of all time but only today did I learn that he has master investigative journalist skills https://t.co/0dDvM2nL7s

Pop Culture & Entertainment 2023-10-05 · ♥ 764 · ⟲ 33 · 🔖 51 · Permalink · View on X

read anything good lately? books, blogposts, articles, anything

Books & Literature 2024-04-13 · ♥ 763 · ⟲ 53 · 🔖 1,162 · Permalink · View on X

@CultureCrave @Nicolas68859166 https://t.co/ek3NyJX2LP

Random 2023-07-26 · ♥ 763 · ⟲ 12 · 🔖 2 · Permalink · View on X

one way i've witnessed dunning-krueger play out hundreds of times now is how i always get unsolicited "here's what you should do" feedback from beginners and never from intermediate players

Psychology & Emotions 2024-06-30 · ♥ 762 · ⟲ 27 · 🔖 139 · Permalink · View on X

current mood https://t.co/3NtvHUBxPT

Observations & Humor 2024-03-03 · ♥ 758 · ⟲ 125 · 🔖 75 · Permalink · View on X

I still remember the first time I saw a speedrunner quit a game and load it again on purpose, it rocked my entire world. “You can just do that?” Yeah. You can. You can do anything

Games 2023-07-05 · ♥ 758 · ⟲ 26 · 🔖 45 · Permalink · View on X

I’ve read and watched so many interviews over the years where people ask accomplished people how they do what they do… that at some point I crossed some event horizon and the whole endeavor seems almost fundamentally mistaken to me

Philosophy 2024-02-14 · ♥ 757 · ⟲ 34 · 🔖 376 · Permalink · View on X

@___frye Good conductivity

Language & Linguistics 2024-01-28 · ♥ 755 · ⟲ 1 · Permalink · View on X

@skyler_higley one of my favorite essays of all time is about exactly this https://t.co/iHG0UgW4qG

Books & Literature 2024-11-17 · ♥ 754 · ⟲ 47 · 🔖 991 · Permalink · View on X

very rude of this person to write so intimately about my personal failures, who the fuck does this guy think he... oh goddamnit

Observations & Humor 2024-12-21 · ♥ 753 · ⟲ 19 · 🔖 213 · Permalink · View on X

one of my best insights that smart friends ignore because it looks stupid: in a context where everyone tries to look smart, it pays to look stupid

Sociocultural Commentary 2022-11-30 · ♥ 753 · ⟲ 36 · 🔖 134 · Permalink · View on X

it can be quite depressing to know how social status works. a lot of the things that people think of as ways to put uppity people in their place, actually elevates their status as long as they don't quit

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-02-22 · ♥ 750 · ⟲ 35 · 🔖 283 · Permalink · View on X

@Gandilf_the_Gay @honkwiggleton https://t.co/HWtGcqxx5p

Random 2022-04-10 · ♥ 749 · ⟲ 3 · 🔖 1 · Permalink · View on X

just turned 32! 🥳 feeling contemplative. If I or my work have helped you in any way, I’d love to hear about it

Friendship & Community 2022-06-05 · ♥ 748 · ⟲ 5 · 🔖 33 · Permalink · View on X

when i try to reflect on my bad decisions in life, it seems like they're almost always either "i took too long to do something" or "having done something, I was averse to undoing it". some of the most costly decisions in the moment i am totally fine with in hindsight

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-01-14 · ♥ 746 · ⟲ 45 · 🔖 261 · Permalink · View on X

trick here IME if you’re happy with either option is to toss a coin and move on to the next decision because the metagame is significantly about decision-making velocity, so you wanna get inconsequential decisions out of the way so you can get to the consequential ones

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2025-02-22 · ♥ 744 · ⟲ 41 · 🔖 223 · Permalink · View on X

in my world, every boy yearns for a man in his life like this that he will honor forever. it’s not necessarily about leaving home. it’s about someone saying with their heart, let your fire blaze. raise your aspirations. let the lotus of your ambition unfurl to its fullest. 🪷 https://t.co/44PDCBGPZD

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-09-06 · ♥ 742 · ⟲ 59 · 🔖 165 · Permalink · View on X

@blahblahemily my belief is: the best thing to have in an emergency is people who care about you, so start by caring for everyone you know as well you can, and make as many new friends as you can

Friendship & Community 2023-09-30 · ♥ 742 · ⟲ 24 · 🔖 13 · Permalink · View on X

it took me ~25+ years to unlearn ~95% of my impulse to compulsively explain myself when i feel misunderstood or misinterpreted by others

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-03-24 · ♥ 742 · ⟲ 35 · 🔖 120 · Permalink · View on X

For as long as I can remember, I have always despaired at the ugliness and cruelty of the world. It’s a big part of why I do what I do. I chose to spend years of my life writing books like “Friendly Ambitious Nerd” and “Introspect” – books about how to be a more loving, curious, kind, gentle, prosocial person – in large part because I was so horrified by all of the cruelties of the world, and I wanted to do my part to help. Y’know, comparatively speaking, these books don’t really sell very well. If you wanted to make money, there are much more effective ways to do it. I used to work in marketing, selling software. And furthermore as a student of marketing I know how to appeal to people’s weaknesses, to their insecurities. I know how to paint a target, incite outrage, invoke disgust, I could make a lot more money and clout that way. but I wanted to do something good, something meaningful. Something that I felt would bring a little more light into a dark, cruel world. Something that my kid-self could be proud of. Right now, horrors are going on in Gaza. I remember a few years ago when it was Aleppo, I journalled an essay then despairing about how helpless and pathetic I felt. Before that there was Darfur. Always there are horrors. Even if we put aside the active war zones, there are horrors. The spectre looms everywhere. Domestic violence. Child abuse. Exploitation. There are even, sickeningly, people who join volunteer groups with the specific intent of preying on the vulnerable. How do we stop these horrors? I don’t know. I have my beliefs about the bigger picture ecologies and ecosystems, but that’s no consolation to anybody who’s living in fear of the next bomb, anybody who’s grieving the loss of friends and family, witnessing the disfigurement and dismemberment of body and soul. I don’t feel like I have any meaningful levers to pull to directly address a conflict that’s already incredibly televised and scrutinized. I’m reminded of that meme depicting the trolley problem, but with no lever, only victims: “you can only watch”. And there’s more horror to see than ever. There have always been people begging and pleading and protesting and praying for peace, for justice. Sometimes I’ve felt like I’m one of them, sometimes I’ve felt like an imposter amongst them. I spent my earliest years as a blogger ranting and raving about injustice and it didn’t seem to accomplish anything substantial other than getting people more angry. Part of me felt like a sucker for trying. Part of me felt like I had to try anyway. This conflict continues within me unresolved. Ayy lmao? So yeah, where I’m at in life is: I try to help people in the ways that I know how. I write my books and my essays and tweets and they help some people feel less alone, less afraid, less incompetent, less despondent. and that frees up a little capacity in each of them to maybe help some of their own neighbors with something else. My wish is that over my lifetime I will be able to compound this into something more and more substantial. But idk if I will ever be someone who contributes to the resolution of armed conflicts. Yknow? Must we expect a nutritionist to also be a surgeon? Something about the expectation of everyone needing to be informed about everything and have a take on everything etc has always struck me as profoundly unsustainable. I see people crash and burn every year from trying to live up to the impossible. If you think I’m tedious and overdramatic and self-indulgent etc, sure, join the club, it’s led by my 12-year-old self who knew all of these things about me already. If you’re going to think lowly of me for being an imperfect person reacting imperfectly while sleep deprived from caring for an infant, realistically we were never gonna be friends anyway. At the end of our days the person each of us will have to answer to is ourselves, or God, if you believe. the world spins madly on, and we each do what we can, flawed as we are. happy new year

Life & Meaning 2023-12-31 · ♥ 741 · ⟲ 55 · 🔖 231 · Permalink · View on X

I've been banging this drum all my life, and over thousands of interactions with people I've come to realize that "obsessively studying online" is something that only a subset of us seem willing+able do. Lots of people find it difficult to be self-directed in learning (or at all)

Education & Learning 2022-11-27 · ♥ 736 · ⟲ 47 · 🔖 249 · Permalink · View on X

“Sharpening a pencil at the bin was the childhood equivalent of taking a cigarette break.” – @mattywin85

