actually lemme walk yall thru how i've worked through my own versions of these feelings, ie a realtime rerun of past introspection.
A: "I am a failure"
B: "what makes me say that?"
A: "i am not achieving the results I am supposed to be achieving"
B: "ok, two paths here. (1) where do these expectations come from, and are they reasonable? (2), can we get better results? do we know how? what are the next steps?"
A: 1. "family, friends, society... i don't know if they're reasonable, but it's not like i can realistically get away from them anytime soon..." 2. "probably, i'm not very sure, idk, work smarter I guess..."
B: 1. "when did you last have a conversation with specific individuals about the expectations you're dealing with?" 2. "what does working smarter look like? how are you currently allocating your time and energy? what specific outcomes do you want to make progress towards?"
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