Observations & Humor 2023-12-04 · ♥ 734 · ⟲ 67 · 🔖 30 · Permalink · View on X

this remains possibly the best singing/vocalizing advice I’ve ever encountered. “Aah like you’re going to the doctor”. Suddenly opens up access to a level that previously seemed unreachable

Music 2024-12-09 · ♥ 733 · ⟲ 28 · 🔖 544 · Permalink · View on X

one of the most interesting things to do in conversation is to ask someone for their view on why someone did something. oftentimes people haven’t really thought about it. sometimes you can ask someone “why did they do that…?” and it changes their opinion of the person

Psychology & Emotions 2024-01-22 · ♥ 733 · ⟲ 51 · 🔖 239 · Permalink · View on X

there’s a kind of person that doesn’t trust you when you talk about how hard you work, how you think and plan and strategize, etc then when you say “yknow what, truth is, I’m really fortunate and blessed and god loves me”, they kind of relax and go “I knew it”

Sociocultural Commentary 2023-09-26 · ♥ 733 · ⟲ 36 · 🔖 127 · Permalink · View on X

someone asked me “visa aren’t you upset that twitter is no longer a place for free speech”. B*tch I’m Singaporean. You merely encountered the censorship. I was born in it, raised in it, moulded by it. I didn’t conceive of free speech until I was already a man-

Politics, Culture & Identity 2021-01-09 · ♥ 733 · ⟲ 82 · 🔖 17 · Permalink · View on X

once told my wife about this terrible steak I got. “I ordered medium-rare and it was so done. it was beyond well-done. It was straight up Congratulations”. months later we still laugh about the idea of a congrats steak, or anything being cooked to the point of congrats

Observations & Humor 2025-02-13 · ♥ 732 · ⟲ 34 · 🔖 58 · Permalink · View on X

@QiaochuYuan Christian Bale on Wall St bros loving Patrick Bateman https://t.co/ESKmG0QFzQ

Pop Culture & Entertainment 2022-10-11 · ♥ 731 · ⟲ 77 · 🔖 276 · Permalink · View on X

😎 https://t.co/q2Y8YQprne https://t.co/JXXEfRceuu

Observations & Humor 2023-12-25 · ♥ 730 · ⟲ 13 · 🔖 44 · Permalink · View on X

i once had a drink with a guy who sells luxury cars in singapore, and he told me about how on the first day of the sales event, all the glamorous celebs show up for the photoshoots and red carpet etc. but most of the cars are actually bought by wealthy uncles in shorts n slippers https://t.co/MnZ2VtKyRt

Sociocultural Commentary 2023-06-24 · ♥ 729 · ⟲ 27 · 🔖 50 · Permalink · View on X

a child unlocks all sorts of conversational options that you didn’t even realize were locked. your parents relate to you differently. everyone relates to you differently. this whole alternate mode of being dramatically enriches one’s experience of life if you let it

Romance, Parenting & Family 2025-01-23 · ♥ 728 · ⟲ 14 · 🔖 34 · Permalink · View on X

about 20 years ago there was a vocal subset of men who made it a point of pride to min-max hooking up with attractive women with the explicit intent of not wanting marriage. this cascaded out into mainstream culture, then I think it was driven into the shadows during MeToo https://t.co/frL5q5QK6o

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-08-12 · ♥ 727 · ⟲ 23 · 🔖 311 · Permalink · View on X

a thing that used to drive me crazy as a kid was 1. People reflexively dismiss accomplishment as impossible 2. People refuse to learn from the people who do “impossible” things 3. Of those who do, many do it poorly, sometimes as a more elaborate (1)

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-12-10 · ♥ 726 · ⟲ 38 · 🔖 211 · Permalink · View on X

I’ve been increasingly convinced the generalized disdain that most people have for janky partial solutions might be the real thing that keeps people trapped in local minimas in all sorts of domains resource-constrained progress typically looks janky and “stupid” until you win

Philosophy 2024-03-25 · ♥ 725 · ⟲ 60 · 🔖 199 · Permalink · View on X

it’s ok to be creative just for the pleasure of it. delightful, joyous, a lovely gift to yourself and those around you that said, if you want to be Serious and go pro, my core recommendation is to define a compelling creative expedition for yourself

Art & Creativity 2023-12-15 · ♥ 725 · ⟲ 74 · 🔖 354 · Permalink · View on X

my life, a partial overview ages 3-7: > kind of a misfit child, friendly and cheerful but alienated > radicalized by books to believe that life can be a glorious adventure of learning and delight ages 7-19 > be crushingly frustrated by school > become suicidally depressed >…

Life & Meaning 2023-08-10 · ♥ 725 · ⟲ 29 · 🔖 316 · Permalink · View on X

imagine something beautiful happening to you this year

Life & Meaning 2025-01-04 · ♥ 724 · ⟲ 93 · 🔖 60 · Permalink · View on X

imo "being lucky" here is a proxy for "being sensitive to opportunity". if you can figure out how to win with one youtube tutorial, why bother doing more than that? https://t.co/QmR010fjtz

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-08-21 · ♥ 724 · ⟲ 48 · 🔖 319 · Permalink · View on X

periodic reminder of how incredible youtube is as a resource that's available to basically everyone everywhere, even with all its flaws etc. you can do things like search "pink floyd full concert" and watch it instantaneously for free in HD. imagine that 20 years ago

Internet Culture 2024-08-14 · ♥ 724 · ⟲ 41 · 🔖 44 · Permalink · View on X

as a child gets older it’s sort of like there’s an invisible flood in your house with a rising water level, only instead of water it’s mischief that increasingly finds its way into previously inaccessible areas

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-11-28 · ♥ 723 · ⟲ 17 · 🔖 48 · Permalink · View on X

you can’t think your way out of a courage deficit

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2020-02-02 · ♥ 723 · ⟲ 190 · 🔖 205 · Permalink · View on X

@nao_muito @jkeefe @ditzkoff WHO ATE ALL THE TUNA https://t.co/RQXUzd87Z7

Observations & Humor 2019-04-13 · ♥ 723 · ⟲ 37 · 🔖 2 · Permalink · View on X

this is also a good idea, like maybe have a wheel selector where you choose your mood or vibe for the session at the start. you could also track this over time and show the user what their moods have been historically. would make for a helluva Wrapped https://t.co/XS7bc7S2jk

Internet Culture 2025-02-02 · ♥ 722 · ⟲ 8 · 🔖 16 · Permalink · View on X

one of my fav things to do lately is color-match whatever my lil guy is wearing https://t.co/5yPNF4iklG

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-11-29 · ♥ 722 · ⟲ 11 · 🔖 11 · Permalink · View on X

my 21mo toddler really just exclaimed “hello friends!” to everyone in a public toilet

Romance, Parenting & Family 2025-07-31 · ♥ 721 · ⟲ 7 · 🔖 14 · Permalink · View on X

I was feeling overwhelmed and disoriented by my Following list so… I unfollowed everyone 😅 I’ll think I’ll leave it like this for a while before I slowly re-follow people. (If you feel like unfollowing me back I highly encourage that too!)

Internet Culture 2025-06-23 · ♥ 721 · ⟲ 14 · 🔖 41 · Permalink · View on X

I’m working on a post about being very online and yet emotionally/psychologically well-adjusted. Can you think of people like that? What do you think is it about them that lets them do it?

Internet Culture 2025-01-06 · ♥ 721 · ⟲ 22 · 🔖 172 · Permalink · View on X

skilful trolling is a lost art, and Osvaldo demonstrates how it actually requires good reply game https://t.co/YObYhHf4cc

Internet Culture 2023-07-07 · ♥ 721 · ⟲ 49 · 🔖 47 · Permalink · View on X

people often forget to suppress themselves when they’re busy channeling somebody else https://t.co/Q0oercwKY7

Psychology & Emotions 2023-11-02 · ♥ 720 · ⟲ 63 · 🔖 245 · Permalink · View on X

people who choose to have a good time attract people who like having a good time people who choose to have a bad time attract people who like having a bad time people who are unwilling or unable to choose, endure whatever they get

Philosophy 2023-05-11 · ♥ 720 · ⟲ 77 · 🔖 98 · Permalink · View on X

I used to flinch from the phrase “self-love” bc it seemed pretty apparent that the part of me I then considered the Self (the guy in charge) didn’t particularly need more love. It took me a long time to realize what actually needs love is the part of the self that was ostracized

Psychology & Emotions 2023-12-15 · ♥ 719 · ⟲ 48 · 🔖 185 · Permalink · View on X

the sad thing about the "nobody buys books" phenom is: the problem is really that authors as a class suck at sales and marketing, or don't want to do it, or see why it's necessary, and there isn't really a nice way to convey this to them without likely hurting their feelings

Marketing & Branding 2024-04-25 · ♥ 718 · ⟲ 29 · 🔖 179 · Permalink · View on X

A thing I noticed fairly early-ish on is that people care about things more once they’re framed properly. Like, if you watch a documentary about a pit crew or a kitchen or a tattoo shop, you become invested in those people’s struggles and you start to care about them personally https://t.co/ejLo5XAbUP

Sociocultural Commentary 2019-07-31 · ♥ 718 · ⟲ 71 · 🔖 302 · Permalink · View on X

thinking is easy, information architecture is hard

Writing 2018-12-26 · ♥ 718 · ⟲ 160 · 🔖 251 · Permalink · View on X

anybody else know that feeling when you spend a couple of years on a extended detour trying to find a clever way to do something before you finally decide to just play it straight

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2025-04-29 · ♥ 717 · ⟲ 37 · 🔖 98 · Permalink · View on X

four months in, there are still moments where i catch a glimpse of my son and im awestruck that he exists. how tremendous it is that life begets life. the sight of my wife nursing our child makes me wanna weep with ecstasy. this is what i work to provide for. it all makes sense

Life & Meaning 2024-02-27 · ♥ 717 · ⟲ 26 · 🔖 69 · Permalink · View on X

the most liberating part of the poaster's journey is when you realize you almost never actually have to explain yourself to anyone. getting good at explaining yourself is like Neo learning to dodge bullets, but getting good at not-needing-to-explain is like seeing the matrix

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2025-01-11 · ♥ 716 · ⟲ 27 · 🔖 136 · Permalink · View on X

@dieworkwear Peterson looks like a couple of steps away from “if The Joker were in a Final Fantasy”

Pop Culture & Entertainment 2023-11-13 · ♥ 715 · ⟲ 8 · 🔖 5 · Permalink · View on X

the right connection with the right person is worth more than a million passing glances from random strangers scrolling by

Friendship & Community 2023-08-26 · ♥ 715 · ⟲ 56 · 🔖 64 · Permalink · View on X

@capybaroness slightly imperfect, but https://t.co/tU4c3vihxd

Random 2025-06-03 · ♥ 714 · ⟲ 23 · 🔖 52 · Permalink · View on X

people are really not used to dealing with someone who's well-prepared

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2020-06-16 · ♥ 714 · ⟲ 100 · 🔖 343 · Permalink · View on X

warning: if you think about this long enough you might get a bolt of clarity about all of social reality https://t.co/W2AnZHAGoy

Sociocultural Commentary 2021-09-13 · ♥ 713 · ⟲ 68 · 🔖 168 · Permalink · View on X

i love this so much. there's so much richness and nuance in the world. there are so many people who love so many different things. everything we think we know about people is a handful of sand against a continent of unexplored territory https://t.co/E7B4sDPi2w

Life & Meaning 2024-04-07 · ♥ 712 · ⟲ 73 · 🔖 71 · Permalink · View on X

wanna make a thread of things people get confused about. feel free to contribute! I’ll start with one of my own longtime confusions: 1. schedules and routines don’t have to be inflexible, oppressive. you can have a loosey-goosey “pencil sketch” “1st draft”approach to schedules

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-05-06 · ♥ 710 · ⟲ 50 · 🔖 469 · Permalink · View on X

when you solve your problems well enough, some of the people with the same problems will denounce you for talking about your experience, call you a thief of valor, because surely anybody who REALLY has the problem could never, would never, actually solve it

Psychology & Emotions 2023-12-12 · ♥ 709 · ⟲ 80 · 🔖 111 · Permalink · View on X

For anyone who thinks Luisa is an unrealistic character — the variance in range of possible human beings is much wider than you might have grown up seeing represented in media https://t.co/8IEuAFX9ZW

Pop Culture & Entertainment 2022-01-29 · ♥ 709 · ⟲ 82 · 🔖 35 · Permalink · View on X

before I had a kid I remember thinking the tension thing sounded bad/sad since having a kid I’m like eh, the tension is just one of many things you’ll have to learn to do, and manage, and I’m here to help you think and feel through all of it. we probably do 20 of these a day

Romance, Parenting & Family 2026-05-02 · ♥ 708 · ⟲ 12 · 🔖 110 · Permalink · View on X

btw i wrote whole book trying to address the problem of “most people dont know what they want” and struggled for over a year before i came to see that the formulation is slightly mistaken or misframed. wanting is not an intellectual act to be known with the mind. wanting is felt https://t.co/mXxdI4D5pv

Psychology & Emotions 2023-05-28 · ♥ 708 · ⟲ 67 · 🔖 510 · Permalink · View on X

becoming a parent turns out to be a very convenient... container? vehicle? for all sorts of behavior changes you'd been meaning to make forever prior. if this wasnt plaintext i'd joke about it being a great cover story/smokescreen but like not necessarily in a dishonest way

Romance, Parenting & Family 2025-02-07 · ♥ 707 · ⟲ 20 · 🔖 121 · Permalink · View on X

VI. fatherhood continues to be the most fascinating experience of my life. day by day, i get to witness “new systems coming online” – he has marginally more grip strength now, more responsive to words, making more eye contact, becoming more opinionated, establishing personhood https://t.co/z7vuGMUUIT

Romance, Parenting & Family 2023-11-12 · ♥ 707 · ⟲ 17 · 🔖 81 · Permalink · View on X

The more I get the privilege of getting to do stuff I actually really want to do, the more I’m forced to reckon with the fact that procrastination isn’t just about aversion to icky, tedious tasks - it’s also substantially about aversion to failure and disappointment

Psychology & Emotions 2019-12-30 · ♥ 707 · ⟲ 83 · 🔖 57 · Permalink · View on X

lol https://t.co/sIOCGdXx21

Observations & Humor 2024-03-06 · ♥ 704 · ⟲ 28 · 🔖 35 · Permalink · View on X

i’ve often been on the receiving end of questions like “why do you take twitter so seriously” and i get the sense that people frame it as “its just some app on your phone lol”. i’ve always thought of it as “sharing ideas instantaneously with ~everyone ~everywhere for ~free” https://t.co/lDN8wE36Ik

Internet Culture 2023-11-18 · ♥ 704 · ⟲ 46 · 🔖 68 · Permalink · View on X

being embarrassed about being stuck always prolongs the stuckedness

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2022-01-08 · ♥ 704 · ⟲ 101 · 🔖 186 · Permalink · View on X

I believe that nerdy moms possess, collectively, the cutting edge understanding of human consciousness and psychology

Psychology & Emotions 2023-10-21 · ♥ 702 · ⟲ 36 · 🔖 91 · Permalink · View on X

someone out there would pay good money for the advice you give that your friends and family ignore

Sociocultural Commentary 2023-09-05 · ♥ 701 · ⟲ 68 · 🔖 80 · Permalink · View on X

traditional chinese medicine uncle is gonna be like "yes, it's about whether or not you are heaty" https://t.co/aX738ynLof

Observations & Humor 2024-05-03 · ♥ 700 · ⟲ 53 · 🔖 280 · Permalink · View on X

kinda funny: you can be a desirable person to be around simply by refusing to project assumptions onto other people’s utterances. “I will not pretend to know you better than I actually do” is a portal to real intimacy between equals

Psychology & Emotions 2022-09-20 · ♥ 700 · ⟲ 70 · 🔖 139 · Permalink · View on X

time to call it: I started this project in 2019 and I will not be continuing it into 2026. I’m just too busy being a dad and I don’t spend hours on Twitter anymore the way I used to. Doing it definitely helped me develop some detachment from the intensity of each Current Thing

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2026-01-11 · ♥ 699 · ⟲ 12 · 🔖 90 · Permalink · View on X

@markdalgleish Goat farming https://t.co/CUNX7ZFj9g

Observations & Humor 2019-03-26 · ♥ 699 · ⟲ 129 · 🔖 30 · Permalink · View on X

people are often harsh on themselves, and often this achieves a different goal (homeostasis) than they think it’s achieving (progress)

Psychology & Emotions 2026-05-01 · ♥ 698 · ⟲ 66 · 🔖 194 · Permalink · View on X

this will seem like a sorta first world problem but it's a real concern for me: if i'm not careful i can just go around having a lovely time everywhere i go, and sort of end up circling around not really doing any of the big substantial things i know in my heart i could be doing

Life & Meaning 2024-05-10 · ♥ 698 · ⟲ 44 · 🔖 195 · Permalink · View on X

one thing that helps with this is having had at least one experience (ideally several) where you get mocked or shamed for something in a short cycle where you turn out to be right in the medium cycle. but you can then go too far with this and end up invading russia in winter

Psychology & Emotions 2026-04-06 · ♥ 697 · ⟲ 23 · 🔖 147 · Permalink · View on X

a baby will tire you out for weeks on end and then cocreate with you an experience of delight so profound that it resets your entire being like a degausse button you didn’t know you had or that you needed it pressed

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-10-12 · ♥ 697 · ⟲ 16 · 🔖 56 · Permalink · View on X

@realwow_mao short thread https://t.co/va6egCgwPF

Random 2024-05-21 · ♥ 696 · 🔖 104 · Permalink · View on X

I should spend more money throughout my teens and 20s I optimized for survival by spending as little as possible but now I have money and I barely spend it suboptimal resource allocation. I could go harder and faster by spending more money, and I know I have good instincts

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-10-02 · ♥ 696 · ⟲ 16 · 🔖 87 · Permalink · View on X

how i've come to think about it since having a kid https://t.co/5tRPSJwMw3

Romance, Parenting & Family 2026-02-21 · ♥ 695 · ⟲ 52 · 🔖 124 · Permalink · View on X

the nature of markets is such that there’s always someone out there who will pay you more money than you think anybody would, for something you already know how to do

Business & Markets 2024-09-12 · ♥ 694 · ⟲ 47 · 🔖 160 · Permalink · View on X

@wisewordswithjp I was curious to see how the French actually describe it and you’re not wrong 😂 “panic” and “attack” are both French origin words https://t.co/QvZmUpL9nQ

Language & Linguistics 2022-05-10 · ♥ 694 · ⟲ 20 · 🔖 15 · Permalink · View on X

@krrishd i could be wrong but i think nobody gets that big on youtube without optimizing for the kid demographic. i do think he has more interesting ambitions than just audience-size-maxxing, but the necessary choices there feel icky in some ways, like eating candy for 3 meals/day

Internet Culture 2023-11-05 · ♥ 693 · ⟲ 2 · 🔖 28 · Permalink · View on X

my recommendation is (napkin sketch) spend about 20% of your time/effort getting jacked, about 20% of your time/effort making money, another 20% goofing off and enjoying your life, and the last 40% systematically trying out different things TO figure something better out https://t.co/nWd5bDb25Y

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-04-22 · ♥ 693 · ⟲ 44 · 🔖 357 · Permalink · View on X

the idea of a statue of justice on the west coast of the US is so [chef's kiss] liberty and justice for all, from sea to shining sea https://t.co/4X2QoQzQOI

Politics, Culture & Identity 2023-10-01 · ♥ 692 · ⟲ 39 · 🔖 41 · Permalink · View on X

@crakrasscrakr @cnviolations 🥲 he just like me fr

Observations & Humor 2023-08-06 · ♥ 692 · 🔖 2 · Permalink · View on X

i'm looking to collect a list of screenshots of articles that people use as reaction/responses, eg "we should all know less about each other". what else comes to mind? https://t.co/71Yl6UxpgO

Internet Culture 2025-12-13 · ♥ 691 · ⟲ 18 · 🔖 347 · Permalink · View on X

I was with a group of friends like this up until 22 when I got married, a mortgage and a job – suddenly my primary interest shifted from “are ideas real?” to “how do I do my work, pay the bills and not wanna kill myself” – and i think that actually made me a better thinker https://t.co/AYhHINW66q

Life & Meaning 2023-01-23 · ♥ 691 · ⟲ 37 · 🔖 116 · Permalink · View on X

reminder to self: encouraging those who get it is much more lucrative than butting heads with those who don't. focus on what you want to see more of

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-11-01 · ♥ 688 · ⟲ 74 · 🔖 104 · Permalink · View on X

there’s only like 3 main pieces 1. iterate as cheaply and prolifically as possible until you get to product/market fit, cultivating taste in the process 2. solve for distribution 3. git gud at managing your psychology so you keep doing 1 and 2 without burning out https://t.co/Bz3vu1kiKt

Work & Ambition 2023-08-12 · ♥ 688 · ⟲ 65 · 🔖 388 · Permalink · View on X

its funny how >90% of communicating with people can be about patiently waiting for them to work through their assumptions and misunderstandings

Sociocultural Commentary 2023-07-07 · ♥ 688 · ⟲ 72 · 🔖 66 · Permalink · View on X

yea. the analogy i'd use here is you can watch a chess grandmaster make better moves in a blitz game with seconds to think compared to a regular person given an hour for each move. the 'secret' is that they did all the thinking years ago

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2025-05-03 · ♥ 687 · ⟲ 35 · 🔖 143 · Permalink · View on X

people who overzealously autocomplete what they think other people are saying, get confined in a stiflingly narrow social reality by their own limited imagination

Psychology & Emotions 2023-04-12 · ♥ 687 · ⟲ 77 · 🔖 139 · Permalink · View on X

A thing my ex-boss got me to meditate on (not literally, but I think about it a lot) is that product-market fit heals and forgives almost everything. The highest order bit is almost the only thing that matters by a long shot, to a dramatic and unintuitive degree https://t.co/JtNh1rlCq2

Business & Markets 2021-04-14 · ♥ 684 · ⟲ 100 · 🔖 401 · Permalink · View on X

it’s not much of an an exaggeration to say that the top contributor to me not needing to have a job in my 30s is that I spent my bus/train commutes in my 20s writing. it was about 2 hrs a day for 5.5 years https://t.co/BkN1F1NXLP

Writing 2024-03-15 · ♥ 683 · ⟲ 36 · 🔖 298 · Permalink · View on X

@nosilverv conversational equivalent of monkeys grooming each other, which performs an important social function of affirming relations

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-03-02 · ♥ 683 · ⟲ 17 · 🔖 72 · Permalink · View on X

“it’s a politically meaningful act to have a personal website”

Internet Culture 2022-09-19 · ♥ 682 · ⟲ 173 · 🔖 70 · Permalink · View on X

@MasterTimBlais Seems trivially/obviously true at the highest level of government, military, corporate. military is particularly interesting because loads of personnel have visible tattoos but as you rise up the ranks they get less visible

Sociocultural Commentary 2025-06-09 · ♥ 681 · ⟲ 1 · 🔖 32 · Permalink · View on X

funny how zuck comes across as more human and likeable in mandarin than in english https://t.co/MC5QS1Jgcl

Language & Linguistics 2021-03-30 · ♥ 681 · ⟲ 58 · 🔖 61 · Permalink · View on X

I was born for this https://t.co/bES69GzgOH

Observations & Humor 2024-01-31 · ♥ 680 · ⟲ 24 · 🔖 35 · Permalink · View on X

Random 2026-03-01 · ♥ 680 · ⟲ 72 · 🔖 83 · Permalink · View on X

the best phrase to teach a baby ime is “uh-oh!” infinitely entertaining

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-11-01 · ♥ 680 · ⟲ 15 · 🔖 44 · Permalink · View on X

this is gonna sound a bit harsh but the reality is harsh: imo most books go unread for the same reason most businesses fail and most marriages end in divorce: there’s a glut of unserious people who get into it without figuring out how to make it work https://t.co/skrLRSaJm7

Books & Literature 2024-03-31 · ♥ 680 · ⟲ 36 · 🔖 230 · Permalink · View on X

I was a “former gifted child” (in Singapore’s education system) and I am flourishing and enjoying life tremendously as an adult, AMA

Education & Learning 2023-08-29 · ♥ 679 · ⟲ 31 · 🔖 193 · Permalink · View on X

in my experience across a few domains, getting into top 1% of all players is fairly easy if you’re smart, strategic, persistent, etc. getting to the 1% of that 1% is way harder, harder than the first 1%

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-06-10 · ♥ 679 · ⟲ 39 · 🔖 239 · Permalink · View on X

❤️💪🏾🔥 https://t.co/ay8fBnQrH4

Random 2022-04-13 · ♥ 679 · ⟲ 1 · 🔖 2 · Permalink · View on X

sometimes when i dont feel like doing my chores i pretend im in a video game with imaginary prompts on my imaginary HUD/GUI like “press X to throw out the trash” and it actually works https://t.co/I9dnOj7iI3

Psychology & Emotions 2023-11-18 · ♥ 678 · ⟲ 44 · 🔖 158 · Permalink · View on X

magicians/illusionists who know how to break out of handcuffs and straitjackets etc will pretend to struggle, as an act of showmanship doesn’t feel like a huge stretch to say that other top-level showmen probably also know to do this in their respective domains

Art & Creativity 2025-02-26 · ♥ 677 · ⟲ 40 · 🔖 121 · Permalink · View on X

people allegedly get more stressed when you tell them there's a 50% chance they'll get a painful electric shock than if you tell them there's a 100% chance if true (seems legit to me), this also kinda neatly explains why some people preemptively assume the worst of others

Psychology & Emotions 2023-08-07 · ♥ 677 · ⟲ 49 · 🔖 93 · Permalink · View on X

woke up this morning thinking I’ve been spending literally decades of my life trying to deeply understand some really simple things. and a big part of why it’s taken so long might be that I’ve had to contend with the clutter, noise and fog of other people’s clunky bullshit

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-02-15 · ♥ 675 · ⟲ 58 · 🔖 274 · Permalink · View on X

meditation app that goes “it’s so over” every time you exhale and “we’re so back” every time you inhale

Observations & Humor 2023-01-04 · ♥ 675 · ⟲ 54 · 🔖 17 · Permalink · View on X

it’s my 31st birthday today 🥳 I am grateful to be here ❤️🙏🏾 my bday wish is that you take a sec to reach out to somebody who has helped you: a friend, a mentor, or even a podcaster or youtuber you enjoy. tell them you appreciate them + precisely how they’ve enriched yr life ✨

Friendship & Community 2021-06-05 · ♥ 675 · ⟲ 15 · 🔖 30 · Permalink · View on X

banger. sometimes people agonize about getting a tattoo when they might actually just need to try a few different hats https://t.co/MZXZO8yKy9

Fashion & Style 2024-02-06 · ♥ 673 · ⟲ 37 · 🔖 190 · Permalink · View on X

u can often learn a lot about how to solve a problem that you seem well-equipped to solve, by studying how someone who doesn’t have any of your advantages solves it. And it’s often a completely different frame, like “oh yea I simply slice the knot instead of trying to untangle” https://t.co/T5NuPjA2ND

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-11-09 · ♥ 673 · ⟲ 45 · 🔖 227 · Permalink · View on X

I spent about 5 years or so intensely trying to Improve Society with very little to show for it I then switched up to focus intensely on trying to Improve Myself and I ended up having much greater social impact downstream of that circle of influence > circle of concern

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-04-25 · ♥ 673 · ⟲ 52 · 🔖 108 · Permalink · View on X

one of the most fascinating things about diving into old journals and notes is discovering something that I once put a lot of effort into thinking about, that I cared about a lot at the time, that I seem to have subsequently forgotten about entirely

Life & Meaning 2024-01-28 · ♥ 672 · ⟲ 44 · 🔖 71 · Permalink · View on X

For educational purposes, this is a [chefs kiss] eg of terrible reply game first he takes one phrase (“completely normal”) and turns it into something else entirely (“no different”) then he frames HIS misreading as a failure of the person he’s replying to then soapboxes more https://t.co/AXvEM0pZtv

Internet Culture 2023-06-04 · ♥ 672 · ⟲ 28 · 🔖 81 · Permalink · View on X

i'm on a lil quest to read 1,000 substack essays and i'm about 15% through. a theory that's emerging for me is the idea that really good writing tends to be about more than one thing, but the majority of substack essays, like streaming-era movies, are about one thing at a time

Writing 2026-03-11 · ♥ 671 · ⟲ 23 · 🔖 159 · Permalink · View on X

Dyson just dropped the best product launch I’ve seen in years, go watch it it’s great. Just pure focus on creating a delightful best-ever-made product that required cutting edge technical innovation to do https://t.co/p9kmRfUCS5

Science & Technology 2025-05-23 · ♥ 671 · ⟲ 34 · 🔖 284 · Permalink · View on X

recently heard the funniest story about how someone's friend was raving to everyone about how his air filtration device was life-changing, 'sleep so much better bro!!', etc, only to find out months later that he hadn't removed the cover/wrapper(?) on the filter. pure placebo https://t.co/r4Sc8L47Ov

Observations & Humor 2023-06-11 · ♥ 671 · ⟲ 25 · 🔖 49 · Permalink · View on X

Wife made our son a beautiful plate of macaroni and avocado and cheese. He proceeded to gleefully pour a whole cup of water into it before joyfully performing what I can only describe as a crime against gastronomy

Observations & Humor 2025-02-13 · ♥ 670 · ⟲ 13 · 🔖 24 · Permalink · View on X

yet another reminder that we are so early; we are still collectively at very rudimentary levels of consciousness. and we know there are people who have been like, Olympic athletes at this. when it comes to attention/awareness management it’s like calculus hasn’t been invented yet

Psychology & Emotions 2024-09-14 · ♥ 670 · ⟲ 36 · 🔖 297 · Permalink · View on X

predictions of hyper-personalization in any domain tend to neglect how much most people navigate reality via "i'll have what she's having"

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-02-17 · ♥ 670 · ⟲ 54 · 🔖 102 · Permalink · View on X

🍂 https://t.co/LzFySttJgr https://t.co/REZy3HFyPY

Random 2023-10-07 · ♥ 670 · ⟲ 56 · 🔖 19 · Permalink · View on X

all my life i'd joke about things like this, but my secret desire was to visit NYC and really take in the city. when i finally got there, I loved it, enjoyed every moment, all the interactions etc... but! i did catch myself having a distinct moment of "man... i miss my computer" https://t.co/SzIIPA7tjo

Travel & Place 2024-04-15 · ♥ 669 · ⟲ 33 · 🔖 81 · Permalink · View on X

before we had our kid, my wife brought us to a fancy hairdesser (fancy to me, anyway) at our local shopping mall. i got to have someone else shampoo and massage my head, and in that moment i suddenly realized i've been shampooing my own head suboptimally all my life https://t.co/0TVc2Qs0W7

Health, Fitness & Body 2023-12-07 · ♥ 669 · ⟲ 11 · 🔖 71 · Permalink · View on X

the longer view you take, the more apparent it becomes that people who are seemingly competing with each other, are actually collaborators

Philosophy 2023-11-17 · ♥ 669 · ⟲ 46 · 🔖 106 · Permalink · View on X

basic recommendations i give everyone who asks me for help, that i've lately been having to face myself: - do an inventory of what you got– what's good, what's not good, what you wish existed, what you're unhappy/dissatisfied with - articulate where you want to go precisely

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-05-03 · ♥ 669 · ⟲ 63 · 🔖 473 · Permalink · View on X

Bertrand Russell and George Orwell both had riffs on this: if you're precise about what you mean, and choose your words carefully, you end up improving language just by speaking and writing. This happens because other thoughtful players validate your choices as good ones

Language & Linguistics 2022-04-17 · ♥ 668 · ⟲ 71 · 🔖 194 · Permalink · View on X

I’m always fascinated by how people partition and label time in their mjnds. For a lot of people, forever/always is 3-7 years

Psychology & Emotions 2024-08-06 · ♥ 667 · ⟲ 42 · 🔖 190 · Permalink · View on X

baby’s log, day 192 7:41PM: life is bliss. all I have known is joyous ecstasy. the laughter of angels is mine to indulge in. gaze upon my visage and delight! 7:43PM: despair is my only companion. all hope is forsaken. these people know naught of my woe, despite my lamentation

Observations & Humor 2024-04-29 · ♥ 666 · ⟲ 54 · 🔖 71 · Permalink · View on X

a picture series of my kid https://t.co/wGqtL6IxKi

Romance, Parenting & Family 2025-03-21 · ♥ 664 · ⟲ 3 · 🔖 25 · Permalink · View on X

here is a bit of my summary of @pmarca's 2007 blogpost about James Austin's 4 kinds of luck, from his 1978 book Chase, Chance and Creativity 1. blind luck 2. add variability through tinkering 3. add discernment 3. add unique frame of reference https://t.co/VC2iCbu8kk

Philosophy 2020-04-24 · ♥ 664 · ⟲ 125 · 🔖 651 · Permalink · View on X

I’ve spent a lot of time in confusion about what people mean when they say they want to change the world. it turns out that a lot of such people want the status associated with being a world-changer, hoping that status will bring a sense of love and acceptance and belonging https://t.co/O4OFBR3GRs

Psychology & Emotions 2024-04-22 · ♥ 662 · ⟲ 68 · 🔖 220 · Permalink · View on X

marvelling at how precisely Timothy Gallwey's Inner Game of Tennis (🎾) and Kenny Werner's Effortless Mastery (🎹) say *exactly* the same things about judgement, ego, self-talk, instruction, etc and their impact on performance

Books & Literature 2023-10-03 · ♥ 662 · ⟲ 38 · 🔖 843 · Permalink · View on X

you can’t moralize away a load-bearing coping mechanism

Psychology & Emotions 2022-03-21 · ♥ 662 · ⟲ 154 · 🔖 221 · Permalink · View on X

this is sadly/amusingly true, or potentially true, for pretty much any forum

Internet Culture 2024-12-21 · ♥ 660 · ⟲ 15 · 🔖 51 · Permalink · View on X

ive been online long enough to notice that the most intense reply guys tend to burn out and go dark in ~3 years. this has happened to me often enough that i interpret overly intense bids for connection to be indicators that the connections won’t last (even when i reciprocate!)

Internet Culture 2024-05-28 · ♥ 660 · ⟲ 15 · 🔖 156 · Permalink · View on X

we dishonor great men and women by turning them into deities rather than embodying our own inner greatness

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-12-23 · ♥ 660 · ⟲ 105 · 🔖 126 · Permalink · View on X

its a very tragic case of semantic drift where an adjective meant to describe a subset of a thing, came to mean, for a lot of people, that the whole thing is as such. like we know green apples dont imply the non-existence of red apples, but in this domain it gets all murky https://t.co/cGrxiry0wY

Language & Linguistics 2023-11-21 · ♥ 660 · ⟲ 43 · 🔖 90 · Permalink · View on X

[friendly subtweet] I'm rooting for you to one day embody the solution to the problems you've gotten so good at describing over and over again

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2022-07-02 · ♥ 660 · ⟲ 59 · 🔖 50 · Permalink · View on X

this tweet for me is personally worth like a million dollars. It might be worth nothing to you but it healed me deeply in ways I didn’t realize I needed healing. it permanently removed something like a psychological bad ankle or shoulder that I had accepted as immutable https://t.co/U6PLqBK81z

Psychology & Emotions 2023-11-23 · ♥ 658 · ⟲ 13 · 🔖 191 · Permalink · View on X

hangin’ out at my local airport for no reason https://t.co/6HMHYlk1o5

Observations & Humor 2022-04-16 · ♥ 658 · ⟲ 36 · 🔖 23 · Permalink · View on X

it sounds so fake and gay but i've *actually* had a hater who, it turns out, pretty much basically wants to be me and is mad at me that i'm me and he isn't

Psychology & Emotions 2024-04-24 · ♥ 657 · ⟲ 17 · 🔖 101 · Permalink · View on X

losers rarely get scrutinized, so you never hear much about how arrogant they often are

Sociocultural Commentary 2023-05-11 · ♥ 657 · ⟲ 57 · 🔖 86 · Permalink · View on X

in my experience talking with loads of people over the years, usually with guys like this it's because they felt unheard as boys/teens and they're basically stuck there. which inhibits them from being properly initiated into manhood https://t.co/Ag3rv31izs

Psychology & Emotions 2024-03-01 · ♥ 656 · ⟲ 41 · 🔖 322 · Permalink · View on X

people always talk about Lee Kuan Yew but his whole squad was S-tier. Lim Kim San was tortured during ww2, became a millionaire making sago pearls, volunteered to be HDB chairman without pay, built tonnes of housing, had 6 kids, was Minister for Finance, Defence, Education... https://t.co/I9oTmYNtca

History 2026-05-14 · ♥ 654 · ⟲ 68 · 🔖 136 · Permalink · View on X

hearing about the problem of double texting is always funny to me because if I take the 20 or so of closest relationships I have, practically all of them were initiated by one of us writing ~a goddamn essay for the other https://t.co/AYNjsO6Oxm

Friendship & Community 2023-10-16 · ♥ 654 · ⟲ 43 · 🔖 93 · Permalink · View on X

11 years today 💐 we have a son now 🥲 (2018 was 6th not 5th) https://t.co/za8kAM7WD1

Romance, Parenting & Family 2023-12-10 · ♥ 653 · ⟲ 12 · 🔖 35 · Permalink · View on X

haters do the best marketing https://t.co/F5R2ooKBtb

Marketing & Branding 2022-01-03 · ♥ 652 · ⟲ 90 · 🔖 144 · Permalink · View on X

I think about these two pictures from @joulee a lot – very succinct and powerful way of describing how professional creatives have a more structured process, and how that isn't necessarily limiting – you actually get to try more things this way https://t.co/XUA8zUZBMb

Art & Creativity 2018-05-21 · ♥ 652 · ⟲ 141 · 🔖 343 · Permalink · View on X

Random 2024-09-24 · ♥ 651 · ⟲ 2 · 🔖 11 · Permalink · View on X

i hate to admit this but i dont really love tweeting the way i used to. sometimes i write out a good tweet and just delete it anyway because i just dont feel like it anymore. i'd mostly rather be writing essays i think

Internet Culture 2024-07-23 · ♥ 651 · ⟲ 7 · 🔖 42 · Permalink · View on X

been procrastinating for years on an essay exploring how lady gaga chose to be weird as a positioning strategy in order to get the attention (for her hard-won talent) that would make her a star. she knew she couldn't get to where she is by playing it straight https://t.co/vver9z2q5m

Marketing & Branding 2018-09-29 · ♥ 650 · ⟲ 91 · 🔖 171 · Permalink · View on X

the best analogy for social media + smartphones is a magical/cursed artifact, like the Palantir in LotR, or the witch’s mirror in Snow White. It allows you to directly dunk yourself into the collective consciousness. This is not something one should do without training https://t.co/w5oDxeNNgT

Internet Culture 2023-12-07 · ♥ 649 · ⟲ 81 · 🔖 151 · Permalink · View on X

similar energy: https://t.co/928EkkMQ06 https://t.co/bfORv3TD57

Internet Culture 2022-07-31 · ♥ 649 · ⟲ 35 · 🔖 77 · Permalink · View on X

“You know, it’s very natural for us today to glance casually at history and assume that human progress must’ve happened in a somewhat linear pace. Slow and steady, right? But that’s not really true at all. Progress in fact has always happened in tremendous leaps, in startlingly small clusters of space, in very narrow flickers of time, at the hands of mere handfuls of people. The marvellous riches that we take for granted as our birthright were so hard-fought, so fragile. Scientists, innovators, creators, explorers- we owe them everything, and yet we thwart them at every step! There have always been too few of them to begin with! Their spirits crushed, their bowls emptied, their work mocked! We are the beneficiaries of fortune we cannot even begin to fathom, and we do so little with it…”

Philosophy 2025-11-17 · ♥ 648 · ⟲ 51 · 🔖 166 · Permalink · View on X

the most important skill i wish most of my peers would learn is to value their own time and energy enough to... focus it on what they want to see more of

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-04-06 · ♥ 647 · ⟲ 79 · 🔖 154 · Permalink · View on X

sometimes when you have 2 beliefs that seem contradictory, it’s not that one belief is correct and one is wrong, but rather they’re each context-dependent, and you haven’t quite precisely figured out what the respective contexts are

Philosophy 2020-06-03 · ♥ 646 · ⟲ 124 · 🔖 74 · Permalink · View on X

what did I even mean by this

Observations & Humor 2025-05-12 · ♥ 645 · ⟲ 7 · 🔖 25 · Permalink · View on X

it’s my 33rd birthday! finishing up a third of a century. wew. just getting started. if any of my writing or videos etc has ever helped you with anything, I would love love love to hear about it!! 🤓🙏🏾

Life & Meaning 2023-06-05 · ♥ 645 · ⟲ 5 · 🔖 19 · Permalink · View on X

Jamie Foxx does some of the best impressions ever, might make a thread https://t.co/Y9qDLkarKK

Pop Culture & Entertainment 2024-03-04 · ♥ 644 · ⟲ 44 · 🔖 181 · Permalink · View on X

a girl from a neighbouring school called me hot in my testimonials on Friendster in 2005 and it gave me hope and courage for years to come and I still think about it and probably will for the rest of my life https://t.co/YfJJIOE50T

Psychology & Emotions 2023-09-28 · ♥ 644 · ⟲ 19 · 🔖 32 · Permalink · View on X

corollary: you can receive a lot more help once you know how to make precise, specific asks. crossing this threshold is a tremendous night/day transition https://t.co/2WVLxXy8fB

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2024-06-03 · ♥ 643 · ⟲ 68 · 🔖 207 · Permalink · View on X

incompetent marketing has a bad reputation. effective marketing is functionally invisible and it actually benefits from incompetent marketing’s bad reputation https://t.co/niea5WfUjf

Marketing & Branding 2023-08-24 · ♥ 643 · ⟲ 41 · 🔖 69 · Permalink · View on X

🥲 https://t.co/TA6eP5H31M

Random 2026-03-03 · ♥ 642 · ⟲ 32 · 🔖 108 · Permalink · View on X

in the twilight of their lives, people who were bitter rivals often to come to see each other fondly as the only peers who truly understand them. i often wish that knowledge of this general pattern could allow rivals to skip the bitterness from the start, but alas, 'tis rare

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-01-23 · ♥ 641 · ⟲ 51 · 🔖 131 · Permalink · View on X

III. Witnessing lil baby *beginning to understand* things, reacting to things, following his eyes, there's something very profound about it that's hard to articulate. it's like a minor form of beholding the dawn of creation. I get to witness a world being created from scratch https://t.co/eCzPiQNHMG

Romance, Parenting & Family 2023-11-01 · ♥ 641 · ⟲ 25 · 🔖 60 · Permalink · View on X

Just occurred to me that this was a classic exchange between a VC and a shitposter 2,300 years ago https://t.co/WFaJOR1oix

History 2020-05-26 · ♥ 641 · ⟲ 86 · 🔖 54 · Permalink · View on X

people often want to socialize by commiserating over their bad experiences more than they want to do the alienating work of seeking good experiences instead

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-10-13 · ♥ 640 · ⟲ 62 · 🔖 115 · Permalink · View on X

it's been 20 years since my wife and i started dating hope we get to keep dating for at least 60 more years

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-05-15 · ♥ 640 · ⟲ 12 · 🔖 39 · Permalink · View on X

more intuitive when you ask why people with attachment issues develop outsized charisma

Psychology & Emotions 2024-05-02 · ♥ 640 · ⟲ 23 · 🔖 81 · Permalink · View on X

I can’t stop watching this https://t.co/Br9yikaV5x

Observations & Humor 2023-10-06 · ♥ 640 · ⟲ 58 · 🔖 89 · Permalink · View on X

I don’t mean to hurt your feelings but some of yall are not very good at thinking

Sociocultural Commentary 2022-10-04 · ♥ 640 · ⟲ 90 · 🔖 95 · Permalink · View on X

i have a barbell approach to life that’s roughly like this 1. figure out how to avoid losing, avoid dying, avoid catastrophic failure, unforced etfors, etc. this doesnt really take up more than like 20% of my time/energy 2. with the security of (1), glorymaxx to the heavens

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-09-19 · ♥ 638 · ⟲ 41 · 🔖 259 · Permalink · View on X

one of marilyn manson's hardest lines was not in a song, but in a rolling stones article he wrote after columbine: "The day that Cain bashed his brother Abel's brains in, the only motivation he needed was his own human disposition to violence." https://t.co/jb7vsOkCM8

Pop Culture & Entertainment 2023-07-01 · ♥ 638 · ⟲ 57 · 🔖 43 · Permalink · View on X

The courage to be disliked, Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. Heard good things, let’s dig in https://t.co/yriXyV6LMn

Books & Literature 2018-09-06 · ♥ 638 · ⟲ 180 · 🔖 751 · Permalink · View on X

you can go one step further and even create the 10x agency alt of yourself as a separate twitter account

Internet Culture 2025-01-08 · ♥ 637 · ⟲ 22 · 🔖 227 · Permalink · View on X

all the others are “moonier” there are some straight lines on this and the splotches feel “flat” https://t.co/Y8fqH1rB9X

Science & Technology 2024-03-10 · ♥ 637 · ⟲ 2 · 🔖 3 · Permalink · View on X

My recommendation to myself right now is: sit around and daydream, in great detail, about the specifics of the life you’d like to be living

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2023-06-21 · ♥ 637 · ⟲ 50 · 🔖 188 · Permalink · View on X

a gift of constraint my son has given me: i no longer pretend like i'm going to write beautiful, elaborate, ornate masterpiece-tier essays anytime in the next 2 years. realistically it was always going to be about 10 years off, but now i can stop pretending, which is a relief

Art & Creativity 2023-10-24 · ♥ 636 · ⟲ 10 · 🔖 58 · Permalink · View on X

Taleb said there are 3 addictions- heroin, carbohydrates and monthly paychecks I’d like to propose a 4th: moral superiority

Sociocultural Commentary 2021-03-31 · ♥ 636 · ⟲ 52 · 🔖 57 · Permalink · View on X

everything seems to cost twice as much as I remember but I’m sure not making twice as much as I used to

Business & Markets 2026-02-03 · ♥ 635 · ⟲ 13 · 🔖 34 · Permalink · View on X

fun thing about having a kid is witnessing how much of everything we do that we take for granted– put food in our mouths, for eg– is actually a complex set of motor skills that we once had to learn tediously, manually, failingly... before we can then perform them unconsciously https://t.co/BBxMDoO3ai

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-09-14 · ♥ 634 · ⟲ 43 · 🔖 72 · Permalink · View on X

hard times https://t.co/vX9r5XMlDN

Life & Meaning 2024-07-22 · ♥ 634 · ⟲ 27 · 🔖 32 · Permalink · View on X

Dear @netflix, can we have a show with @terrycrews and @TheRock lifting heavy-ass weights then discussing heavy-ass feelings? RT if you would watch this https://t.co/kQWvVxit9Q

Film & TV 2019-01-08 · ♥ 633 · ⟲ 266 · 🔖 3 · Permalink · View on X

i think this is an interesting linguistic innovation, and i don't think "chat" is the same as "yall" or "you guys" or "folks", etc. chat is less abt particular individuals and more about a communal stream of thought. "what do you think" and "wdyt, chat" pull diff responses https://t.co/g0tlLRjp8C

Language & Linguistics 2023-12-18 · ♥ 631 · ⟲ 58 · 🔖 107 · Permalink · View on X

Ive noticed this happen multiple times in multiple contexts - someone recently said “smart ambitious nerd” in a tweet disparaging my work - and I don’t think it’s an accident. there’s broadly two camps: ppl who can’t conceive of friendly nerds, and people who refuse to

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-12-11 · ♥ 630 · ⟲ 21 · 🔖 101 · Permalink · View on X

Most men with ambition have no taste and most men with taste have no ambition

Sociocultural Commentary 2021-04-19 · ♥ 630 · ⟲ 56 · 🔖 99 · Permalink · View on X

I think one of the strongest pitches for parenthood I could give my younger self is that it opens up the world tremendously. you can basically approach anyone when you have a kid, and you get to observe other parents and kids so closely. nobody explicitly told me this!

Romance, Parenting & Family 2025-04-13 · ♥ 628 · ⟲ 14 · 🔖 104 · Permalink · View on X

exclusive invites to any hot new app that everyone ends up not even using within a year

Internet Culture 2024-03-16 · ♥ 628 · ⟲ 9 · 🔖 12 · Permalink · View on X

both of them could be celebrity-tier top 1% attractive with like a year's supported effort https://t.co/Jzeeim8HuY

Sociocultural Commentary 2023-05-07 · ♥ 628 · ⟲ 5 · 🔖 73 · Permalink · View on X

successful writers typically encourage me to increase positive variance (~follow your bliss) unsuccessful writers typically encourage me to decrease negative variance (your post is too long, you should edit more, etc)

Writing 2024-12-06 · ♥ 625 · ⟲ 36 · 🔖 182 · Permalink · View on X

whenever I complete a menial task I say “job done!” like a Warcraft 3 peon and it’s very satisfying actually

Games 2023-10-19 · ♥ 624 · ⟲ 33 · 🔖 27 · Permalink · View on X

I want to do a thread of video snippets that have moved me deeply over the years This bit from Neil Tyson was at the heart of my motivation to stay alive ~2013 – the idea of expanding human consciousness via space travel https://t.co/B5cc3GWp1M

Science & Technology 2019-01-12 · ♥ 623 · ⟲ 139 · 🔖 482 · Permalink · View on X

2yo burst into the toilet while I was pooping to urgently ask, “daddy, do you know all the planets?”. he then recited them all in perfect order

Romance, Parenting & Family 2026-02-11 · ♥ 622 · ⟲ 4 · 🔖 13 · Permalink · View on X

Whenever I watch this I always think that the first follower is just as important as the leader

Sociocultural Commentary 2021-02-26 · ♥ 622 · ⟲ 49 · 🔖 13 · Permalink · View on X

children are attuned to this and point it out all the time, and we discourage them from doing this because it's impolite. one of the first rules of civilized society is to pretend people's bodies aren't leaking / make an effort not to leak yourself

Sociocultural Commentary 2026-02-03 · ♥ 621 · ⟲ 17 · 🔖 72 · Permalink · View on X

i'm fascinated by how many people in the replies and QTs are either unwilling or unable to contend with the idea that office dressing norms were different 25 years ago https://t.co/mmmJfqsj8O

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-09-21 · ♥ 621 · ⟲ 21 · 🔖 76 · Permalink · View on X

babies have no idea that their subscription to Titty+ will one day expire and cannot be renewed

Observations & Humor 2024-03-22 · ♥ 621 · ⟲ 42 · 🔖 54 · Permalink · View on X

“parking lot with no lines” is a fantastic analogy

Language & Linguistics 2026-03-02 · ♥ 620 · 🔖 294 · Permalink · View on X

i think a lot about how Arnold is an actual living deity with temples and devotees all around the world https://t.co/sYTeF6mZ8H

Pop Culture & Entertainment 2026-04-01 · ♥ 619 · ⟲ 25 · 🔖 32 · Permalink · View on X

actually it’s always been strange to me what people do w their time, and I’d v much like sth like an audit of several months worth of >100 people’s actual time spent. people always tell me things like “idk how you do so much X” while I’m always feeling like a lazy bum personally https://t.co/onBJK0CJaR

Work & Ambition 2024-09-17 · ♥ 619 · ⟲ 9 · 🔖 146 · Permalink · View on X

In 1982, Samantha Smith, a 10 year old American girl from Maine, wrote a letter to the new leader of the USSR, Yuri Andropov, asking him why he wanted to conquer the world, and could we please have peace instead https://t.co/tBN4ZB9QDR

History 2021-07-01 · ♥ 619 · ⟲ 170 · 🔖 57 · Permalink · View on X

americans have a declaration that says “we hold these truth to be self-evident: that all men are created equal”. they dont always live up to that ideal, obviously. but a lot of the rest of the world doesnt even pretend to consider that premise valid in the first place https://t.co/YjinvfyswJ

Politics, Culture & Identity 2023-11-16 · ♥ 617 · ⟲ 53 · 🔖 45 · Permalink · View on X

in my experience, an important step to reduce one’s fear of looking stupid is to decide resolutely to never mock anybody else for the same. I think I made this decision when I was about 25 and it took a few years to work through me before the tension melted from my body

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2021-11-03 · ♥ 616 · ⟲ 68 · 🔖 87 · Permalink · View on X

imagine everybody in your life telling you can’t do something… and then you do it while this is glorious, it also means you will never fully be able to trust anyone again

Philosophy 2022-12-01 · ♥ 615 · ⟲ 55 · 🔖 76 · Permalink · View on X

you can take an extra deep slow breath at any time. it’s completely legal

Personal Growth & Self-Improvement 2025-03-30 · ♥ 614 · ⟲ 61 · 🔖 43 · Permalink · View on X

fwiw i think there's a version of this in every single industry. like you wanna do real journalism so you join news media? scale the fucking pageviews. you wanna do real science so you join academia? scale the fucking... citations? (idk what they do i'm not an academic)

Sociocultural Commentary 2024-10-04 · ♥ 614 · ⟲ 27 · 🔖 103 · Permalink · View on X

TIL Mark Twain's parents were fans of Benjamin Franklin's rise-and-grind hustler memes, and it pissed him off for ruining his childhood https://t.co/97bVzBjiot

History 2024-05-05 · ♥ 614 · ⟲ 43 · 🔖 303 · Permalink · View on X

I think it’s less stressful to be very deviant than moderately deviant. 3sd is a better life than 2sd

Sociocultural Commentary 2023-11-19 · ♥ 614 · ⟲ 30 · 🔖 113 · Permalink · View on X

growing up I never understood why more good people don’t do more good things. I think I get it now. I think the biggest bottleneck is heartbreak. You have to deal with the emotional devastation of being attacked by your own ppl for being the only visible person doing not-enough

Psychology & Emotions 2022-08-28 · ♥ 614 · ⟲ 42 · 🔖 85 · Permalink · View on X

the “dumbest person in the room” framing, like “settling in a relationship” framing, is a kind of scarcity mindset. I’ve been in rooms where everyone was more intelligent, well-read etc than me, but it didn’t mean that I wasn’t able to be a useful/valuable member of the party https://t.co/sY5kxbUrvK

Philosophy 2023-09-09 · ♥ 613 · ⟲ 34 · 🔖 76 · Permalink · View on X

i vow to always be someone my friends can brag to, share their wins with, introspect extensively in the presence of. it inspires me to see yall flourish and succeed and triumph and u never need to dim your light in my presence

Friendship & Community 2023-09-03 · ♥ 613 · ⟲ 104 · 🔖 65 · Permalink · View on X

the most heartbreaking kind of fight i see from time to time is between two people who are actually completely in agreement but they're both mad at each other for the language they use because of their respective starting conditions

Sociocultural Commentary 2023-06-22 · ♥ 613 · ⟲ 39 · 🔖 57 · Permalink · View on X

son taught me a lesson in impermanence today by spilling water all over the notes I spent all night working on

Life & Meaning 2025-02-22 · ♥ 612 · ⟲ 14 · 🔖 21 · Permalink · View on X

I think the idea that "narcissists are in love with themselves" is a a misleading, inaccurate concept I think narcissists are obsessed with enforcing validation of a static image of themselves. this is a fearful state of mind that leaves little to no room for actual love at all

Psychology & Emotions 2022-01-18 · ♥ 612 · ⟲ 68 · 🔖 107 · Permalink · View on X

after a long break, i find that the topic that i'm most interested in lately is self-deception. how do people lie to themselves? who or what within the self does the arrangement benefit? how? why? eager to hear any thoughts, references, stories, etc, anything that comes to mind

Psychology & Emotions 2026-01-07 · ♥ 611 · ⟲ 30 · 🔖 156 · Permalink · View on X

I read all 51 replies and not a single person pointed out what is the obvious mistake to me, which is focusing on what you want to see less of https://t.co/rTZruLWDod

Psychology & Emotions 2023-06-04 · ♥ 610 · ⟲ 25 · 🔖 266 · Permalink · View on X

you cannot rationalize your way out of worry. the mind is a worry machine. there's no such thing as a reason to not worry. that line of inquiry only leads to more worries. worry ends when the heart ignites, says I am here to fucking live gloriously in this moment come whatever

Psychology & Emotions 2022-12-07 · ♥ 610 · ⟲ 65 · 🔖 104 · Permalink · View on X

Random 2020-11-27 · ♥ 610 · ⟲ 2 · 🔖 3 · Permalink · View on X

I don’t think I’ve heard anybody say this before – one of the signs that someone is “marriage material” imo is that they’ve been the custodian of a personal pet project for 10+ years yes it’s not a perfect sign, not everyone who has one will be, and not everyone who is has one

Romance, Parenting & Family 2024-04-01 · ♥ 609 · ⟲ 14 · 🔖 204 · Permalink · View on X

the sales equivalent of this is that the best salesmen often talk the least; they get the customer to do most of the talking, and the customer ends up selling to themselves. rhymes with the leadership quote about leaders being ~invisible. Zander: conductor doesn’t make a sound https://t.co/Sxs079yUck

Work & Ambition 2024-01-15 · ♥ 609 · ⟲ 48 · 🔖 209 · Permalink · View on X

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